Opinions on this name?

[User85468]

Remy Rupert Thomas - thoughts on this name?

I’m thinking he will probably get Remy Roo a lot as a baby/child but I think calling him Remy Rue on the birth certificate wouldn’t age well, so Rupert works for when he’s grown up.

Just as a side note, I know a lot of people say middle names don’t get used - for some reason in our family we are referred to by our first and middle names quite often (even as adults!)

Thank you for the suggestions! I love Tobias but my husband doesn’t, we did both agree on Toby but don’t like that with Thomas.

Completely agree about not telling in laws/other family members until baby is here! We didn’t tell anyone with our first because we knew her name wouldn’t go down well with everyone.

I’ve only really turned to the internet for opinions this time round because we’re really struggling to find anything we both love unfortunately.

I think the name is fine! Remy was in the top 200 boy names in 2022 and I wouldn't be surprised if it's crept into the top 100 by now, or heading that way, so I can't imagine he'd be teased. I'm not particularly fond of Rupert but it's fine, and how often are middle names really used anyway?

Remy is a fine name , as is Jonah. I am quite old and have never heard Remy /Rem as a derogatory term .I don't like the addition of a middle name for the sake of a nickname particularly. You can call him Remy Roo if you want to without the contrivance of Rupert.

So if you don’t like Thomas I’m assuming your dh insists on that.
So I would chose a name you like.
Your dh can’t have it both ways.
BTW are you married?
Will the child have your surname?

I don’t think Toby Thomas sounds any worse that Remy Rupert if that helps.

@Toastiecroissant , as I read it, in the OP, she mentions that he'll be likely to get called Remy Roo/Rue (as a nickname) and that as Remy Rue might not age well, she's considering Remy Rupert ... for the birth certificate.

I don't think there is anything wrong with my comprehension, or with most of the other posters'.

If OP had said she was going to call her baby Tobias and that his childhood nn was likely to be Toby, I suspect that most of us who have replied would think that he'd probably be Toby a lot of the time.

@User85468 , I found the I’m assuming pps reading comprehension is poor?
and I took it to refer to several posters, in which case maybe it was @Toastiecroissant who had poor comprehension. Four fingers pointing back and all that.

@User85468 has started several threads and is not finding the names universally liked on MN.

You want a cool name you like. Pick one you and the baby's father like.

If your family or circle tends to use the middle name Remy Roo will stick even if he is Remy Ru- on the BC. If you like it go with it. All sorts of names are used these days.

I love Rupert, but another one who had "rem" or "remtard" used as a derogatory term at school 🙁

I like Remy and Rupert but they don't go together.

I’m really not getting all the Remy hate at all, I think it’s a nice name. I don’t think you need to choose a middle name to get the sound “roo” though. Remy Thomas is fine and then you can just call him “Remy roo” as much as you like as a cute nickname. Eg my dog I’m always calling Margot Moo even though Moo is not in her name! It’s just a fine sing song way to say her name.

Remy the rat from Ratatouille? Also why Thomas if you hate the name?

I only know one baby boy called remy and honestly my first thought was 'but isn't that a girls name?!' I don't like it personally, ok for a girl but why add potential complication / confusion into your son's life when there are so many other names out there?

Remy is a male name, not a female one. It's the short form of 'Remigius' which means 'oarsman'. https://www.behindthename.com/name/re10my
If it matters, St Remy is particularly associated with France: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saint_Remigius

It's fine - short and simple.

I like Rupert too - it has a long and distinguished history. https://www.behindthename.com/name/rupert

OF COURSE you are not going to call him by his nickname when he is older. (Unlike my dear deceased grandmother, who in her old age, insisted on calling my big tall father 'cuddles'. He survived. Actually, we all rather liked it. )

I love the names Rupert and Thomas and know more Ruperts than Thomases at the moment. I agree with pp that they sound more ‘right’ as Thomas Rupert. I also like two middle names!

Remy is not my bag but there are loads of names I wouldn’t choose that are perfectly fine. It feels unfinished and I would, until recently, assumed a girl.

I like both names they are lovely

Sounds like a brand of spirit to me

Remy Rue is trying too hard. It sounds, at best, like an overly laboured cute pet name, and at worst, like a drag name.

I know a working class Rupert who was bullied for it so mercilessly at both school and then work (at a fast food place) that he officially changed his name to Steven. Of course in the right circles this wouldn’t happen!

I like Remy! Never heard it as an insult - maybe it's a generational or regional thing (I'm late 30s and went to school in the SW)?

I really really dislike Rupert. To me it's kind of 'wet' and a bit try-hard - I feel the same about Quentin/ Tarquin/ Julian/ Crispin etc (sorry to all mothers of any of these!). I'm also not sure I'd have three two syllable names as to my ears it doesn't flow well, but that's probably just me!

For a similar vibe but (IMO) nicer, how about:
Sebastian
Nathaniel
Benjamin
Frederick
Gabriel
Matthias
Elijah
Augustus
Raphael

Jesus do people on MN not give their kids nicknames?????

I think Remy Roo is such a cute nickname, everyone has their family nickname surely? He can then have Remy for when he gets to that age where he’s too cool for a nickname

Love Remy Rupert Thomas, though I personally would spell it Remi instead

It’s a family tradition that means a lot to my husband

I've only ever met two females with the name Remy.

If he won't budge then you get to choose the first name. It's only fair that you get to choose a name too, even if he isn't keen on it.

Dislike Remy but Rupert is lovely

Honestly there is a LOT of husband here… I’m guessing his surname is being used?

His surname, his middle name that ‘means a lot to him’ - Remy is one of his choices ‘that you could compromise on’ - ok that’s the point where it’s a case of FUCK THAT.

The first name choice needs to be yours. Full stop. Ok yes you both need to be ok with the first name but I’m hesitating even saying that as it sounds to me as if he’s already vetoed names YOU love and it’s only ones HE loves like Remy that seem to get to the finish line…

He has the surname, he has Thomas?

You get the first name. The end.

The best way is saw this done was as follows. (Same situ, husband had surname and family middle) :

-you choose your five, seven, ten favourite names (however you want to work it)

-he chooses his three favourites out of those.

-you choose the final from those three.

So he does get some input and it’s not a name he hates, which is important. But it’s YOUR choice

I love Jonah, Bobby and Sonny!

Remy is a rats name so.. no