Fed up.

[WeasilyPleased]

This weekend, not so dh said that seeing the scan made him realise this baby is a real person 🙄 and as a real person can't possibly have the name Mabli.
He's suggested really boring names which I won't put here for fear of causing offence.
I never knew he was so conventional. I'm afraid I overreacted and cried. We spent the rest of the weekend hurling names at each other, his getting increasingly safer and mine wilder.
What would you consider middle ground?
I'm still very fed up about Mabli but I suppose it can be a pets name. 🤔

What a shame. Mabli is such a pretty Welsh name. It's not the same, but the nearest English name is Mabel I suppose - any good, or too vintage?

Can you give us examples of the names you both like, then we might be able to help you find a middle ground.

Mari?

What Drama said.

It is difficult when you have different ideas about names, but this should be an exciting and fun time. There are better ways to decide than to "hurl" names at each other, and to cry.

Oh OP sorry but your post made me properly laugh, "hurling names" sounds a lot like me and my DH! I really sympathise though, I love Mabli and would love to use it for a second DD (my DD has a Welsh name as well, and I think they go so nicely together).

I think you need to take a week or so off make chat to cool off, then come back together, each with a list of at least ten names, and go from there. I'd also suggest showing your DH the ONS stats- mine was similar to many first-time parents (and ken in particular) in that he imagined his taste was totally unique, but then when shown that his preferred names were often top 50, he went off them.

Good luck!

Would you consider using the name app Kinder? Works just like Tinder but for names and you'll get alerts if you match on a name. It might help break the pattern of you rejecting his boring names and him rejecting your out there names, because you are both just saying which names you like. I agree with a pp though, that a week or two of no name chat might be helpful.

Thanks for the advice. @Kite22 I acknowledge I overreacted. I'm blaming hormones and disappointment
I think we'll leave it a couple of weeks as suggested.

We spent the rest of the weekend hurling names at each other, his getting increasingly safer and mine wilder.

‘ESMERELDA’

‘OLIVIA’

‘BOUDICA

‘SOPHIE’

Seriously though, what’s the problem with Mabli? Is it unusual to meet a girl with that name?

Good advice for each of you to come up with a list independently and use that as a springboard for a nice chilled conversation about potential names!

Partners are pesky things, having opinions and saying no to stuff. Gah.

We spent the rest of the weekend hurling names at each other, his getting increasingly safer and mine wilder.
I’m sorry as I know you’re upset but picturing this did make me laugh!

Is Mabli just Welsh for Mabel? I don’t think it’s THAT out there. But I think let the dust settle, then come with your own lists and each pick your favourite from each other’s list, without instantly dismissing them all. Lesser heard but fairly classic names might give you some common ground, or maybe unusual names that have a familiar shortening.

Good luck!

I really like Mabli too!

What are his suggestions?

If his surname is the family name then you get the final say

Mabli is a perfectly ordinary Welsh name and not that unusual...

@Skeumorph

If his surname is the family name then you get the final say

I don’t think that’s a sensible way to approach it, especially given that it’s already got a bit heated. Both parents should agree on all the baby’s names including the surname. If he no longer likes Mabli then it sadly for the OP it’s off the table.

@Skeumorph

If his surname is the family name then you get the final say

I somewhat agree with this - if it's a case of they both love the two options and it's the decision between those two then fair enough. But that isn't the case here. It would be horribly unfair to force a choice of name that the father doesn't like, this is his child too , and I don't think that's a healthy way to exist in a relationship, especially when bringing children into it, very immature tit-for-tat approach.

Mabli is unfortunately not happening. It turns out he'd told his mum and she put him off. Stupid man. Her suggestion is Hilary.
See what I'm working with?

@DramaAlpaca

What a shame. Mabli is such a pretty Welsh name. It's not the same, but the nearest English name is Mabel I suppose - any good, or too vintage?

Can you give us examples of the names you both like, then we might be able to help you find a middle ground.

Mabel is a lovely name! +1

I find myself in a similar situation and we don't know if its a boy or a girl yet but we can't agree on any boy's name
So I hope it is a girl We might name her Gwendoline. Gwen or Lini for short.

Mara?

@WeasilyPleased

Mabli is unfortunately not happening. It turns out he'd told his mum and she put him off. Stupid man. Her suggestion is Hilary. See what I'm working with?

tricky one there OP.

@MaraScottie

Mara?

Mara is a demonic name. Folklore, mythology, and religion — Mara (demon), in Buddhism · Mara (folklore), a wraith-like creature in Germanic and Scandinavian folklore.

I know it from the Scandinavian myths.

I love both Mabli and Hilary!

Are you particularly looking for a welsh name?

What a shame. What about Amabel?

God, I'm not that keen on Mabli (sorry) but it's a hundred times better than Hilary. Sorry also to any Hilarys. Think I'll just go now.

Hilary! Good god that’s awful.