Opinions on this name?

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Remy Rupert Thomas - thoughts on this name?

I’m thinking he will probably get Remy Roo a lot as a baby/child but I think calling him Remy Rue on the birth certificate wouldn’t age well, so Rupert works for when he’s grown up.

Just as a side note, I know a lot of people say middle names don’t get used - for some reason in our family we are referred to by our first and middle names quite often (even as adults!)

Remy isn’t a nice name.

I quite like Rupert as a middle name, but the alliteration is a bit silly.

I much prefer Jonah Thomas and Bobby Thomas to Remy Rupert Thomas!

I know a girl called Remy, so to me it is female.
Maybe Jeremy?
You mentioned Bobby. How about Robert Thomas officially but call him Bobby?
Robin could also be shortened to Bobby.

I like Rupert, but I know three and they’re all pretty cool.

Also like Thomas - Tom is a fab name, manages to be ubiquitous but somehow still lovely.

Not so sure about Remy. Agree on Rem being a derogatory term but that’s probably not a thing now? ( I hope!) It’s just not that nice a sound.

You could definitely find a less common name to go with Thomas and another middle that is better than this combo. Like Reuben as the other middle, also how about Rufus?

Rufus Jago Thomas
Rufus Yann Thomas
Yann Reuben Thomas
Jago Reuben Thomas

Well, going against the flow, I like Remy and would consider it a boys name.

Would also be interested in the age of those saying it was used as a derogatory term at school, as I'm in my 40's and never heard of it used like that. We considered Norah for one of our DC and my uncle was adamant that everyone would call her Norah Batty, but that's a reference that wouldn't occur to children of that age, son would never have been an issue with their peers. Would guess the same would apply to Remy.

I also don't mind Rupert, not my taste but not offensive or that unusual at the moment. Remy-Roo is a bit cutesy but I've heard far far worse!

I think Rupert and Thomas are similar classic timeless names whereas Remy is very different style, may not age well. No idea what you refer to with Remy Rue or Remy Roo - how likely is this? As long as not Remy Martin!

Remigius could go with Rupert better as both quite old names. Remy a modern take.

Remington? Remus?
Milo is a lot more sophisticated than Remy in my opinion.

Remy will not suit an adult. Rupert will.

I'd go with Thomas Remy Rupert personally. To me Remy is a girls name that I don't really like. You can't go wrong with Thomas though.

Same era! It was definitely used as a short form of remedial. That’s what some class groups were actually called in that era! (Late 80s?)

I don’t think it would be a concern now at all.

Remy definitely a boy’s name tho.

Bloody hell, you're getting some stick here, OP. It's undeserved. MN can be a harsh place sometimes!
I think Remy Rupert is fine. Might not be everyone's choice, but it's fine. If you end up calling him Thomas because a load of women you've never met tell you not to give him the name you love, will you live to regret it?
I've never heard the rem for remedial thing (London, South West). I know a Ru late 20s) and he's super cool.

All the Remys I know are female. I think your tastes seem to run to slightly cutesy, infantilising names which, as you say yourself about ‘Remy Roo’, won’t suit an adult. It seems a bit mad to give a child a name while acknowledging it won’t suit an adult, and give them a middle name they can switch to later if needed — why not give them a name also usable for an adult?

Really surprising responses. Rémy is incredibly popular now. I doubt your child will be the only one in the year, and certainly not in the school, so I don’t think the old slur will be an issue.
Rémy roo is fine for a baby, I can’t see pps issue, unless you’re still calling him that at 16 in front of his mates.
I personally don’t love Rupert but it’s fine, I wouldn’t think anything of it if someone told me their child’s name was Rupert

Remy personally isn’t my style (it’s also reminds me of Rennies indigestion tablets, sorry). I love Rupert. They are both give similar vibes (I know a few cool hipster types who have a Remy and Ruperts) but I just don’t think they flow well together and the repeated R sound is a bit jarring to me. Thomas is a nice enough name, a bit boring but inoffensive. I’d personally go for Rupert Thomas, which has a nice flow and suits a child from baby to an old man and all that is in between.

Are you set on this name or are there other options you are thinking about?

