I don't care what the baby's name is

[ThedaBara]

Is this normal/ has anyone else felt this way?

DH and I have a DD, we agonized over her name my entire pregnancy, it took forever and we picked a name we both absolutely love.
Pregnant with DS now, and I just sort of don't care. I don't feel the same way about picking his name at all, DH has picked some options and they're all fine, nothing I'm too excited about. I guess I feel bad, but I also deep down feel that boys names are all quite boring (and interchangeable).
I'm obviously happy and feel blessed to have a DS join our family and love him already! Have started to buy clothes, get the room ready etc. Just don't feel any way about the name :/

Maybe it's because you haven't come across the right name yet

I agree sounds like you just haven't found the right name yet

I was so apathetic about naming ds. I just didnt have a love name. I had about 4 for dd.

In the end dh had one or two names he really loved so I just agreed to the one I preferred of the two.

Even now I dont love ds name in the same way I do dds. Everyone I know who knows his name absoloutley loves it so hopefully he will/does too.

It could be that many people instinctively choose more classic names for their boys (aka what some people call "boring") perhaps because they are more concerned about teasing - it's likely the reason there has only been one name for girls that's stayed in the top 100 all this time (Elizabeth) yet there are 7 names for boys that have never left as far as I know (James, Thomas, Charles, George, Alexander, Edward and William).

If your DH is attracted to more classic/boring names for your DS, you could possibly use a more "exciting" nn for them over time if it helps -eg. Bear for Edward rather than Ed, Xan for Alexander instead of Alex, or something not related to their name at all like Sonny?

I was never that bothered about my daughter’s name. To me, the important thing was having a baby (we tried for a long time) and I knew the name would just become hers whatever. Hope that makes sense haha.

Thank you, glad it's not just me!
I definitely think that part of the 'problem' is that we are just looking at traditional names. I quite liked August, which is what princess Eugenie called her baby, but DH thinks this is too out there, plus the baby is due in August so would be a bit silly?
So, just not going to get involved and DH pick

I think Augustus is a more classic name than August, and would be cute for an August-born baby.

What names has your DH suggested?

August or better still, Augustus would be fab for a baby due in August. A bit odd if due in January.

Same with my last one, brought him home and showed DH who then picked his name :)

I had the reverse with DD, her name is a compromise as I knew what I didn’t like. I found boys names much more interesting when naming DS and already had a name lined up for another boy whilst pregnant with no. 2. I was actually up for letting the clinical support worker who was in theatre pick from our list but DH drew the line at that

I think Gus would be a lovely nickname and no too out there for your Dh.

I don’t get the angst about names. I think people get ridiculously over invested in the whole thing. Just pick something you like, that’s reasonably classic so that people won’t go “what??” when he’s asked what it is!

I like August and prefer it to Augustus. It’s on an upward trajectory in popularity at the moment. Would your husband consider looking at names from top 100-200? So maybe not as overused to feel ubiquitous to you, but still feels traditional enough for him. I find with boys names there is far less of a sweet spot of underused classic, without being bizarre.

Dh likes Nicholas, which is fine, nothing to write home about!

Maybe when he arrives you'll look at him and just know?

Love the name August OP it's not too out there it's cool

I was the same over boys names. Couldn’t get much interest up. Would have let Dh have whatever he wanted within reason. We had a girl in the end though and i had a lot more to say about that. I think with boys names you just want something boyish and normal. Girls there’s a lot more to consider because girls names seem to have more connotations

Don’t let your husband pick solo. His taste is so dull you might as well call your baby Boy#43276. August is lovely, and not at all ‘out there’.

Native American wait til the child is 7 before naming it, I believe

I’m currently 29 weeks and feel the same about baby names as I did about my wedding dress. There’s so much pressure for “the one” when in reality just choose one you both like and won’t age badly.

We didn't name any of our children until they were at least a week old. I really don't understand the big rush to choose!

We jokingly sounded out different names with their surname but never with the actual intention of choosing one before they were actually born. There were a couple we liked, but once born they didn't look anything like they suited them anyway if you know what I mean.

The time pressure is only re registration of the birth and you can add the chosen name later.

August is ridiculous imo.

There are some fabulous boys’ names out there. Nicholas is not one of them.

@De88

We didn't name any of our children until they were at least a week old. I really don't understand the big rush to choose!

We jokingly sounded out different names with their surname but never with the actual intention of choosing one before they were actually born. There were a couple we liked, but once born they didn't look anything like they suited them anyway if you know what I mean.

We were actually on our way to register DS when we finally decided, and he was eight weeks old by then. We called him 'the baby' for quite a while even after that.

What about Angus?