Same name as cousin

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Would this bother you? Live around 10 mins from each other, will not attend the same school or see each other more than once a week.
It is a family name for me, partner did not agree for DD1 but has agreed for DD2 after realising what the name means to my family, the babies will have different surnames.

Please give your dd her own name.

Even if you introduce her as Charlotte she may well want to be known as Charlie.

We have discussed and always said if we had another DD that would be her name so they was aware and still picked.

They used it first then. Maybe they've liked it for a long time too?

I'd find another name for your dd.

Is there not one single other name you like? Really?

Use the name as a middle name. You can't dictate what they go by ( eg charlotte/Charlie) forever.

If it's important to you yes I would use it. You don't pick your child's name for other people's convenience.

It's also less of a big deal given the names aren't actually identical.

Why did you not name your first dd this name?

Could you now use it as a middle name to honour your family?

I guess it depends how much you see the cousins.

If you only them once a year at Christmas, then it really doesn’t matter.

If you seem them all the time, it’s problematic.

It's ridiculous tbh. Pick a different name.

Live around 10 mins from each other, will not attend the same school or see each other more than once a week.

In that case I'd give the cousins separate names.

How did I miss that 😂

Def a different name then.

@Violetlavenders

Why did you not name your first dd this name?

Could you now use it as a middle name to honour your family?

As previously mentioned my partner chose DD1 name and vetoed the family name as he did not get to meet the great aunt who’s name I wish to choose. Now he knows how much she meant to the whole family he would like to use it

Honour your great aunt by using it as a middle name.

I think this is only acceptable is there's an obvious reason for it, i.e family significance, and the children will have different day-to-day names. So in your case it might be ok.

It's a bit naff, there's loads of lovely names out there. I'd be a bit miffed if my parents named me the same as my cousin!

yes, it would've bothered me, which is why my SILs and I agreed to never name kids the same first name as a previous cousin.
but 3 of them have the same middle name (their grandfather's first name) and DD's first name is the same as a cousin's middle name...her eldest cousin is her godfather so had she been a boy godfather's first name would've been the middle name.

my PILs have 4 sons and 26 grandkids. it's been fun picking names!!!🤣
(we are all done now)

We have this is our family and it's not been an issue.

GFI life is too short to have regrets

They could be Chalie Anne and Charlie Jade to your family (and also if you pick another name like Lily you could end up with this situation in her school classes)

When you let your partner choose the first child’s name and veto a family name - there was always a risk that someone else in the family used it being a family name.

That’s what’s got you into this situation.

If you had stuck to your guns first time round, and he had listened to you, DD1 would have had the name.

I think it’s ok if you’re really set on the name. Not many people know their cousins as adults anyway

@TatianaBis on the other side of the family actually but thank you for the opinion

Whatever side of the family, you let DH veto a name you wanted, someone else in the family used it, that’s life. You’ll piss them off and you see them on a weekly basis.