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Apparently my sons have ‘naughty boy’ names…

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Perplexed0522 · 13/08/2022 09:04

A friend made a light hearted comment (supposedly) about my two children’s names last week and I am convinced she’s a MN member seeing as she used to the term ‘naughty boy name’.


My husband has got Scottish roots and before we TTC the plan was always that we would honour his history. He used to live in Scotland but moved to England to settle down with me and as all his family are still in Scotland we felt Scottish names would be a nod to them.


We had a son first and called him Arran (pronounced Arun) after one of the Isles and we joked that if our second child was a girl we would call her Skye.


Second child turned out to be another gorgeous boy so we called him Lewis, after one of the other Scottish Isles.

My friend is pregnant which is why we were taking about names and that’s when she said (with a giggle) that it was really brave of me to give both my sons names that are associated with being naughty. She laughed it off but it really hurt.

I’ve since come on here (we have been thinking about TTC number 3) and I have seen Lewis be labelled as a ‘naughty boy’s name ☹️

I know a child’s name doesn’t define them but I feel so guilty that I may have given both my boys a name that has negative associations ☹️

Has anyone else been in a similar boat and how did you move on from it?

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KangarooKenny · 13/08/2022 09:05

Ignore her. They are not naughty names.

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Nowisthemonthofmaying · 13/08/2022 09:06

This is nuts and not something I've heard before, on here or elsewhere. They're lovely names and your friend was being bitchy.

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MrsSales · 13/08/2022 09:07

Ridiculous

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SoupDragon · 13/08/2022 09:07

There is no such thing as a "naughty boy name".

it is just the personal associations people have with a name.

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Teadrinkingmumofone · 13/08/2022 09:08

Never really thought about 'naughty names' but when I read the title though I immediately had a few names in my head that I thought you might say. Arran and Lewis I definitely wouldn't consider naughty names! Both quite lovely. Ignore your friend, quite a mean comment to have made.

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Haus1234 · 13/08/2022 09:08

What a nasty woman.

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SleepingStandingUp · 13/08/2022 09:09

Ive heard of the naughty kids name stuff, but it's basically on here a way to suggest the name is lower class or chavvy.

I wouldn't think Arran or Lewis fell into these categories tbf, not that it should matter.

If your friend doesn't have form for being s bitch, let it go. If she does have form, you need to think that through

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Boybandfacedfannyfart · 13/08/2022 09:10

I live in Scotland - certainly not naughty boy names where I am (and have been). In fact, boys named after islands IME are always the sweetest and from the nicest families.

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Imissmoominmama · 13/08/2022 09:10

Wtf? She’s rude- and wrong.

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SleepingStandingUp · 13/08/2022 09:12

This is the kind of nonsense the friend os referring to

people.com/parents/baby-names-related-to-kids-behavior-study/

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serenghetti2011 · 13/08/2022 09:12

Honestly your friend needs to grow the feck up. names are just that the name you give your child they are not naughty or bad or anything else. I am a childrens nurse so have come across many unusual and different names and o never have thought well the last Lewis I cared for was a bit of a character so this one will be too, I never label a child as naughty - naughty behaviour yes but children do push the boundaries and misbehave that’s normal. Your friend should apologise your boys names are lovely 🥰

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ClocksGoingBackwards · 13/08/2022 09:13

I’m in England, I e never heard those names associated with ‘naughty’. There are plenty of names that are associated with naughty, but none of them are the names you chose in my experience. Your ‘friend’ is both wrong and a bitch.

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ShirleyPhallus · 13/08/2022 09:13

They’re lovely names

I do think there are some “naughty” names, the same way as I think there are mean names, clever names, shy names etc but that’s because lots of people associate people they’ve known with characteristics. I doubt all the names would be the same.

Ie Nicola is the name of a totally awful person I’d once known so to me Nicola = awful but I’m sure to someone else it’s the name of a lovely kind woman

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ClocksGoingBackwards · 13/08/2022 09:16

That list posted by @SleepingStandingUp is interesting, but definitely bollocks. I have a grown up child who’s name is on the nice names list, but I’ve seen posters on here associate it with naughty in the past.

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junebirthdaygirl · 13/08/2022 09:17

I have been a teacher for 40 years and a few names popped into my head when l saw your post. Neither of your names were anywhere near the list and anyway its all nonsense as each child has their own personality. Actually she sounds like a horrible friend to say that about your dc as they have great names and the Scottish connection is a real bonus.

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SummerLobelia · 13/08/2022 09:21

What an unkind nasty thing to say.

You have had an insight into her character now though.

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SleepingStandingUp · 13/08/2022 09:22

ClocksGoingBackwards · 13/08/2022 09:16

That list posted by @SleepingStandingUp is interesting, but definitely bollocks. I have a grown up child who’s name is on the nice names list, but I’ve seen posters on here associate it with naughty in the past.

Exactly. And the list changes lots which shows that what was naughty in "2015" wasnt two years later etc.

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SaltandPepper22 · 13/08/2022 09:22

Personal association and prejudice as pp said. I get what she means although Arun and Lewis aren’t “naughty boy names” to me. I immediately reaction to a “naughty boy name” is Tyler and Tony, and Jamie but that’s probably because I went to school with some who I remember at the time being “naughty boys” rather than some deep seated association.

it’s also worth considering that the concept of a “naughty boy name” is typically a thin veiled attempt to conceal classist attitudes towards certain parents and their children rather than people actually thinking they are names for naughty children.

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SirSamVimesCityWatch · 13/08/2022 09:23

Yeah those weren't the names I was expecting!!

You're find OP. Kayden, Kyle, Jaxxon... Maybe not. 😉

It's just an stereotype based on class. We all know that in reality there's plenty of nice boys called Kyle and plenty of naughty boys named George. But stereotypes aren't necessarily untrue either - the issue of stereotypes isn't that that they are untrue, it's that they aren't the whole truth.

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abovedecknotbelow · 13/08/2022 09:24

How can you have a naughty name?

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RedRec · 13/08/2022 09:26

The names are lovely and she is a bitch.

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SoupDragon · 13/08/2022 09:30

I suppose you now know that your friend's name is a "mean girl name" 😂 Maybe tell her that.

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Happymum12345 · 13/08/2022 09:41

Another teacher here-those names are not on my ‘naught boys’ list!

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SleepingStandingUp · 13/08/2022 09:45

abovedecknotbelow · 13/08/2022 09:24

How can you have a naughty name?

On here, it's when the lower classes use a name heavily that the upper classes wouldnt consider letting near their child. Usually a "made up" name or non-typical spelling, an Americanised name etc. See pp with Jayden, Jaiden, Jaxxon, etc

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SleepingStandingUp · 13/08/2022 09:46

abovedecknotbelow · 13/08/2022 09:24

How can you have a naughty name?

On here, it's when the lower classes use a name heavily that the upper classes wouldnt consider letting near their child. Usually a "made up" name or non-typical spelling, an Americanised name etc. See pp with Jayden, Jaiden, Jaxxon, etc.

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