Worried we chose a bad name!

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Our DD is now 10wx- and I’m seeking a bit of external verification that we chose a nice name. Seems silly but I feel like her name hasn’t ‘stuck’. My husband is 100% that it’s her name but I feel like I trip when I say it! Is this normal/weird! I didn’t do this with our son!

I think that’s why I may be having a wobble too, as I agreed to a top ten name... My preferred, less common choice gets so much love on here too which doesn’t help matters! I almost want to say to people when I meet them “her name is X but she was nearly a Y” just so I get it in there and people don’t think I have zero imagination.

Sophie is currently at 26 so it’s more likely there will be another Sophia in the class rather than a Sophie. If you go on the ONS website you can look at the top names for your area too. We have a pocket of Florences where we live surprisingly!

I guess to help matters one has to look at it logically - it’s a nice normal name, she won’t get bullied for it, it will age with her nicely, it’s pretty without being twee and she can always use her middle name if she really hates it, which I doubt she will.

I hope these comments help you to feel better about it, if not then feel free to PM me, I’d be more than happy to chat name woes with you!

Sophie nn Sonia or Sage or Sagacity is a beautiful name.
Annabelle is beautiful too.
Sometimes there is more than one right answer

That's a really pretty name!

I went through a similar stage with my eldest, Lottie, as it had been my husbands first choice and not mine. I think hormones have a lot to answer for. The feeling faded after a while and I love her name now

It's a lovely name but I completely understand. Dh chose a name I wasn't 100% convinced of for dd and it took me about a year to accept it!

It was also the number one girls' name in our city that year but weirdly she's now at secondary school and has never been in a class with someone else with the same name!

I like both Sophie and Annabelle.

Sophie Annabelle sounds better than Annabelle Sophie I think, so I'd stick with what you've got!

She has a lovely name.

@SoapySnowflake

I think that’s why I may be having a wobble too, as I agreed to a top ten name... My preferred, less common choice gets so much love on here too which doesn’t help matters! I almost want to say to people when I meet them “her name is X but she was nearly a Y” just so I get it in there and people don’t think I have zero imagination.

Sophie is currently at 26 so it’s more likely there will be another Sophia in the class rather than a Sophie. If you go on the ONS website you can look at the top names for your area too. We have a pocket of Florences where we live surprisingly!

I guess to help matters one has to look at it logically - it’s a nice normal name, she won’t get bullied for it, it will age with her nicely, it’s pretty without being twee and she can always use her middle name if she really hates it, which I doubt she will.

I hope these comments help you to feel better about it, if not then feel free to PM me, I’d be more than happy to chat name woes with you!

In this situation I'd definitely have a convo about changing it to the other name, it's such a shame you feel you want to mention what she was almost called, that to me shows that should be her name!!

OP, I had massive name regret with DD, and did change it. Sophie is a perfectly lovely name though, you definitely haven't saddled her with a howler.

Beautiful classic name!

I really regretted my dd3's name for a few years now she's 6 is absolutely owns it! It's not that uncommon or younique - Annaliese - but she rocks it now. It was just a big name for a baby

You’ve chosen lovely names for her.

I think Annabelle Sophie has a better flow, but I do like it

@SeanChailleach

Sophie nn Sonia or Sage or Sagacity is a beautiful name. Annabelle is beautiful too. Sometimes there is more than one right answer

Her Maj. vetoed the name Annabel and suggested Beatrice to Andrew and Sarah

Sophie is a lovely name

I love the name Sophie, lovely choice, nice meaning to, Wisdom.

My thoughts too @girlmom21.

Shall I throw in Susan as a nn or Susannah or Spondoolika is a beauiful name to add to the randomness?

I was in a similar(ish) position to you - the name I wanted for my DD ended up being her middle name. But her name is now “hers” and the idea that she might have been “Middlename” seems so odd now. By this time next year, I bet you won’t be able to think of Sophie being called anything else. (And it’s a lovely, lovely name. I loved it, but it sounded wrong with our surname.)

You can change her name up to 12 months old. One of my neighbours had a daughter called Clara, and then when she was about 8 months old changed her name to Genevive, and now everyone's forgotten that she started off as Clara.

That's a beautiful name OP

You are overthinking OP. They are both lovely names and you will get used to them.

With my oldest. We had a name picked out for months. Brought bunting. Dead set. We'd both discussed loving the name years previously. We were so sure. Then on my due date my other half name died. We wanted to honour her in some way. She had a beautiful middle name (violet) that happened to be on our list but this didn't go with our chosen name (Scarlett). We decided to wait till the baby arrived to pick a name. When DD arrived we chose a different name, Imogen. To go with the middle name Violet.

Because she's been a Scarlett in my head for so long, I tripped up a lot. Definitely took a while for her to be Imogen in my head.

@MmeDefrag

Good heavens. I was expecting Hepzibah Ermyntrude or something like that.

It’s a good name.

Mum? My Mum calls me Ermyntrude she's the only one I've ever heard use that name.

Sophie is a lovely name.

Presumably, her name is just Sophie. How often are you going to say her middle name too?

You're definitely overthinking it.

Sophie is a lovely name!

I had a wobble over my daughters name a couple of weeks after she was born. We had a final 2 that we both agreed on and my husband let me decide after she was born. I made a snap decision whilst still in the birthing pool. Couple of weeks later I had a big wobble thinking shout have picked the other name as I really loved it! But 8 months down the line I’m so glad I went with my gut.

I agree with pp, I think your husband behaved very badly pushing you into a decision that you didn't want, at such a vulnerable time. I wonder if your touch of PND, and your fixating on the name, is a bit of a misdirection from an actual sense of betrayal and confusion that your partner wasn't working in your best interests, that there is an anxiety that he isn't actually on your side.