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Using the same name for two children?

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HelloWorld2577 · 07/09/2021 10:53

Hello!

So with my son if he was a girl he would've been Aurora. However, he was not so the nickname I'd always loved and envisioned using for Aurora was Rory. I gave my son the middle name of Rory as should I not have another child I wanted it in there somewhere!

...I am now pregnant with a baby girl and I still love the name Aurora however due to wanting to use the nickname Rory I'm apprehensive about using the name Aurora as I think it's a bit weird using effectively my sons middle name for my girls first name. It is however a name I've been in love with for 6 years and my partner still wants to use the name Aurora and we can't seem to agree on any other names!

HELP!

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BichonFrizz · 07/09/2021 10:54

Do it. You love it. Middle names are rarely used.

BaronessBomburst · 07/09/2021 10:54

That's fine! it's not the same name at all.

Wallabyone · 07/09/2021 10:55

My friend have her third son her first son's middle name as a first name. I thought 'hmm, is that weird?' And then haven't thought about it until now 😂
If you love it, use it.

MySixEggs · 07/09/2021 10:56

I wouldn't care if my siblings middle name was my first name, or vice versa. Middle names are largely pointless tbh! Do it.

vampirethriller · 07/09/2021 10:57

My grandad was one of 12, all called Gordon. Even the girls. So I think you're fine!

SeriouslyISuppose · 07/09/2021 10:58

The only thing that's odd about this is that you're pre-deciding on the name your child is going to be generally known by -- which I think is a bit mad, especially as it's completely different to the actual name in lots of ways. Aurora is a rather high-flown, princessy girl's name, Rory a very ordinary (though nice) boy's name. It's a bit like naming your daughter Annabella and calling her Jim.

MySixEggs · 07/09/2021 11:06

It's a bit like naming your daughter Annabella and calling her Jim.

Yes, I do agree with this, hard as it is to hear.

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HelloWorld2577 · 07/09/2021 11:15

@vampirethriller

My grandad was one of 12, all called Gordon. Even the girls. So I think you're fine!
no way😂Gordan 1 gordan 2 😂😂
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HelloWorld2577 · 07/09/2021 11:21

@MySixEggs

It's a bit like naming your daughter Annabella and calling her Jim.

Yes, I do agree with this, hard as it is to hear.

It probably is lol. It's just a name I've loved for years and the nickname Rory I've loved since the Gilmore Girls era and it fits with Aurora. It wouldn't be her name 100% of the time it would be a nickname I would personally use for her but everyone else would likely refer to her as Aurora.
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GrandmaSteglitszch · 07/09/2021 11:37

My DC are adults.
As a child, my DD would have hated to have her older brother's middle name as her first name, in any form and for whatever reason you had.
She'd probably have insisted on being called by her middle name, or by another name of her choice.

You want to do this to indulge yourself, not with thought for your new daughter as an individual.

At the very least, don't use Rory for her if you call her Aurora.

luannlele · 07/09/2021 11:38

Do it her nickname doesn't have up to me Rory it could be Rori instead (when written)

vampirethriller · 07/09/2021 11:39

They were known as their middle names but still, very unusualGrin

Yardley42 · 07/09/2021 11:42

I think that could be quite a cute connection between them as siblings. We're all used to shared names from grandparents and older relatives - why not siblings?

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Yardley42 · 07/09/2021 11:44

Also, there's royal precedent on this - one of Prince George's middle names is Louis which they then used as a first name for the youngest boy.

OldTinHat · 07/09/2021 11:44

@vampirethriller that's the most amazing thing I've ever heard!

TenThousandSpoons · 07/09/2021 11:47

It’s fine.

Chunkymenrock · 07/09/2021 11:50

Rory is just awful for a girl and I really dislike the 'roar roar roar' sound in Aurora. Imagine Jonathan Ross saying it! 😳Grin

Mybobowler · 07/09/2021 11:51

@vampirethriller not wanting to hijack the thread but you can't just leave that golden nugget there, more info needed! They were ALL called Gordon? For first names? Why?! How did they differentiate themselves? I'm so desperate for this to be true, it's brilliant!

GetOffTheTableMabel · 07/09/2021 11:57

@vampirethriller

My grandad was one of 12, all called Gordon. Even the girls. So I think you're fine!
Like “Mrs McCave. She had 23 sons and she named them all Dave!” The absolutely best Dr Seuss story!
WeatherwaxOn · 07/09/2021 12:01

I think it's fine, but would urge a little caution if you have a speech impediment.

Only saying this as I encountered a family recently with an Aurora but the mum couldn't say 'R', and the younger children copied her pronunciation so the child is Awouwa.

Curbaisti · 07/09/2021 12:08

I used my 3rd sons middle name as first name for my surprise 4th. Not one person has noticed

Peanutsandchilli · 07/09/2021 12:12

I considered something similar, using a version of my eldest daughter's middle name for my youngest. I asked her what she thought, and she said it was ok (she was 15 at the time) but I got the impression she was a bit annoyed by the idea, so I didn't use it.

MrsMiddleMother · 07/09/2021 12:34

Sorry I think that's awful. Naming your little girl Aurora is lovely but calling her by her brothers middle name is awful. Makes no difference if its Rory or Steve it's your sons name. You wouldn't call your son Sophie if that's your daughters middle name.

DuchessSilver · 07/09/2021 12:37

I think you should take inspiration from @vampirethriller instead and call her Gordon