Birth registration tomorrow and husband has doubts about daughters name!

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My daughter is four weeks old and I have her birth registration appointment tomorrow.
We found it really difficult to settle on a name this time around. We must have gone though dozens of potentials before we finally settled on Adelaide. Dh liked it but I could tell he wasn’t in love with it.
Now at the eleventh hour he’s brought up that he really really loves the name Madeleine and wants to register her as that. I do love it too and I’ve been calling her Addie so really Maddie makes very little difference. I also want him to love her name!
I guess I just feel embarrassed about having to have to tell everyone we’ve changed it. I know my mum won’t like it because of the association with Madeleine McCann so I expect her to be reluctant to use it. Also will I keep calling her Addie/Adelaide? I genuinely like them both the same so it’s not her having a different name… it’s other peoples reactions and the thought that I’m used to Adelaide putting me off. Is changing it now really that big a deal?

Middle names never ever get used so I wouldn't worry much about that. Choose the first name and nickname you prefer.

I prefer Adelaide/Addie.

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Adeline?

Ooh this is a lovely compromise.

You can still use Addie as a shortening for Madeleine! If it’s the full name he’s worrying about and the short name you are worrying about.

I'd go with Madeline so you both like it, but there's no reason you can't call her Addie still, it's just Maddie without the M. It might work as a transition nickname

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Thank you everyone

I’m still none the wiser. Dh has started calling her Madeleine which is confusing ds. Mind you his suggestion thus far has been King Giddorah. I’m reaching the point where I’m almost starting to consider it if it means she has a name!

The middle name is Daisy and I am leaning towards Madeleine going better with Daisy than Adelaide. But but but I feel like she has a name already! I can see me still dithering while at the appointment tomorrow.

If you like Daisy as a middle name then can I suggest Madeleine Marguerite which I think sounds lovely and flows better than Madeline Daisy. IMO anyway.

Ditto Adelaide Marguerite!

Middle names are usually said in isolation, I think. "Does she have a middle name?", "Oh, that was my grandma's middle name!", etc. It's very rare that you will say the first and middle name together, so I agree with Blubells to just choose a first name you are happy with.

By the way I still think your DH is being a bit of a dick calling her by a different name today in front of your son. You've not even agreed on it. It's weird he thinks after 4 weeks, the day before you register her, he can just unilaterally change her name and leave you to deal with it. I am tempted to ask the Mumsnet classic "is he usually like this?", but it's probably not what you need right now. In your shoes I'd be feeling stressed and discombobulated. If that's how you feel, you've every right to.

I'd go with Adeline, it's the obvious compromise.

Register her with both names.

You both call her Adelaide but he still gets his choice on paper.

Nobody else will know what 's in the register so you don;t have to explain anything.

What about Adelina?

Ariadne?

We announced our daughter’s name, and then several weeks later, registered her as something else. I didn’t feel embarrassed at all. I just did a Facebook post, and made a bit of a joke of it - “tune in next week to find out what she’ll be named next!” etc. A year later, I'm sure I’m the only one who remembers she once had a different name. It’s pretty insignificant to everyone except the baby’s immediate family.

But saying that, I think Adelaide is absolutely lovely, so I think you should keep it!

I think I’m going to stick with Adelaide. I just had to fill in a form where it asked for her name and I couldn’t bring myself to write Madeleine. It just felt wrong and I felt slightly disappointed which is probably the sign that her name stays.

You might get a lot of "oh was that where she was conceived?" if you go for Adelaide. Which is a bit ironic as the city was named for an actual person called Adelaide.
I like the name Madison if you want to go for the Maddy/Addy short version.

Love Adelaide, it is a beautiful name.

Just make sure you're the one who goes. A friend of mine found out when she needed her birth certificate for something as an adult that her dad had secretly named her something he preferred! Not wildly different, but like Mary-Jane instead of Marie.

I'm also now singing the song from Guys and Dolls but that's ok.

Adelaide was my Great Grans middle name and I think it is lovely 😊

Adelina?

My preference would be Madeleine, but it's just personal choice.

Oh no! I think he needs to not be dead set against the name you choose..? Does he really not like it? I think I'd keep looking for one we were both at least OK with

Fwiw, I prefer Madeleine, but not sure that's relevant

Completely off on a tangent, almost 40 years ago , my friend called her DD Rea , all agreed , had been Rea all along . DH went of to register her and called her Michelle ! Never even been mentioned before ! 🤣

Adelaide is a beautiful name and will really stand out.

I like Adelaide most I think if that's any help. I think Addie is really nice.

Agree that Adelaide is much more memorable than Madeleine.