3 weeks to go and SIL used our name

[Trezelma]

just that really, expecting DD1 I have always been open about using a sentimental family name for future DD.. SIL was aware as she knows it is a family name
SIL did not know the gender of her baby, baby arrived early hours this morning and announced baby’s name which is a variation of the name I have picked (think Elle / Ella) not the actual names but that’s how similar they are..

what would you do?

Name your baby whatever you like.

Use the name you want.

Use the name you love and were going to use.

It'll be fine in the long term. Remember you're naming someone for 80+ years hopefully, it's not going to matter that she has a similar name to her cousin for many of those years.

Would the babies have the same last name?

I wanted to avoid the same full name as any family member. Same or similar first name for cousins wouldn't bother me.

Use the name you were going to use, she was aware what your name was. Cousins can have the same/similar name.

If she gets upset then ask her why she used the name when she was aware what you'd picked.

Congratulations, lovely name. We have similar taste, as you know our dd is Ella.

Use the name

Pathetic that someone would do this but keep your original name

Aw cute, Ellie and Ella. We've got such similar taste!

This happened to my sister in law with her SIL (her DH’s sister). They had picked out Leila and her SIL named her daughter born 2 weeks before Lila. SIL went ahead with Leila and it’s not an issue. So I say use it!

I would use the name I’d already picked even if it was the same name as hers! I would be irritated but would press on with the name I’d decided upon. Congratulations on your imminent birth; call your child the name you love! It appears that you have been very open about your choice of name so you have nothing to feel bad about if anyone grumbles.

Use the name you want but I would make a lighthearted ‘great minds think alike’ type remark

Honestly the best revenge you can possibly get is going ahead and calling your DD your original name.

SIL will be counting on you not doing, if you don’t she wins. I suspect she’ll not like sharing a name but make sure to hit her with the ‘you knew full well we were using this name if you didn’t want to share you should have picked something else’

I'd use the name, if your sil knows that's what you were going to choose then she's obviously happy for it to be similar so I wouldn't worry since it's a variation rather than the same name.

You'd be very silly not to use your favorite name. I can guarantee your SIL would. Honestly, nobody will care.

this.

Did she know your chosen name?
How does your DH feel?

I would still use the name I wanted.

I’d 100% use the name. It’s not going to upset her, you’ve been open about using it. The cousins won’t question it. Don’t overthink this!! Does anyone know your cousins names now you are an adult? Do what you want.

Use it! It'd have been nice if your SIL and DB had asked how you felt, but TBH it may just not have been on their radar. I've not noticed it being a particular issue outside MN.

I would use the name. If you told her she obviously doesn't think similar names are a problem & I don't think you should either. I think go with the name you chose - congratulations and all the best for soon to be DD - I can see how you might be slightly irritated but just go with what you originally thought.

Use the name you want. I've got 3 cousins with very similar sounding name.

We’ve got two boys with the same name who are cousins in the family. Why wouldn’t you name the baby what you like.

Just use the name, it really doesn't matter.

Unless they share a surname and will be in the same class at school then just use the name op.

She hasn’t used your name though has she? 1. You don’t own a name and 2. You said yourself it isn’t the same name.

this is exactly why nobody knew what baby names we had for our child.