Birth registration tomorrow and husband has doubts about daughters name!

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My daughter is four weeks old and I have her birth registration appointment tomorrow.
We found it really difficult to settle on a name this time around. We must have gone though dozens of potentials before we finally settled on Adelaide. Dh liked it but I could tell he wasn’t in love with it.
Now at the eleventh hour he’s brought up that he really really loves the name Madeleine and wants to register her as that. I do love it too and I’ve been calling her Addie so really Maddie makes very little difference. I also want him to love her name!
I guess I just feel embarrassed about having to have to tell everyone we’ve changed it. I know my mum won’t like it because of the association with Madeleine McCann so I expect her to be reluctant to use it. Also will I keep calling her Addie/Adelaide? I genuinely like them both the same so it’s not her having a different name… it’s other peoples reactions and the thought that I’m used to Adelaide putting me off. Is changing it now really that big a deal?

Madeleine is a beautiful name ❤️

Adeline?

I prefer Madeleine.
If you like it too then go for it.
Your dm cannot be reluctant to use your dc name. That would be rude and you would have to tell her so.
My dd has an unusual name and I told my dp's that they could not use her middle name instead as they were wanting to do.
Don't worry about the McCann connection. As your dd gets older her generation won't be aware of it.

Much prefer Madeline. What about Adeline?

Both are beautiful. If you like both equally I would go for the one your partner prefers so both parents are confident she has a beautiful name. 😍

I know a couple who changed their daughter's name at about 3 weeks, no issue. Your mum will rapidly get over it don't worry. In the circumstances you describe I'd go for it.

Madeline is so much nicer than Adelaide

Adelaide make me think of Australia. Madeleine is much better op.

They are both lovely and I'm a great believer in calling your baby what you want.

Don't worry about telling other people. You've had a last minute change of heart, she's your baby and you can call her the name you want to call her.

Adeline was my original choice before we decided on Adelaide. Dh decided it sounded to much like a brand of medication and I had quite a few ‘Adeline… what, like had a line’ comments.
Honestly I wish I could briefly fast forward twenty years into the future and ask her what she prefers! I hate the responsibility of naming an actual human

Your DH is a bit unreasonable. You'd already agreed on her name. I'd have been gobsmacked if after weeks of knowing our new daughter Adelaide, introducing her to everyone as Adelaide etc, my husband had suddenly turned around and said he actually wants to start calling her Madeleine. It's too late, the decision's been made!

There seems to be a lot of tolerance on MN for this, even changing the name of a child months or years old, but I think it's mad unless there's something really wrong with the name. As in, a serial killer is discovered with the same full name, that level of wrong. Not this "hmm, actually I think Madeleine is a bit prettier". He had his chance, she's called Adelaide, you shouldn't have to be worried about how to tell your mum or how you can get Addie out of Madeleine. You can just say.... Er, no. She has a name.

As far as the names go, I don't think one is particularly better than the other. They're a very similar style, Adelaide is a bit fresher and brighter. It's not as if you're choosing between Adelaide and Taylor.

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Adeline was my original choice before we decided on Adelaide. Dh decided it sounded to much like a brand of medication and I had quite a few ‘Adeline… what, like had a line’ comments. Honestly I wish I could briefly fast forward twenty years into the future and ask her what she prefers! I hate the responsibility of naming an actual human

It is just impossible to know, isn't it? She might hate her name as a child, love it as an adult, or never give it a moment's thought, who knows.

I do think I'd feel a bit weirded out to know that I'd been known by a different name for the first few weeks of my life, but worse things happen at sea.

This might be a bit of a sideways thought but I have a name that is now really popular and it's towards the end of the alphabet and my surname is towards the beginning. I've got very used to being near tops of lists etc due to surname. But in recent years people have started just listing things by first name not surname and I've got right to the bottom of many lists. This kind of effects things you don't even think it should. For me it has resulted in- for example - me being pages and pages down on lists that are sometimes directly linked to opportunities etc. It's quite frustrating. In fact I think it's really unfair on people with names starting lower down the alphabet and I think a fairer system should be thought of as it's only now that I've gone from one to the other that I've noticed how this can make a difference.

I suppose it's the reason many people choose to call their companies names beginning with A to be the first in yellow pages or whatever.

I just bring this up because there are a huge number of people now with A names. Which means that there will be tonloads if ever alphabetically listed on anything.

It is probably irrevelent but things would be a little easier for me now if my name was higher up the alphabet.

If you like Adelaide and Madeleine equally - maybe just another factor to think about? I prefer Addie to Maddy I think.

There's also Adeline or Adelina or a host of other spellings.

But Madeleine is a very nice name too so I don't want to put you off. It's just something I wondered if people considered.

PS I do really like both Adelaide and Madeleine. You don't hear of that many Adelaides at the moment.

I think Adelaide is a much nicer name. I’m a teacher and teach a lot of Maddies - it’s a bit bland imo.

Adeline is lovely. Madeleine not so. Stick with the original plan.

Sorry, I mean Adelaide which is even nicet than Adeline.

I wouldn’t call her Madeleine. I would stick with your original choice. My mother chose a name for my brother something like Joey and we all called him said name for weeks. She then came back from the registry office having registered him something totally different, think Alexander. Changed her mind en route . Needless to say Alexander never, ever caught on and it’s a pain for him now when he starts new jobs etc

Madeleine is much nicer than Adelaide. I don't like Adeline at all

If you're happy to change it then do.

Nothing to be embarrassed about. Most people won't give it a second thought. And the opinion of others as to which they prefer is completely irrelevant.

Just a thought but you could call her Madeline but still call her Addie day to day…the diminutive doesn’t always have to be the obvious one and Addie is a natural diminutive to me.

I utterly adore both Madeleine and Adelaide. (I also like Madeline and Adeline too!) Adelaide is probably more unusual/less well-used than Madeleine (if that's a factor for you). But really you can't go wrong with either, both are lovely, don't worry about making the "wrong" choice, there really isn't one here.

I much prefer Adelaide and Addie.

Madeleine is always mispronounced in English and Maddie someone mad.

Thank you everyone

I’m still none the wiser. Dh has started calling her Madeleine which is confusing ds. Mind you his suggestion thus far has been King Giddorah. I’m reaching the point where I’m almost starting to consider it if it means she has a name!

The middle name is Daisy and I am leaning towards Madeleine going better with Daisy than Adelaide. But but but I feel like she has a name already! I can see me still dithering while at the appointment tomorrow.

I know my mum won’t like it because of the association with Madeleine McCann so I expect her to be reluctant to use it.

This is absolutely absurd. It's a beautiful name.