DD is four weeks old. We still have no name for her. It's a ridiculous situation - we are down to two. A tough decision and husband has strong views and essentially vetoes anything I like.
First name conundrum aside, I would like to give her my mum's first name as her middle name. My DM is utterly amazing with the children, she has them 3x days a week (minimum), is our absolute lifeline whenever we need back up care/a night away/emergency sick cover. When the kids have any illnesses she will move her working week around to be able to help us so that we can still work. She takes them swimming and has done since they were all 18 months old (she's the only granny in the pool!). Not that the financial stuff should be important, but to avoid any drip feed, they also pay the kids' private school fees, have trust funds set up for them etc. The children will not struggle financially- because of my DP.
By comparison, my MIL lives 4 hours away so cannot be as on tap as my DM but - that said - she is probably at the other extreme in terms of how hopeless and disinterested she is. There is still no talk of coming to see their new grandchild (also no card or gift sent...), and for our other DC it's always taken them a good 6-7 weeks to come over. When my own DP cannot cover for something, I will work down a list of alternative options before calling on MIL as she's so wrapped up in her own life and v unreliable. Nothing wrong with her approach, but because of that she has no real bond with the kids. It's all a bit awkward when they come over, takes the kids a while to warm to her etc. When she tries to give any advice on the kids I find it all quite cringeworthy as she doesn't have a clue.
I'd like to give our DD my mum's first name as DD middle name. DH doesn't agree and says it would p!ss his own mother off. I actually don't think it would, but I also don't think we should be paying any sort of testament to her. I really, really would like this little nod for my mum and feel she would be really touched.
Any views?