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Lana - moral dilemma

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LaLuz7 · 26/01/2023 22:11

An acquitance from college who is heavily pregnant has just announced her chosen baby name on Instagram.

It's Lana.

Do I gently point out to her what it spells backwards, or do I assume she knows and doesn't care?

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autienotnaughty · 27/01/2023 07:40

I knew someone who was considering BJ as a baby name and a friend explained why it's maybe not a good idea. I would not be concerned about Lana.

HelpMeGetThrough · 27/01/2023 07:43

If she was having a son and deciding to call him Clint, I would advise her to never make him a birthday cake.

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arethereanyleftatall · 27/01/2023 08:10

Sux2buthen · 27/01/2023 06:31

I asked my kid Tnuc about this. He said it's fine

😂😂

balloontrip · 27/01/2023 08:18

It's really strange that you consider yourself to have a moral dilemma over this OP.

peaceandpotato · 27/01/2023 08:20

balloontrip · 27/01/2023 08:18

It's really strange that you consider yourself to have a moral dilemma over this OP.

Yeah moral dilemma sounds like you've been worrying about this for a while OP

GimmeBiscuits · 27/01/2023 08:21

Hopefully, any Alan of anyone's acquaintance has been advised never to anagram their name!

Luredbyapomegranate · 27/01/2023 08:55

UmmmBopDeeDooWhop · 26/01/2023 22:17

Your plan is to tell an acquaintance that her unborn baby's four letter name can be rearranged to make anal? Gently tell her I mean, that's your plan?

I think she will think you are completely off your rocker.

Quite

Greendoor12 · 27/01/2023 08:56

This would be so wierd to do with someone you follow on Instagram rather than know

Unicorn2022 · 27/01/2023 09:02

I am late 40s and heard the name Lana numerous times and what it spells backwards has genuinely never occurred to me

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LaLuz7 · 27/01/2023 09:07

liveforsummer · 27/01/2023 07:18

Very different responses to normal when this name is mentioned on mumsnet. Personally I would mention it. She might the devastated later when she realises, or she might know and not care, in which case no harm done!

See, that was my thought process. But it's not my place to tell her. I think i'll go with the MN majority advice.

Hopefully someone closer to her will point it out.

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LaLuz7 · 27/01/2023 09:08

Greendoor12 · 27/01/2023 08:56

This would be so wierd to do with someone you follow on Instagram rather than know

I do know her. We went to uni together.

But i've decided i won't mention it.

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LaLuz7 · 27/01/2023 09:11

safeplanet · 27/01/2023 07:37

She's a decent person, why would I want to start random drama?

really? 😂

Yes. Really :)

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DisforDarkChocolate · 27/01/2023 09:11

Until I saw a similar name in balloons reflected in a mirror this never occurred to me and I'm so bloody old and used to work in a job where I saw thousands of names. Leave her alone.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 27/01/2023 09:13

I would think there was something wrong with anyone who looked at the (perfectly normal) name Lana and thought "OMG! Anal!!"

Even more so if they contacted the parents to say it.

AhNowTed · 27/01/2023 09:18

You're ridiculous.

Fivebeanchilli · 27/01/2023 09:26

I've never understood the stress on here about the spelling of Lana backwards. I know quite a few, from age late 20s to about 5, and they all seem to like their names. I did once ask one in her 20s if it had ever been an issue (thanks Mumsnet) and she looked at me as though I had two heads.

aSofaNearYou · 27/01/2023 09:34

It's a normal name OP. Yes kids at school might comment on it but kids at school always find something to comment on. For me it was curly hair. We don't need to be terrified that kids might snigger a bit, that will happen regardless.

LightHousePanda · 27/01/2023 09:36

It's interesting how different responses can be as I remember the previous thread on this name and most were pointing out the spelling backwards and saying the child would be bullied and it shouldn't be used etc. I'm like you OP and once it was pointed out couldn't unsee it. It's like the name Iona used to be a fav of mine but when it was pointed out it sounds like "I own a.." it just doesn't work for me anymore (especially with our surname).

I think bullying for your name is over-exaggerated on here anyway. I've never come across a child who I thought was bullied for that alone. At my school the people most bullied had such standard names.

LightHousePanda · 27/01/2023 09:38

I meant to add that I agree with the consensus that it's not something to mention and it would be weird to do so. I'm not sure at what stage I would say something - maybe if the initials were BJ or the name and surname were something like Iona Dick.

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LaLuz7 · 27/01/2023 09:39

LightHousePanda · 27/01/2023 09:36

It's interesting how different responses can be as I remember the previous thread on this name and most were pointing out the spelling backwards and saying the child would be bullied and it shouldn't be used etc. I'm like you OP and once it was pointed out couldn't unsee it. It's like the name Iona used to be a fav of mine but when it was pointed out it sounds like "I own a.." it just doesn't work for me anymore (especially with our surname).

I think bullying for your name is over-exaggerated on here anyway. I've never come across a child who I thought was bullied for that alone. At my school the people most bullied had such standard names.

Exactly. I wouldn't have been aware of this if I hadn't seen it pointed out more than once on other threads.

MN loves to pile on OPs so i was half expecting these reactions and I have taken them on board. But there is definitely a degree of hypocrisy and double standards going on.

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Marcipex · 27/01/2023 09:42

I remember being about ten and we all spelt our names backwards as a ‘code name’.

BigCheeseSandwich · 27/01/2023 09:48

This reminds me of someone who told my friend her child Edie would be teased because her name sounded like the abbreviation for erectile dysfunction. Bonkers.

Mamoun · 27/01/2023 09:51

It would never occur to me!

lifeinthehills · 27/01/2023 09:52

I have a friend called Lana and I have never made the association, though I have seen the odd joke about the name. I wouldn't mention it. She'll probably find it really odd if you do.

Galadriel90 · 27/01/2023 09:55

Oh for goodness sake it's not hypocrisy or a double standard at all. Hundreds of thousands of people post on MN. Did it occur to you that you'll have different people commenting?

And yes the anal thing is weird. It wouldn't have occurred to me.