Baby name update - (Alpha)

[paulinesmithson]

This is an update post to the baby name thread I started a few weeks ago deciding whether or not to use the name Alpha for my DD (due March).
If you haven't already read the post, to sum up:
My grandfather Alfie passed just before we found out we are expecting my DD and I wanted to use the name Alpha to honour his name.

There were many mixed opinions but we have settled (DH and I) on the name Alfa.

Its spelling isn't the same as the version with all the bad connotations and I think using the f instead of ph is closer to Alfie anyway so this seemed like the best name we could find. DH is fully on board with the name and we plan to use the nickname Alf too which I think is so cute!

Why are you thinking more of your grandfather than of your daughter?

You can literally think of no other way to "honour" him than this? The (tbh bit of a token and dated) action of imposing a dead person's name on your daughter (someone who will, hopefully, have many decades of life left)?

Jesus you lot are being really harsh.

It might not be what you'd choose but people inhabit their names. Nigella Lawson was clearly a bold choice by her parents but nobody is balking at that now - she's just Nigella and the name embodies her

I'm glad you updated I always wonder what people choose!

I like it!

Oh my goodness. I read through your original alpha choice and thought the crazy skin wearing people in the walking dead, then thought trying a name to be top dog....
Then read that you've decided on Alfa ... nickname Alf... and just can't get the alien character from the 90s out of my head!!!

It's your choice OP but be prepared for raised eyebrows and judgments.

I love it! And yes Alf such a cute nickname.
Agree Alfa fits better than Alpha for a girl. It's pretty and original

Am I the only one who thinks "A for Alpha"
When hearing the name?
I completely agree with previous posters who say to call her Alfie. It's hardly a masculine name. It can be very cool on a girl.

Alfie is a very soft sounding name that would be fine for a girl. Alfa isn't outrageous - its better than Alpha.

Are people trying to come up with the snidest comments they can. The post suggesting that the OPs dead grandfather wont thank her for calling her daughter Alfa is particularly nasty. That's a sick thing to say to someone who so recently lost their grandfather.

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There is nothing wrong with saying you don't like the name but there is no need to be so spiteful.

Did you know him personally?

What about Aphra (af-ruh) like Aphra Behn?

Sorry if you already had this recommended, I didn't skim whole thread. But I LOVE the name alpheba.
From Terry pratchet novel.
She's cool too, brave and clever. Alfie/Alfa for short.

What are the bad connotations you speak of?

You do realise you're naming a human being that's going to have to go through life with this name, right? Like she's going to be an actual person? Saddling people with a dead person's name is unfair to begin with imho, but a crap name on top of that is just salting the wound. Fucking Alf.

Awful name. Your poor daughter. And a nickname Alf for a little girl. Dreadful! Reminds me of an old man. You’re being completely selfish @paulinesmithson YOU want to call baby after YOUR grandad. YOU want to give the baby a dreadful name of Alpha in some sort of weird honour for your grandad when it wasn’t even us his name. YOU seem to think it’ll be a cute little story but its your poor child who will be stuck for her whole life explaining over and over in every new scenario that yes her name is alpha. No not spelt like alpha male spelt like the sprouts. Yes it’s not a real name or even a real word they made it up. Yes my mother calls me an old man name of Alf. Yes it’s a man’s name she wanted to call me after HER grandad. Yes his name wasn’t even Alpha but she decided Alpha spelt wrongly was like Alfie and on and on in what is a dreadful tedious and boring thing to have to do whenever you introduce yourself. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢 you’re not even considering your little girl in this scenario so it’s even worse that she will grow up knowing that along with her awful name.

Great. Change your own name to Alpha nickname Alf in tribute of your grandad and put a bit of thought into naming your little girl.

Not a good choice OP

Was there a girl in a pop group called Alfie or something like that? I'm not a huge fan of boys' names on girls and would really hate it for myself.

Beautiful name. Good choice op and dh
I suspect your dd will grow up to love her name.

Her nickname won't be Alfie, it'll be Romeo.
Alfa. Ludicrous.

I like it! By the time she's in school there'll be MUCH weirder names on the register.

No opinion either way - the first thing I thought of was Alpha from The Walking Dead.

Give her her own name , but middle name to honour your grandad. What about Fi. Would you like your future grandchild to be called your name? If you would then you should definitely give her that name x

I had a name for my daughter I was set on. Both agreed - then she was born and I took one look at her and said immediately that name doesn’t suit her.

Wait to meet her then chose the name.

I think this is a really cute name! It's not traditional, but I certainly don't understand the 'it's awful!' responses you're getting here.

Kids weren't bullied for names when I was at school, and I'd imagine it's even less likely now with the broad range of names we see these days.
With the exception of a friend who ended up with a rather unfortunate married name, I've also never heard an adult be mocked for their name; certainly not a first name atleast!

Not sure where the negativity here is coming from, but I think it's largely unfounded and think the name is lovely.