Using my maiden name as a first name for dd

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Expecting a dd maiden name is Clemence.
Would it weird to use it? or nice because it keeps the family name?

I think it’s a lovely idea.

Why can’t your DC have your maiden name as her surname? You do realise we don’t have to change our name and DC don’t have to take on their dads name- when I see threads like this it gives me the rage

That makes sense

Dd will have the same surname as me.

They should probably stop asking the mums maiden name all together given many won't have a maiden name just their name.

What if your DD wants your surname when she grows up? Many young women are doing this as a new feminism…taking their mum’s surname by deed poll when 18.

We used my maiden name as middle name for DC and GS also has the same middle name. They love it.

Lovely idea, and a very sweet and meaningful name.

Not at all. Except for youngest dc, all our dc have a name (first or middle) that connects to dh or my families. When youngest dc asked why, we explained that we had pleased our families by including 'their' names in his siblings' names, and now we felt free to please ourselves. So youngest's names are only our favourite names, no compromises. He was very pleased.

Anyway, I think Clemence is a lovely name. Using your maiden name for your child's first name is an old tradition. That's how surnames like Sinclair and Lincoln became first names.

All my grandchildren have names with family connections and they love the links

Me too. The term “maiden name” is hideously sexist. It’s 2023 FFS.

DD has my surname and DH’s as a middle name. It’s clear who did all the work and links her to both families. Win win.

Obviously OP has already changed her surname to her DH’s name.., which is why she’s referring to her previous surname as her “maiden name”.

So it would be a bit odd if she gave her DD her previously surname when she doesn’t have it herself.

I like the name OP, either as first or middle name.

I personally wouldn't, would be weird calling a child my surname, and if I ever split from their dad and went back to my maiden name that would get very confusing! I have a couple of friends that had children raised by them as single parents that decided to change their name to their mums at 16 because they hated being tied to their dad. Also security questions asking mums maiden name would be a nightmare!

It is a lovely name though, why not a middle name?

In my mum's family (Scottish) it was the tradition to use maiden names as middle names for daughters.

Eldest daughter takes the mother's maiden name as middle name.
Next eldest daughter takes the maternal grandmother's maiden name
Etc. always following the maternal line.

My husband's first name is his mum's maiden name. I think it's a lovely idea!

I like it. My bil has his mother's maiden name, I was always surprised that more people didn't give girls their mother's maiden name.

DP's surname is my first name and it confused someone at Eurotunnel when we had to submit documents online (for Corvid) and they initially rejected it as they assumed it was an error!

I like the name, but if I were you I would use it as a middle name. We tend to refer to parts of the family according to their surnames eg we're going to the Clemence Christmas get together this weekend, then meeting up with the Woodfords in the New year. It would feel odd if my daughter also had that name.

That's a lovely idea.

Is it pronounced as 'Cleh-MON-se' with emphasises in the middle, or more as 'Clemmunce'?

I've known both and prefer the first.

A pretty name.

I love the name Clemence, I don't think it would sound weird at all.

James Corden and Julia Carey did this. Their daughter is called Carey

It's pronounced Clements

It’s a lovely name - I’d go for it if you love it