Double barrel names

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Hi, my sister in law who shares the same last name, has announced that her and my brother in law are going to use our sons name as their child’s name, there is 6 years between the two kids and they don’t live near us. Example we have a James and they are going to call their son James John , am I being unreasonable to be annoyed? My husband is fine with it.

You can’t stop them feel compliments that they must like the name and him too!

Nobody owns a name la la la. You know the drill. Also, it's not that rare to have multiple children with the same name in extended families. YABU.

I'd just try to get on board with it. There is no point in being annoyed really. Id try to think of it as a positive for your son.

Is it a family name?

No not a family name, i know with the age difference the two kids likely won’t be at school at the same time etc so I suppose I should just stop annoying myself and let it be.

You’re not being unreasonable being annoyed - I would be too!

Frustratingly there’s not much you can do about it, but don’t feel like your over reacting.

Where is the double barrel? And what do you mean she shares the same last name? As your husband? Do you have your husbands name?

Oh you mean his whole first name will be James-John? That's fine they'll end up being called JJ

for Example my son is called James and they are calling their new born James-John

yes I have my husbands last name. So same last name too.

You have no copyright and that is a fact

Tell them how you feel and I bet they would not speak to you again, I would not.

I understand all three have husbands name and she sees every full name with middle as being double barrelled.

I don't think you're unreasonable, but it's common name, you don't really own name and you can do nothing about it.

That's not what double-barrelled name means.

Double barrelled is two surnames joined together. Not first names.

e.g. Sophie Ellis-Bextor
Ian Duncan-Smith

I would move on.
You can’t stop them so no point stressing about it.

Meh, not worth being annoyed about

You mean hyphenated

I would be annoyed, I think it’s bad form on their part. Plenty of other names out there.

Meh. So what, just accept it as a compliment that you've good taste.

Obviously they can call their child what ever they like but if I were you parents I would be thinking what the fuck. Of all the names in the world your poor parents will now have two grandkids called James.

Yes I understand it’s quite common to happen. The grandparents aren’t in the picture so no issue there.

I don't get all these people who are fine with it. Cousins with same name is just weird. Find a different name there are millions, this one is taken

You can't stop them. You can offer your opinion, if you are brave enough, without expectations.

Otherwise, your son is so much better off not having the hyphen.
Your poor nephew; having a hyphenated name.
Did they add the hyphen and second name just to differentuate the two boys?

Yes. Think so.

My husband did mention that it would be weird, however they did say his wife has had this name for a son for 15 years and they aren’t going past it but will use two names so family can tell who’s who.

I'd be absolutely fuming tbh because I purposely gave my DC a name outside the top 100 in order to reduce the likelihood of them sharing a first name with friends / relatives, let alone a surname too! I'd say something but I'm gobby 🤣

No they don't, they have a James and a James-John

Like Anne and Anne-Marie.