What are your thoughts on naming DS the same name as DH ?

[FoghornLeghorn]

That's about it really !

What are your opinions on DS's having the same name as their fathers ?

Contemplating it with DC3, always said no straight away previously (fortunately we had girls) but am finding myself actually consdering it should this one be a boy

Nowt to do with DH being egotistical - it was my choice, although obviously he agreed with me.

Bad idea. too confusing eg at GP s etc

I don't like it, usually they get called big or little on top, like 'big' simon and 'little simon.' Don't like it at all. Middle name Ok though.

Don't do it, you ask any of them to do something, and both pretend you are talking to the other one. Hugely frustrating!

snort at anyone having to be called 'wee wee john'

But to OP: would you call a dd after you?

I think it would cause unnecessary practical problems.

If you do it, you have to use a different name - middle name or nickname - for everyday life anyway. So what's the point, if you are considering it only because you like the name?

A mother and daughter with the same name live next door to me. I wouldn't do it - or even use the same initial twice - because I wouldn't want anyone opening the wrong post.

Wouldn't have done it myself -

when I had dd1 I was vehemently against naming people after anyone - felt it was like wishing something of that person on to them, IYSWIM, which is superstitious nonsense of course!

2 years later I had mellowed a bit, ds has my Dad's and dh's grandfather's names as middle names, but his first name is all his own.

With dd2, we chose several months before that she would have names from our Grandmothers if she was a girl. Then, 2 weeks before she was born, dh's Grandma died, and it seemed even more appropriate.

But somehow, naming after a parent, even if it is just becasue you love the name, seems egotistical even if it totally isn't.

both my ds have the same middle name which is my dh's first name - i was the one to want to name them that way - thought it would be nice - don't know if i would have given my name as middle name to girls if we had any but that's because i don't particularly like my name and it doesn't fit with any other name that i like either - anyway i would give them the name you like best

btw my ds1 is very proud to have his father's name as his middle name and likes the fact that ds2 (still too young to have his own opinion) also has the same middle name - no confusion however since first names are all very different

Too Many Daves - by Dr Seuss:
"Did I ever tell you that Mrs. McCave
Had twenty-three sons, and she named them all Dave?
Well, she did. And that wasn't a smart thing to do.
You see, when she wants one, and calls out "Yoo-Hoo!
Come into the house, Dave!" she doesn't get one.
All twenty-three Daves of hers come on the run!

This makes things quite difficult at the McCaves'
As you can imagine, with so many Daves.
And often she wishes that, when they were born,
She had named one of them Bodkin Van Horn.
And one of them Hoos-Foos. And one of them Snimm.
And one of them Hot-Shot. And one Sunny Jim.
And one of them Shadrack. And one of them Blinkey.
And one of them Stuffy. And one of them Stinkey.
Another one Putt-Putt. Another one Moon Face.
Another one Marvin O'Gravel Balloon Face.
And one of them Ziggy. And one Soggy Muff.
One Buffalo Bill. And one Biffalo Buff.
And one of them Sneepy. And one Weepy Weed.
And one Paris Garters. And one Harris Tweed.
And one of them Sir Michael Carmichael Zutt.
And one of them Oliver Boliver Butt.
And one of them Zanzibar Buck-Buck McFate . . . .
But she didn't do it. And now it's too late."

I'm not too fond of it to be honest. Especially as it can set up a precedent in the family. Do you remember an AIBU thread where the MNer had been pressured into calling her DS the name that had been passed down her DH's family, and then really regretted it?

We do do middle names after family members, but the first name is unique (within the family). After all, as my Dad pointed out, the whole point of a first name is to distinguish you from everyone else in the family!

sixspot, don't be I thought it was funnt!

I used to live next door to Big Neil, and Little Neil.

I wouldn't do it.

You think that's bad. I know a Big Willy and a Little Willy

No one ever refers to DH and DS2 and big and little anything.

The children however do sometimes get referred to as the big bang, middle bang and little bang.

That's just bragging miaou.

LOL, the funniest thing was, Little Willy was about 5'0" and Big Willy was ... smaller

I don't like the idea tbh; don't see the point of it when so many lovely names are available to choose from.

I LOVE that Dave poem; dd1 could recite it by heart when she was 4 - strange child!

My dh has the same name (including first and middle names) as his father and grandfather. In fact, after he did some genealogy research into his family, he was rather tickled to discover that he was 5th in a direct line all having exactly the same name and that skipping a generation back took him to another. He is known by the Gaelic version of the name, while his father and grandfather were each known by common, but different, diminutives of the same name.

That said, when we were choosing names for our bump (who turned out to be our dd), we decided to use his first name - and use still another popular diminutive - but not the same middle name.

I have a friend whose 2nd ds (first with her 2nd dh) has the same first name as his dad but within a month of his birth, they started calling him by his middle name because of the confusion it caused - but then they had a name without the vast fund of available diminutives that my dh's name comes with.

My dp is called Lee and so far we have 3 dd's but if dc4 (due october) turns out to be another girl i want to call her Darcy-Leigh after him. If its a boy we really like Finley so obviously cant have lee as a middle name.

I love DH's name but would never name a child after him. It's just one name I couldn't use. IMO, it's naff to name a child after his/her parent.

I would however, use DH's name as a middle name.

I really don't like it sorry foghorn

In our family my aunt is married to Big Dave (for eg) his Dad was called Old Dave and their son is called Wee Dave, Wee Dave is always going to be Wee Dave even though he is now a 6 foot plus 40 year old man. Luckily Wee Dave has only had girls or we could have had Wee Wee Dave.

If DD3 had been a DS he would have had DP's name as a middle name though I think thats quite nice.

Thanks everyone for your responses

I agree with the practical side of things and confusion with post etc. I literally just said NO simple as, the previous times but thought I would give it due consideration this time.

DH's name is Thomas which I think is a nice name but still very popular, theres quite likely to be 2 other Thomas' in the same class.

Plus .... I love the name we have chosen other than DH's