Husband and I can’t decide on second girls name - high anxiety!

[GeorgieGrace33]

Hi all,

I am past my due date and waiting for my second daughter to arrive safely. Husband and I still can’t agree on baby name for her and it’s making me really anxious as it’s at the forefront of my mind…

I like two names and am finding that none of his suggestions feel right in comparison… I’ve been spending HOURS looking over and over name lists and I keep spotting my two names and just desperately wanting one of them. I know we must both agree but I’m irrationally annoyed he won’t concede on either - pregnancy hormones, much?!

Our firstborn is Chloe Amelia Grace…

My two names are FREYA & OLIVIA

He wants PHOEBE, AMY, IMOGEN, FRANCESCA or SOPHIE.

*Please share your opinions, other ideas and help me rationalise to get to a final choice ASAP!

Few points to note:

1. I’m a project manager for work and the indecision and lack of ‘task completion’ on this is causing me anxiety - probs delaying the birth! But being told to relax about it is easier said than done (hence posting as final help here)
2. We lost a baby girl (Grace) at 22 weeks before having Chloe so my birth anxiety has always been raised in the final few weeks of pregnancy due to wanting to get our children here safely - probs adding to name whirlwind/wanting one less thing outstanding to think about before birth.
3. Middle names pre-decided for this girl as OH Gma died at Xmas so having XX Marianne XX (probably Rose as needs to be soft sounding after Marianne).. potential to negotiate one of my names as second middle name? Not sure I can renege on that yet(!)
4. OH hates floral names and place names (so no Lily/Poppy/Sienna/Paris etc)

Freya is pretty. Maybe you will know when you see her :)

I think Chloe & Phoebe go really well together , or Chloe & Sophie ❤️

Chloe and Sophia?

Chloe and Emily ?

Chloe and Fiash (fee-a)

Chloe and Caitlin,Charlie,Cassie,Carrie,Clara
(thinking of a c name to match chloe)

Love Freya and Olivia. Your husbands choices sound slightly outdated and like my register when I was at school (I'm 30!)

Sending best wishes OP!

I like Freya or Sophie.

But my absolute favourite name at the minute it Bea / Beatrice or Beatrix. Bea Marianne is quite nice! Sounds natural related but not floral xxx

There's a good chance you'll know which name suits her best when you meet her.
I like both your names but Olivia is very popular. From your DH's list I like Imogen, Amy and Francesca - I love Frankie as a nickname.

The middle names Marianne Rose go together beautifully. Of your list, I like Freya and on your DH list, Imogen. Imogen Marianne Rose is both pretty and elegant. Two Imogens among our aquaintances; one shortens to Immie, the other to Imo. Could Genny also be a possibility?

I would steer clear of Olivia/Liv. It's a lovely name but we know at least a dozen among friends of my adult and teen DC. In every classroom, sports team and list they have to be distinguished by initial. Might not be as many in your DC's cohort but her name might always conjure up an image of someone 20 years older than she is.

Freya and Imogen!

Sorry that should say Fiadh

like Chloe & Amy , (prefer the Aimee spelling though)

Chloe & Imogen is nice too- Chloe & Immi/Immy

My favourites are Freya and Sophie .

so no help either as 1 from each list.

coins you not use both of those as the first and 3rd name?

I like Frances and I think it works well with Marianne Rose.

All your others except Francesca are too popular for my taste. Frances isn’t popular, is still well known (trust me on that being a plus) and it always sounds feminine to me.

I love Freya and Phoebe. Probably Freya slightly more.

He is getting the middle name so fair that you get the first.

I’m sorry for your loss of little Grace and completely understand the anxiety.

Sorry you lost Grace, understand the anxiety. I think they all go lovely with Chloe. Olivia is a lovely name.

All of your name ideas (you and DH) are beautiful and will serve your lovely little girl well in life. My personal favourites are Freya, Phoebe and Imogen, but you honestly can’t go wrong with any of these 💕

Olivia and Freya are far far too overdone to me. Rose is every girl’s middle name.

I like Francesca, don’t hear it much.

I would choose Freya - I think it flows nicely with Chloe (Olivia has too many syllables). Good luck for the safe arrival of your baby!

Some suggestions.

Maisie
Naomi
Darcy
Lucy
Millie
Jessica

You may find when you meet her the right name appears, one that you’d previously discarded or one you hadn’t even thought of.

My favourite is Amy Marianne. And I would probably include Grace as a third name to keep the link. Chloe and Amy sound good.

What about Scarlett or Eleanor? Similar enough style to Chloe but a different sound which is helpful when referring to them.

I love Francesca! It’s not heavily used but very classic.

I also really like Sophie, though Chloe and Sophie or Chloe and Amy or Chloe and Phoebe sound a bit heavy on the ie/y sound at the end when used together I think.

I’m not a fan of Imogen or Amy. Amy always sounds whiny to me : Aaaaaiiimeeee

I think of these names Francesca and Olivia work best.

Chloe Amelia Grace and sister ..

Freya Marianne Yourname.
Phoebe Marianne Yourname

I would stick to the F sound and if your husband's surname is being given to your children, I would hope that the first name be your choice. His grandmother is Marianne too.
Other ideas..

Felicity Marianne
Fiadh Marianne

Do you like Daphne?
I really like Phoebe too, and Freya from your list.
Or would you consider Rose as a first name? Rose Marianne Olivia is nice.
I also thought Libby, Lydia or Ivy as similar sounding to Olivia/Liv

One of my favourite shortlists on here ever! Not much help - but other than Amy and Olivia they were all on my girls" list. Marianne was also my preferred middle name.

I vote Freya Marianne Phoebe or Freya Marianne Sophie.