I like each of the names but I don’t think Remy Rupert Thomas flows nicely. I think Remy Thomas Rupert sounds better but don’t personally like two middle names.

I was at school in the 80s & 90s and have never heard remi/remy as a derogatory term. I worked with a Remy in the 00s. He was absolutely lovely, so always think fondly of the name.

I’m assuming pps reading comprehension is poor? You’re literally not naming him Rémy roo so everyone’s issue with that doesn’t make sense to me
you’re naming him Rémy Rupert
loads of people have cutesy names for their baby’s and toddlers?

I don’t like Remy and definitely don’t like Rupert. If you insist on Remy Rue though could you not use Reuben instead?

@Toastiecroissant , your comment would be better directed at yourself.
he will probably get Remy Roo a lot as a baby/child

But they don’t generally choose a name with the cutesy toddler nickname in mind!

I like Remy, it's no overly used, and Remy Roo is fine for a toddler. My girls have loads of silly nicknames, I obviously don't use them in front of their friends but they answer to them at home😂 go with what you like, not what random strangers think

Im going to struggle to reply to everyone so I’ll try and cover everything in this - thank you for all the feedback!

We’re definitely not set on this name, and I don’t insist on Remy Roo/Rue as a nn. It was just another name in the many we’ve looked at! Just to make it clear I do not plan to call my child Remy Roo in the long run, it was simply mentioned as a nickname for a toddler/small child. I was stating in to OP that I wouldn’t call my child that on the birth certificate as it obviously doesn’t age well, but I’m not sure that has come across clearly…

I find it interesting that so many see it as a feminine name, but then again I have only ever known males called Remy so that probably sways my opinion.

A few have mentioned Rueben, and I do like the name but unfortunately it’s not one we could use.

To those who have mentioned Thomas and the two middle names - Thomas is a non negotiable middle spot. Unfortunately I don’t particularly like the name as I have said previously, I just find it boring (sorry to any Thomas fans). I would definitely not consider it as a first name. The compromise for using Thomas as a middle was potentially using two middle names, which gave me a bit more freedom when looking at names. I had found that Thomas alone as a middle name with a lot of the names we’d talked about just made the whole name sound boring imo.

The point was that Remy Rupert would have been suitable for an adult, and I would not legally call them Remy Roo as that clearly isn’t okay for an adult.

As a nickname.

No need for a rude response to the PP. They are correct, loads of toddlers have “cute” nicknames and there’s nothing wrong with that. I have acknowledged the fact that would not be a suitable nickname for an adult (or even an older child), I was just simply stating that whilst they are young they would probably be referred to as that. I have made it quite clear I don’t plan to legally call them Remy Roo.

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I quite like Remy Rupert (or Remy Rufus, or Remy Rudolf, if you like them). Nothing wrong with adding Thomas since it has family significance. I've generally found that in cases of 2+ middles usually only the first one gets used regularly. (I think the comment about Remy Roo/Rue on the birth certificate confused people because of course you wouldn't do that; why would you?)

I've never heard the term Rem/Remy for remedial so didn't consider that factor. Remy/Remi has for some reason become somewhat popular for girls in the USA recently - perhaps because the much longer history as a traditionally masculine name in French-speaking countries is less familiar there?

I'm not enthusiastic about either Bobby (unless short for Robert) or Sonny as a first name. Sonny in particular feels derivative; I've normally only ever seen it as a nickname for boys who have the same name as their dad, to avoid confusion. I like Jonah.

If you're open to other first name options, how about -

Barnaby/Barney
Eli
Emery
Finlay
Henry
Jeremy
Rodney
Rory/Ruairi
Toby (Tobias)

Finally, if your PILs are picky (or even if not) my best advice is: don't tell them the names you're considering, or the name you've picked, until the baby's born. It's a lot harder for them to be rude about or object to their new grandchild's official name than to nitpick possible name choices. And ultimately it's up to you and the baby's other parent what he's called, no one else.

I guess it would be because I cant comprehend what you mean.

the quoted comment you’ve included means he will be given Rémy roo as a nn. Not that Rémy roo is his name. That was literally my point.

I’m not sure what point you’re making?