Naming a genderless Miscarriaged baby

[Laura199214]

Hi sorry this is heavy.
I was pregnant with twins nearly 3 years ago.
I lost baby B early into the pregnancy.
We don't know the gender.
I can't get passed it and I feel like I need to name the baby I lost.
My husband said he doesn't want just any name. It needs to mean something. But also be unisex.
I've tried Google but I just can't find anything.
I have already suggested :
Baby B
Baby Wood (last name)
Baby dot
Sydney
Phoenix
But my husband don't think these names are personal enough.
The child we have has a very sentimental, meaningful name and he things the twin deserves the same. Which I agree. I'm just finding it hard when we didn't know the gender, so to try and find a name that means just as much for us is hard.
Can anyone help.
I've looked into "wings" names, thinking I could find a name that represents wings but none of them stood out to us.
Sorry if this post is very to the point, and seems very unemotional. I just find it easier to talk about this way.

Hi OP - sorry for your loss

I don’t have any particular names to suggest but I think this is a step that will help you heal

Maybe think about what you’d like the name to mean and take it from there?

Ala, means "wing" in Spanish, and is used in various countries as a male or female name.

River? I don't know but in my head that word is associated with the idea of eternity, so it could represent them always being part of you. I think it could suit a girl or a boy beautifully.

I'm sorry you are still feeling pain about this, I hope giving your lovely baby a name helps you heal. You will find something perfect.

Sorry for your loss.
Do any saints resonate with you?
I had a hard time conceiving and said a prayer to a particular saint when I was at a church of theirs in another country and found out I was pregnant shortly after, so my child has that saint as their middle name. Many names can be unisex even if not meant to be. For example James for a girl.

Could you use an adjective. Eg. Lovely. Or a noun that reflects their size when you lost them? When I was expecting dd1 I called her Peanut in the early stages.

After my first miscarriage I dreamed I went up heaven and wanted to meet my baby but I couldn't call them to come to md as they had no name.

My 2 lost babies - sex unknown - are called Sammy and Zeb, in my head and in my heart. I don't think it matters that no one else knows their names as long as I do.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I wonder if a nature name might work? Many seem to be used for both boys and girls - and they have lovely meaning inherently from being linked to nature. There might be something that is particularly meaningful for you, but some of my favourite more ‘gender-neutral’ (I know that can be a controversial term) nature names are:

Aspen
Beck
Blair
Dove
Ellery
Fen
Indigo
Juniper
Linden
Nima
Oakley
Ren
River
Robin
Rowan
Sage
Sky
Snow
Sorrel
Sunny
Wren

I'm sorry for your loss. What about Eden? It's unisex and could conjure up a lovely mental image of your baby in a beautiful garden.
I think Angel could be unisex too.

Gabriel

Skye could be male or female.

Sorry for your loss ❤️

I am so sorry for your loss

I lost a baby at about 8 weeks. Both my partner and I had imagined that she was a girl (as we had imagined our future together with a baby girl) so we named her Flo, which is the name she would have had if she had lived. I have no idea if the baby I was carrying was a boy or girl, but it doesn't feel wrong to have assumed her sex. I think it helped us to grieve the loss of the future that we thought we would have, which was having a baby girl together.

Edited to add I'm so sorry for your loss.

If you take all of your initials, ie dh, your and DC...do they spell anything that sounds right?

I was going to say use a bird name, like Robin. But actually saw pp's suggestion of Skye upthread. Skye's exact meaning is not known for definite but it's likely to be from 'sgiath' which is Gaelic for wing. So 'the winged isle' in reference to the shape. So Skye could work for the wings connection too.

Rowan, Skye or Eden would be perfect

Alis? That is Latin for wings.

Lovely unisex name with a lovely meaning ❤️
so sorry for your loss OP xx

Skye is what I was thinking too

So sorry to hear you have been through that.

I love the name Shiloh; it’s gender neutral and it means tranquil, or I saw elsewhere “the peaceful one” which I think is a very fitting name 🤍

I also like Skye

the welsh name Deryn from the word Aderyn means bird and although mainly used for girls could also be unisex I think. Apparently, in Welsh and Celtic mythology, birds often symbolize the flight of spirits to the other side

on the bird theme- robin/Robyn?

So sorry for your loss. I love Phoenix. Unisex name ideas…

river
robin
rowan
marlow
remy
oakley
teddy
kit
ray
quinn
eden
pip
bobbi
sunny
sky

or is there a meaningful surname-name? Place name? Nature name even if unusual?

Robin would be my choice.

A lovely name, also with traditional associations with grief.

Sky. I've heard boys and girls with the name.

Sometimes you can't see the sky from the woods, but you know it's up there above you.. that's the thought your loss and surname brought me anyway.

Jem?

Sorry for your loss @Laura199214 . If none of the previous suggestions seem right, I think you need to think back to how you chose your DC’s name. Why is that sentimental? (You don’t need to answer here). Is there another name you might have used but was too popular/unusual, and if so would that work?

Love the ideas of Angel, Skye, Robin or Eden