Would you be annoyed if your best friend chose a similar baby name?

[LilyinBloom86]

We’ve had our heart set on a baby name and become quite attached to it over the last few months, it’s probably the only name we both loved and agreed on 100%

However, my best friend just had a baby and the name they’ve chosen is coincidentally very similar, as in one letter deferent and rhymes.

think along the lines of
Daisy & Maisy
Cara & Lara
Eva & Ava
Ida & Ada
Minnie & Winnie
Lilly & Tilly

I can’t help thinking she might find it strange if we go ahead with the similar name, but feel very sad to let it go as we’ve become so used to calling bump this name in private & I feel emotional about letting it go.

Neither name is super popular.

what would you do?

I would stay with the name you love.

I wouldn’t mind that at all.

I would also stick with the name you love.

I would LOVE it but then it’s the kind of sad thing me and my best friend would do on purpose 😂 I mean, she’s a best friend! Why would she be annoyed?

It’s not the same name so I would just stick with whatever name you’d chosen

To be honest there are so many Ada/Ava/Eva/Evie/Elle/Belle/Bella/Ella/Isla/Olivia/Lyla/Lilah/Lyra/Lara/Lily/Millie/Mia/Mila/Amelia/Amelie/Emily/Emma/Maisie/Maeve’s that I think she’d be a bit of a dick to say anything.

No it wouldn't bother me at all.

Unless you have form for copying everything she does (which I’m guessing not or you wouldn’t have posted about it), then it will be fine.

I think it really depends on how similar the name is.
If it was the other way around and you had your baby first and named it and then she named hers a similar name would you be annoyed?
It would be kind of strange which you must realise or you wouldn't have posted here, but she may not care

I’d stick with the name. I have cousins with the exact same first name no one cares

I genuinely don't think I'd be annoyed had it have been the other way round and we'd had our baby first, I think I might also see the funny/cute side of it. But I think I'm feeling emotional (pregnancy hormones) and just wanted to get some outside opinion. We've not told anyone our name choice, so I can't check it with other friends to see what they would do. The responses above have given me perspective that it may be absolutely fine and maybe I'm just being overly worried 😌

Yes! A close friend of mine is a few weeks in front of me and is constantly asking me if I’ve thought of anymore names yet, then says she likes names I’ve previously mentioned to her. So once I’ve decided on names I won’t be telling her😅

My best friends daughter has the same name as my dd. We became friends after we had our children. Our husbands also have the same name.

It wouldn't bother me at all. Two women I worked with, best friends, have daughters with very similar names, it's never been an issue.

Daisy and Maisie (I know those aren't the real names!) sound like awesome kick-arse teen cowgirl detectives. I would go for it, especially as the two girls won't be related and won't have the same last name. For what it's worth - as an observer, I'd be much more likely to assume that two very good friends just happened to have similar taste in names, rather than that the second to give birth was influenced by the first.

Use your name. It's actually quite sweet if they also end up being friends

I fail to see how this is even an issue. You're overthinking.

Why would it matter? I may havefelt that at 16 if I had a baby then perhaps but as a grown up not bothered

Oh yes I had a family member do it. Announced the name whilst pregnant and she then named her child a name that rhymes with what I’d picked. I ended up choosing another name to save on embarrassment

I don't think it matters at all.

Polly and Holly would be fine.
Although if she had a Rosie and you then had a Posie, that might seem a bit more "deliberate" if that makes sense.

In general though, I'd go with your heart. It will be fine.

If she’s your best friend then surely you can tell her what your baby name is. If she’s really a best friend she won’t care. I wouldn’t care if my best friend named her kids the same as mine.

No issues, wouldn't even consider changing my preferred baby name because it's similar to friend's. A good friend of mine had a DD just a few weeks after me and chose the exact same name - no problems, I don't own a name.

My SIL literally made up a name just to have a rhyming name with my DC! I was a bit bemused about that because it seemed a bit much. And then, HER SIL made up yet another name to rhyme with my SIL’s child’s name (and therefore also with my child’s name) which was a step too far for me … I never said anything but I do think it makes us seem vaguely ridiculous whenever anyone finds out 😂 I just try to think positive like - well, at least my DC is a) the oldest and b) has the only real name of the bunch so people won’t think I’m involved in this madness.

If my best friend chose a name that rhymed with my child’s name I’d probably be way less bothered because I love my best friend and also because she presumably wouldn’t just make up a random name for the sake of matching!

My best friend (from childhood) has chosen the same name as my DD although her daughter is called by the full name and mine is always known by its diminutive. I don’t find it odd at all. Tell your friend that you love the name she has chosen and tell her the name that you call your bump. That way she can get used to the situation before your little one is born

This is bonkers. I'd love to know what the names are but can see why you wouldn't want to share so I'm going to make some up 😁

Lucy, Moosey and Goosey
Sarah, Hairah and Mairah
Josh, Posh and Gosh

Name your baby what you like but it might not hurt to have another think in case there's other nanes you like. I had my heart set on a name but then my husband's cousin announced she was going to use it and at first I was like 'tough I'm going to use it anyway' but it did put us off the name and we ended up choosing one that we loved more and I can't imagine our baby being called anything else.