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What are your thoughts on naming DS the same name as DH ?

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FoghornLeghorn · 02/05/2008 15:05

That's about it really !

What are your opinions on DS's having the same name as their fathers ?

Contemplating it with DC3, always said no straight away previously (fortunately we had girls) but am finding myself actually consdering it should this one be a boy

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sweetkitty · 09/05/2008 21:56

I know and like your boys name FL

ElizabethBeresfordSW19 · 09/05/2008 21:58

I think it's a bad idea. Unless it's a name like Alexander where one was Alex and the other was Xander or Sasha.

Two members of my family have similar names, not Gus and Grace, but about that similar. It was still confusing at times "Gus! telephone!" and the other one would come running.

Quattrocento · 09/05/2008 22:00

I think it is insane too

FWIW I do actually know someone who did this

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FoghornLeghorn · 09/05/2008 22:00

Aww thanks SK

FIL's family are Irish and they have Patrick James as the family name, first born son on Patrick James is named Patrick James etc .... One is Patrick and the other is Pat or Paddy

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Bky · 09/05/2008 22:01

I really hate the idea, my DP is beyond desperate to name a boy the same name as him and during my two pregnancies we have had very heated debates about it...luckily we have two girls.

I just hate the thought that my son would be in the shadow of someone else, not have his own name just for him, to always be 'little .....' or '.....junior'.

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FoghornLeghorn · 09/05/2008 22:02

Oh and for those who asked Blu et al ..... there is no way on this earth I would give DD my name whether it be first or middle name. Just wouldn't enter my head !

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yummymummy4 · 10/05/2008 00:31

I know a Rob and baby Robert, it is fine so long as you dont mix up the names. There was some confusion recently when another friend told his wife about the baby being sick on holiday but got the names mixed up, the wife thought the whole story was disgusting until she realised the mix up....

Also know a Robert and little Bobby,but then fathers names being used is quite common in our area.

I think its nice to give a child its own name but our children all have family names as middle names

lilolilmanchester · 10/05/2008 00:47

Nothing against it in principle other than it's really confusing. DS has DH's name as a middle name. Would have liked it as first name if it wasn't DH's, but glad I didn't give either of them the extra excuse for not hearing me ("sorry, thought you were shouting for/at DH/DS, not me").

AtheneNoctua · 10/05/2008 00:47

I don't like it. I can't understand why boys are named after their fathers but girls can have any old name. Seems rather sexist. My brother is named after my dad. It was my mother's idea, and she now regrets it (but that may be largely because they are divorced).

Wisknit · 10/05/2008 08:49

In my family the forst son gets called John. My mum broke with tradition and gave my brother a middle name!!!!!!!

Can cause confusion but only of an amusing kind. It doesn't help that my mum's uncle is john (there was another one by marriage), as is my husbands uncle.
Our boys have the same middle names as my brothers and g'dad's family but are named after their paternal g'dad and G g'dad (it elped that I like the names).

DH wanted to call our first by his name but I don't like his name so said NO! meany that I am.

S'pose it depends how much you like the name.

amitymama · 10/05/2008 08:59

I don't like it.

shreksmissus · 10/05/2008 09:12

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Martha200 · 10/05/2008 09:49

windygalestoday - your story made me laugh. My son has the same name and always felt it was up to him to decide as he gets older if he wants it shortened, he will always be Nicholas to me though

Anyway back to the question, am not so keen, to me it lacks imagination too.. middle name maybe but not first.

chefswife · 10/05/2008 10:08

Ahundredtimes? I think what you meant is megalomaniacal but I don?t understand how having your fathers or mothers name means you have the enjoyment of power over other people and a craving for more of it or delusions of it. And how is it American? I just did my family tree and since 1838, every firstborn boy has been named Henry. They are all from Britain.

I don?t feel it lacks imagination. It?s nice to pay tribute to someone, but you have to like the name for it to work. We won?t be naming our first (potential) son after DH because we are naming him after my father and his? Henry Michael. If we have a second a boy, it?ll be Samuel Albert? after DH and his stepdad. If it?s a girl, Violet May? after my great-grandmother and the month we found out we were pregnant? DH?s idea. (surprise emoticon) And if there is another girl I would name her after a version of my name because it is nice and DH and I both l love it.

However, if I didn?t like the names to begin with, I would have issues using it as a first name.

lizandlulu · 10/05/2008 10:18

i have not read all the thread but just wanted to add my response.
i would have named a son after dh, it was always what i would have done, and wouldd not thought of doing any other. anyway i had a dd!
around here it is tradition to call sons after fathers and no one bats an eyelid.

Ceolas · 10/05/2008 10:30

Wouldn't do it myself. I know two different families with a boy and girl named after the father and mother. Strikes me as a bit unimaginative...

However, DS (only grandson) has a name that has been used by DH's family for generations. MIL broke the trend with DH though!

jellybelly2007 · 10/05/2008 12:47

I have 2 brothers who both named their eldest sons after themselves, it was a nightmare at family gatherings. Totally unoriginal. I named DS1 1st name after my late father, middle name after DHs dad (still with us thankfully) but me, DH, DS 1 and 2 all have same middle initial. If I havw any more (doubtful) we will give that child same middle initial too.

orangehead · 10/05/2008 12:51

no, life has too much confusion why add to it?

Scotia · 10/05/2008 13:09

For whoever it was that asked if a woman would name a girl after themselves, my mum did. Unimaginative maybe, but I like my name and don't know any other Eleanors in rl. It was also my great-grandmother's and great-great-grandmother's name, and I quite like knowing that it's come down the generations. One of my dds has it as a middle name too. My brother had one of my dad's middle names as his first name.

I wouldn't have a problem calling a ds after my dh, because I like his name, but he didn't want it. I certainly wouldn't write a name off just because it was already 'taken' by a dh.

brrrrmmmm · 10/05/2008 15:00

Also, what if you have the baby and it just looks like it 'should' be called by a name that is already taken in the family?

I can't pick names for kids before they're born, I think they're born and they look like a name! If the name was already taken in the family, I don't know what I'd do; use a version of it or something maybe.

lizandlulu · 10/05/2008 15:18

to be honest, even if my dh was called ivor, or derek i would still call them after the father, then use a nickname.

edam · 10/05/2008 15:27

windy, I like your ds's style!

Personally I wouldn't use a dh's name for a son, too unimaginative/egotistical/confusing.

cupcakesinthesnow · 10/05/2008 22:38

The nurse who took blood from me a few years ago when I was pregnant and we were discussing names, told me that she didn;t have to worry about any such fuss and nonsense with names when she was pregnant. She was called Frances and her dh was called Francis and they both loved the name Francis/Frances so whatever sex she had the baby (a dd in the end) got to be named after her parents!

I don't know what she would have done had she ever had a second child.

spottyshoes · 10/05/2008 22:49

LOLOLOLOL Blu - My DH is a Dave!!!!

He gave my SS it as a middle and wanted to give our DS1 it as a middle too! HE says he feels it's his way of living on through his children.

I put my foot down though as I feel quite strongly that DC's should be individual. I would NEVER call a DD after myself!!!

Scotia · 10/05/2008 23:56

Lol! I've never felt that I wasn't an 'individual' just because I have the same name as my mum.

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