As a woman, would you consider naming your daughter after yourself in the way men do?

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As a woman, would you consider naming your daughter after yourself in the way men do?

You get John and John Jnr but what about Lauren and Lauren Jnr?

Why not?

We should make this a thing. I think I would have done if I had thought about it 6 years ago.

Thanks, lljkk, that's interesting.

Fair enough, then - it was a genuine question.

we have an answer

"Also according to NISRA: "Of those registrations containing details of the father, 1,512 boys were given their fathers’ first name as a first or additional name. Only 226 girls were given their mothers’ name."

www.britishbabynames.com/blog/

I think it’s a weird thing to do, who wants to be calling out their own name all day? Or shouting ‘John’ and both husband and son replying? Junior is just naff.
my son’s name ends with an eee sound and my daughter’s name shortened has the same eee sound at the end so if I’m calling one of them either they both answer or neither, it’s annoying.

No, hate it. Daughters need an identity of their own. Same for sons.

It's pretty common in some parts of the UK. Maybe not the ones frequented by mumsnetters tho.

Not the same first name, I find that weird (and not entirely sure it even would be allowed in my country due to naming laws) but I did give my daughter my middle name as her first name. Though tbh that was more because I just really could not think of a name and she was already 10 weeks old and I had run out of time to name her!

My eldest daughter has a shortened version of my name as her middle name. Similarly, my husband has his dad's first name as his middle name. That's as far as I would ever go.

I do know of a kid named Jnr though. I mean, why bother with the parent's name at all?!

I would like to have done this just to see the looks on people's faces!

I wouldn't. I specifically didn't use a name I like because it's my middle name and I wanted to give my sons their own identity (it's a unisex name). My SIL ended up using it for her son.

I think it's as stupid when men do it as when women do it. I always roll my eyes if I see a "George Smith III".

My DCs great gran named two of her children after herself. Christine, named a daughter Christine and a son Christopher. She's a horrible woman so probably clouds my judgement on the type of person who names a child after themselves.

Nope. And I dislike it when sons are named after their fathers, too.

A baby is a new person. An individual in their own right. And they deserve their own name.

We have an item of jewellery that has been passed down the family from my three times great grandmother, it has always passed to the one with a particular Christian name in each generation. I have the name as my first name , my daughter has it as her middle name and I hope she will carry on the tradition in some way, it actually skipped a generation to come to me as my grandmother didn’t use it for her daughters, it was her middle name though.

Never in a million years. I'm now the only person with a GB passport with my name, less than 400 in total and wouldn't inflict it on anyone.

No, I just think it's odd , but I'm not opposed to naming my child after my grandparent or ggp. Or giving them a middle name that's a sibling or parental one.

My DD and DS have middle names that connect to previous family generations

Goodness no, I despise my name, my mum was about 10 years too late in choosing it for me, although I’m hoping it’s en vogue again in a few years 🤞🏼However my mum was named after her Mum and she after hers, I was given it as a middle name and I did so with my eldest daughter also. It’s one of them names that is classical, but not fancy in anyway, but works well as a middle name. I like naming middle names after family members, one of my sons’ middle name was after my dad who died when I was a child, my other daughter after my great aunt and my youngest son got two middle names as I wanted my brother’s name but felt I needed to include at least one child with a name from their paternal side so he got his paternal grandfather also.

My grandma named one of her 4 daughters after her but neither of her sons have my grandad’s name. I think her own mother also had the same name. Not English though and a lovely classic name that stands up to reusing.

I’ve used the same family name for my DDs middle name but I was actually keen to use it as a first name. I like the connection to my wonderful grandma and favourite Aunty. I can’t imagine naming a child the same name as me though - a bit too close for comfort. Also, I’m not a fan of my popular in the 89s classic royal name.

My grandma named one of her 4 daughters after her

Not that it's any of my business here, but I'm divided as to how I think I'd feel, if that were me. I know it's not intended that way, but thinking through how it would make people feel, on the one hand, the namesake daughter might be resented by the others as she got Mum's name, which might mark her out as special/favourite; but then the namesake daughter might equally resent her three sisters, as they all got their own individual names, whereas she ended up just getting Mum's name, as thought she were an extension of her and not a person in own right, like her sisters!

Obviously, children usually arrive one at a time and you have to name this baby before you know which others will/won't come along at a later date, but once the family is complete, you have the fixed dynamic for everybody's lifetime.

Personally, I'm very much not in favour of giving your child the same name as you, and I've no idea why you would think it a wise thing to do, but what I find even odder is when a child who is not the first daughter/son in the family ends up with the parent's name.

If that's your 'thing' that you want to do, why would you let one or more children of the appropriate sex go by without giving them mum/dad's name - not knowing if you'll have another; and if you give your 2nd/3rd/4th DD/DS their mum's/dad's name, does that mean that, rather than deliberately choosing to 'honour' them/the parent with the same name, you just completely ran out of ideas and thought "Oh, that'll do"?!

I agree with PP that it would seem so weird calling out your own name when addressing your child - especially when you're a sensible, grown-up 42yo Jack and you find yourself saying/shouting "Well done, Jack, have you had a poo? Good boy!!"; "Jack, put your socks on NOW!"; "Jack, come away from that muddy puddle!"

Not to mention every single time your wife/mum says "Jack...." and you both reply and/or have to wait for further clarification as to which one she wants. For the simplest of questions, it's "Jack....erm, big....husband Jack, Dad - yes, you - could you pass the potatoes, please" - none of which would ever have been necessary if only you'd called your son James instead!

Never as their first name. However, DD has my first name as her middle name. Likewise for DS with DH's. If DS had been DD2 we'd have used a feminine form of his name. Both DH and I have our respective parents' first names as our middle name too.

As a middle name maybe. Defibrillator not first name, but then I think it's weird for men to have the same first name as their sons too so it's not a sex thing.

If her first had been a boy, his middle name would have been an amalgamation of mine and my husband's names (still a real name)

a lovely classic name that stands up to reusing.

There are still almost certainly thousands/millions of other people of that name in the world, though - the name is highly unlikely to be unique to the one family. And however lovely the name is, the main function of a name is to act as an identifier and distinguisher between you and other people, which is a bit difficult if you have two people in the same household with the same one - and likely the same surname too.

I also think that, instead of reinforcing a family closeness, it can actually have the opposite effect. I have a cousin who married a woman with the same name as his sister. Obviously, in that case, it couldn't have been foreseen or planned, but every time, people have to say "I was chatting with Catherine yesterday - Robert's wife" - when, if there were no need to distinguish between her and his sister and they all had different names, you'd think it very PA and deliberately distancing for somebody to feel the need to state Catherine's relationship to them along with her name, if they were reasonably close and got on OK.

Giving parents' names as middle names is fine, imho - it's like an extension of the surname (or alternative if the parents have different ones) in acknowledging the family connection.

Giving your own first name to your child as their first name just suggests that you see them as an extension of you - they're not so much your DD/DS and the next generation sharing the family bond but actually effectively just more of you, but in a younger form.

Came across this only yesterday. A man had given his child the exact same name as he has including both middle names.
Strangely this first name is the name which I see most often being handed down from father to son. I know lots of fathers who have given their son this exact same name. It’s a very common name.
I think it’s a silly idea and very arrogant.
You see on here all the time people not wanting their child to be referred to as Jackson B etc so why do that to your child when you have to clarify exactly which Jackson you are talking about.