Surname predicament

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I have a child with xh who has a double barrel surename, expecting no2 with new partner and i don't know what to do. Our surnames both begin with L , it doesn't sound too bad together,I've deffinently heard worse.

Thing is my partner would love his surname only but said he will compromise with a double barrel but in all honestly in not keen and my close family said they dont think it sounds right/dont think i should go double barrel again. they think i should give baby my maiden name and not my partners. ( they get on so its not because of that. partner isnt up for this at all.

I've got reservations with having two children by two different men, both with double barrel surnames, i find it embarrassing. But equily im not keen on giving him my partners surname because I'd like a connection to the baby, and it also doesn't feel right to give him my maiden name.

I dont want to upset the partner, but if i give him his name or settle for double barrel, i won't be 100% happy either.
I honestly dont know what to do. I've got 9 weeks to go, and im at a total loss.

Any suggestions.

You both need to stop stressing about the name ( double barrel and have done with it) and concentrate on the fact that you are both married to other people and the legal ramifications of that:
Status if the child
Next of Kin
Wills
Can your DH go on the birth certificate if you are married to someone else?

Talk to your solicitors. Ask them to make sure all circumstances are mitigated to your separated status and new relationship.

Traditionally, children are given their mother’s surname.

In the past, if the mother was married to the father, she would have taken his name, and the children would also be given this name, not because it was his, but because it was now hers.

If she was unmarried, the child would also have her name, in this case, her maiden name.

I wish I had given my name to my children.(I am married, but didn’t change my name.)