As a woman, would you consider naming your daughter after yourself in the way men do?

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As a woman, would you consider naming your daughter after yourself in the way men do?

You get John and John Jnr but what about Lauren and Lauren Jnr?

Why not?

We should make this a thing. I think I would have done if I had thought about it 6 years ago.

One set of friends used both of their names and combined them to create a 'new' name for their child; quite common in the country the woman grew up in.

I once read of a couple from the Philippines who had settled in the UK who did that - only problem was that their names were Constance and Dominic

My family tree has a lot of women passing down the same name - Elizabeth especially crops up a lot going from mums to daughters to granddaughters.

In years gone by though there was only a pool of about ten names to choose from 😂, so naturally there was a lot of repetition.

I’m in NI and both my grandad’s named sons after themselves. In fairness though, both lovely names and they used different diminutives so no mix ups etc.

Probably very sexist of me, but when I hear about a newborn named after his dad I think the father is probably a bit of a patriarchal wanker, but a mother naming her daughter? Fair play, especially since the child is likely to have the dad’s surname.

My maiden name can also be used as a girls first name and it is, with a slight variation. My DS's middle name is his dads and is grandads first name.

Yeah, I like my name and would use it. Just would find it a little confusing having two people with exactly the same name.

My dd has my mum's name for a middle name and my ds has dh's name for a middle name. The reason we didn't use the grandads' names as middle names for him was because we have two still alive (my mum was dead by the time we had dd) and the two grandad names together make the name of a b list celebrity one way round and just sounded naff the other way round. So we used dh's. It wasn't a huge statement, we just like family names

Just would find it a little confusing having two people with exactly the same name.

Yes, you often end up with classes at school having multiples, so they go through several years with their identity not as 'Olivia' but as 'Olivia K', 'Olivia P' and 'Olivia B'. It's not ideal, but it's always going to happen sometimes; but why you would deliberately choose that same scenario in your own family is completely beyond me - especially when the surname is likely to be the same, so you can't even use that as a distinguisher!

I named my daughter after my sister and my son after his grandparents. My mother in law and my sister were very emotional. They were both honoured by it - my mother in law had lost her husband. I wouldn’t have named them after myself or my husband.

I don't like it very much for either sex. But I have known a few families where it happened for girls and not boys. Both my grandmother and my mother-in-law were named after their mothers (where none of the boys were named after their fathers) and they were both known by a different name in the immediate family, to avoid confusion. I also used to live opposite a family where the oldest daughter had the same name as her mother and they both used it. I'd always rather give a child a name that was their own, not used by anyone else in the close family. Use your own name as a second name if you must, but not as the first or everyday name.

I don't think any child should be named after it's parents. A baby isn't an extension of you, it's a completely different person, naming a baby after yourself is weird.

No way would I saddle a daughter with my name.
Although I must admit I did consider Wren or Juniper as both have personal associations with my name and remind me of my childhood.

why you would deliberately choose that same scenario in your own family is completely beyond me - especially when the surname is likely to be the same, so you can't even use that as a distinguisher!

It's like people forget WHY we name things and people !!

No, and I don't like it for either sex. Give your child their own name.
Also, who on earth wants to end being being known as "Old" or "Big" Katy or whatever the name is?

I was named after my mother in 1960s.
I do family history; tonnes of girls named after their mothers in my family tree, back to 1700s and earlier.
i can't find any objections to the practice.

I always knew I wanted my son or daughters to have their own name. I come from a family with massive name repetition and didn´t want that. Both her names are a first in both our families.

No.

It's egotistical and demonstrates a lack of imagination. And egotistical unimaginative types are beyond boring.

A baby isn't an extension of you, it's a completely different person, naming a baby after yourself is weird.

I suppose, looking at it objectively, a baby and young child sort of is effectively an extension of their parent(s), being dependent for everything and never being left alone; but I really do think it suggests an serious inability to think ahead towards the child's future.

I'd say it's a similar principle to people who find a fluffy, cutesy name that, to be fair, does seem quite sweet for a baby and toddler - but it never seems to remotely cross their minds that (all being well), that person will, before long, be a teenager at school, then all grown up, maybe a parent themselves, trying to carve out a professional career, a respectable middle-aged figure of authority, then eventually an elderly person trying to be taken seriously and not patronised by most of society.

Of course, you enjoy your lovely little baby; but it suggests a spectacularly low level of basic reasoning skills not to realise that your child will not always be a baby - and will probably not thank you for ending up as Unicorn-Rainbow-Princess Collins QC.

I was named after my mother in 1960s.
I do family history; tonnes of girls named after their mothers in my family tree, back to 1700s and earlier.
i can't find any objections to the practice.

Does that not make things very difficult for you as a keen genealogist, though? Fair enough, you may say that your name is for you and your contemporaries whilst you're alive, and it's none of your concern if it makes things confusing for your descendants, once you're long gone; but that effectively cements your own place in your family's history as 'yet another Mary', with nothing but your birth and death dates for later generations to distinguish you from your great-grandmother, grandmother, mother, daughter, granddaughter etc.

You can't even refer to them in your research as 'Mary, the daughter' as, as well as being a daughter, Mary later became a mother herself; but you can't call her 'Mary, the mother' - as her own mother is already referred to as that, as was presumably her mother before her.

In the scheme of things, it doesn't matter one little bit, but I still find that quite sad to think of.

I don't like it at all. There are so many lovely names to choose from!

Worst is when a girl is named after her father with a clunky feminised version of his name - e.g. Nigella Lawson.

I don't have any DDS but there's no way I'd call a child after me.
They deserve their own name.

I didn't call any of my son's after their df
either.
I do know a family who called 2 of their kids after themselves.
Then 2 more kids the se name as their cousins.

They where all known as "Baby whatever name"
Why would you do that.
For the same reason.

Does that not make things very difficult for you as a keen genealogist, though? ...as 'yet another Mary’

I’m not understanding that logic; the consistency of naming patterns helps to track who is who — 2nd daughter got called after her mother. 1st daugher after paternal grandmother. You can use this type of information as clues to trace people.

Anyway, the interesting stuff in genealogy are the events. Not the names. Like who tried to seduce their cousin or ran off with a 2nd wife to another country, to have a zillion more kids or disowned someone in the will (etc). Names are the least interesting part of who they are.

No! My parents did this to me AND my brother and it was nothing but shit tbh.

I ended up changing my name legally

My mother broke a chain of Margarets several generations long by choosing new-to-our-family first names for my sisters and me, though I got Margaret as a middle name to placate her mother. A generation on, Mum was most upset when I didn't name any of my own daughters Margaret after her. I like my own first name, it's conventional but uncommon, but there was never any question of "passing it down".

I wouldn't but likewise if I had a son and dp wanting to give him his name (with or without jnr) I would be telling him that its not happening.

Had a different and slightly dark perspective on this the other day! I realized I didn't know my mother's father's name (he died when she was like 1). I asked her what it was and she said it was Michael, which is the same name as her oldest brother. I said 'So they gave his son his name?' She said: 'Well he'd just been conscripted, so yeah'.

I wouldn’t give my name as a first name but in DH’s family there is a tradition of giving the parent’s name as a middle name, so SIL’s middle name is MIL’s first name, and I’d do that but maybe as a second middle name as I don’t love my name.
I also have a male family member who gave his daughter the female version of his name - think Carl/Carly.