Husband sadly doesn't love my fav boy name

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I recently heard of baby name Albert I fallen in love with it I like old traditional names, unfortunately husband really doesn't seem to love it like I do which makes me sad I was discussing with my DM earlier and she loves it too but she has said to me that I can't use it if my DH doesn't like it as much as me.

Has anyone had this and do you get over this feeling even with a compromise name instead. I wonder see the name Albert I'm going to feel sad.

Aloysius?

It’s the Baby Names section, the whole point is to give an opinion on the names!

How about Alfred? Little Alfie. Or Athelstan, or Athelbert, if we are going for Saxon names.

Yes but the OP isn't asking for opinions on the names, shes not asking if others like them or not she's asking an entirely different question and not one that requires the response that they are not good names.

@Bigearringsbigsmile - what makes a good name then?

The old man name trend has gone on so long most of the old men who had those names have died and there’s a wave of teenagers with them. “Albert” won’t stand out as an out of generation named child. Anymore than Daisy or Maisie would (both “granny” names when I was growing up)

OP - does your DH hate Albert or is it just not his favourite? Where does he stand on nicknames like Albie or Bertie?

Other old man names starting with A - Ambrose, Archibald, Andrew, Alistair, Adam.

I got final say with our DC's name. Obviously I wouldn't have chosen something he hated, but when you can't find a name you both love, something has to give. I carried the baby for 9 months, it was his surname (our married name) so I got final say for first name.

We have an Albert (and an Arthur) and some of the other names on our list were
Edward
Charles
Daniel
William
George
Fergus
I think you both have to agree, even if it’s just a top 5 you are both happy with and you can decide when you meet him

Albi?

I absolutely loved Nicholas nn Nico. DH did not like it one bit. We have two DS so I had two chances but both times he just couldn't get used to it.
It was important to me that DH also loved our boys' names (or at least didn't dislike it) as they are his children too. We have two " compromise" names and even though I still love the name Nicholas / Nico, I can't imagine my children being anything else now than the names we've called them :)

Not Albert, so ..

Herbert
Augustus - Gus
Albright
Angus

Aubrey?
Adrian
August
Geoffrey
James

Albert immediately reminds of Prince Albert and then the Prince Albert piercing. Just to show you that different people have different associations with a name. Your DH might have a negative association so it would be unfair to try to make him accept it .

My NCT group had 6 couples. We are now onto second babies. 2 of those couples have had 2 boys called: Arthur and Albert. If you both like Arthur, go for it. Albert is roughly as popular as Arthur as far as I have seen.

Arthur and Albert are very popular. I also know a couple of Walters.

It means a good few people think they are perfectly good names.

You don't have to use a name like Arthur or Albert for your own child if they're not to your taste.

But oher people have tastes that are not the same as yours. Quite a lot of people, actually.

Could you consider similar Alfred instead? Albert makes me think of Prince Albert (and the piercing!) sadly. Whereas when I hear Alfred I automatically think of (King) Alfred the Great, similar to Alexander the Great or William the Conqueror etc.

If you want a Bert name because you want the cute “Bertie” nn then classic Robert is much nicer than Albert imo. Robert could probably be any age but Albert is trendy so tends only to be on the very young ( or very old!) imo.

I honestly don't mean this nastily but for me if he doesn't like it then you can't choose it. End of.

By all means feel sad about it for a few days. But then put it aside and move on. Both parents need to like the name.

I know it's different as they aren't my children, but what I would say is that I have friends and family who have chosen names that I really don't like, but as the children grow into proper little people they become synonymous with the name and it becomes irrelevant because that's them and you love them (if that makes sense). Sorry that doesn't mean he has to choose Albert though!

Alexander
Robert
Laurence
Aaron

Nonsense.
I work in the NHS and meet lots of Albert's in their 80s and 90s.

Bernard? Bernie for short.

How about Alfred

Does he hate it or does he just not love it?
Use it if you really love it. You are the one giving birth.
My 3rd child we used a name I loved but my husband wasn't too keen on.
Now he admits it was the right choice as she really suits the name.

Arthur used to be shortened to Art, which is nice I think.

If he doesn’t like the -but sound you get in most English pronunciation how about pronouncing it Alberh, French style!

What about Frank or Wilbur?

They are 2 of my favourites which I think sit nicely amongst the popular boys names right now ❤️

I’ve had this over and over with my husband, we have very different taste in names and he has vetoed a lot of my favourites!

I do advise just to keep trying - another name will come along that you love. If you find one you both like let it live in your head for a while and see if you come round to loving it as much as you do Albert. It’s hard to let go of one you love but once your baby is here and named, you’ll think their name is perfect for them.