Husband sadly doesn't love my fav boy name

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I recently heard of baby name Albert I fallen in love with it I like old traditional names, unfortunately husband really doesn't seem to love it like I do which makes me sad I was discussing with my DM earlier and she loves it too but she has said to me that I can't use it if my DH doesn't like it as much as me.

Has anyone had this and do you get over this feeling even with a compromise name instead. I wonder see the name Albert I'm going to feel sad.

I have an uncle Albert aged 72 and he's lovely. What about Walter? That's old fashioned too and I reckon it's due a come back. is you DH one of those who likes surnames for boys like Brandon, Harrison, etc? Or worse a shortened/nickname like Charlie or Jack? If so, could you leave him?

My youngest is Albert nn Bertie. He gets complimented on his name a lot, people seem to really like it.

If it helps at all, I know many so small Alberts, Berties, Albies and even a half Italian Alberto! When you realise there are 2 in his class at nursery you might feel relief for choosing another name rather than sadness. Hopefully anyway!

No you can't use it if the babies dad doesn't like it. You have to both compromise and find a name you both like.

Having said that he's done you a huge favour as baby Albert's are blooming everywhere and I suspect you'll be glad he didn't like it once your child is born and and every third child is an Albert, Albie or Bertie.

When the baby emerges, you and DH will know if he is an Albert or not. I wouldn't stress until you meet him.

He actually loves Arthur but there seems to be a lot at my son's nursery so I was abit hesitant

Was just going to suggest Arthur!

DH hated both my top names, but I wasn't too attached to them so I lived with it. Turns out they wouldn't have suited either of our kids anyway!

Archibald? Archie is cute

I much prefer Arthur to Albert. Albert has some cute nn but as a full name I find it still a bit too old fashioned, Walter is the same IMO.

If you can, try and use it as an opportunity to find something you both love. If he likes Arthur and you like Albert, start with traditional names beginning with A! Then names of a similar style. Make a list together and talk it through. You'll both find one you agree on eventually, or one that grows on you, especially if it's a nice thing you work on together.

I agree with PP btw that Albert is very popular. Arthur too!

Jeez these names are awful! Albert is an old bloke with a white beard and a pipe!
Arthur is the bald bloke he drinks with in yhe pub

George is a nice solid old fashioned name.

That's life I'm afraid, you just have to accept it and push it to the back of your mind. That name isn't meant to be.

Arthur is much nicer imo, bert is such a harsh sound. If you both really like Arthur that could be a lovely compromise.

Sadly they both passed away twenty years ago at a ripe old age - and their grandchildren and great grandchildren are re-discovering their names!

All the 'old' Arthurs and Alberts are long gone, they would have died in the 1980s and 90s (like a PP said). All of the Arthurs and Alberts I know are under 20.

Arthur phenomenally popular round here, Albert actually fairly rare. I've taught zillions of Arthurs and three Alberts (and my Albert, who's a Bertie).

My husband hated my first choice but I thought he would let me use it once the baby arrived but he didn't. With the hormones after birth etc I was devastated & spent days sobbing about it. We eventually went with a name we both agreed on & honestly I couldn't imagine my son with any other name now. My advice would be to accept in plenty of time that you won't be using the name & find some other names you both agree in.

What about Ernest, nn Ernie?

Alfred?

I love the ‘old man’ names, probably because I have met a lot of lovely old men through work 😂

Also very fond of Stanley, Sidney and Ernest.

And he drove the fastest milk cart in the west

its a shame when that happens but unfortunately that’s just how it goes with making a child! If it helps, I vetoed Freddie and my husband vetoed Lachlan, both of which we respectively LOVED, but the name our son has is beyond perfect and we’re both so glad we didn’t go for the names we initially loved.
Generally speaking, I don’t think it’s a good idea to discuss names with anyone other than the other parent. Two sets of opinions are hard enough to match up without other people chiming in!

Does he like Bert/Bertie or Albie? Maybe you could have Albert but call him a shortened version?

Both of these names are extremely popular right now.

Doesn't make them good names!

That's your opinion and given the OP clearly likes them if say your opinion was unnecessary wouldn't you?