Thanksgiving? It is too much?

[Cma1988]

Hiya, I’ve name changed here as I’m giving my child’s name so just using this username for this thread.
I’m due baby girl in a few days, (Dd3) and my DH and I are trying to pick a name.

We are really looking for a virtue name - we have Dd1 who is Honour, and we also had dd2 who sadly was born sleeping, due to lots of complications in pregnancy, who we also gave a virtue name.

We are looking for a name that marks the joy of having another girl after our loss and for what has been thankfully a good pregnancy.

We can’t use Joy though as a baby in our very close friendship circle has just been name Joy. Also can’t use Grace for a similar reason.

We are thinking ‘Thanksgiving’, as this conveys thankfulness and a sense of giving back for our blessing. DH loves it and wants it to be a done deal but I am thinking - it’s quite a mouthful and a big name to give to a little girl, what if it’s too much? And what would we shorten Thanksgiving to?

Can I have your thoughts on Thanksgiving, or if you think it’s too much, do you have any other suggestions?

We are Christians if that gives any context.

What about

Love
Dawn
Destiny
Merry

Thanksgiving would be an absolute millstone of a name with so many people going 'what? like the American holiday?'

Amity (friendship) or Felicity are nice virtue names.

And I like the idea of choosing a name that's not a virtue name but means joy/happiness such as

Farrah
Naomi
Allegra (love this one)

Good luck!

How about Esperanza (means hope) or Iris (goddess of the rainbow)?

Or Felicity as a pp suggested - comes from the Latin for "happiness" but also "good fortune"

Many Black cultures use these types of words as names and so I think it is culturally appropriate and would not raise too many eyebrows.
If you like it, then use it. I feel a lot of replies on here are coming from a very white viewpoint and could be considered to be bordering on racist, to be honest.

I love unusual names, so would love to meet a Thanksgiving :)

There are lots of other lovely names suggested here too though.

I have a Hosanna, who was born after we were told we'd not have children. Not everyone loves her name, but it generally gets an ok reception, and often we find that people have met at least one other Hosanna, so it's not TOTALLY unusual.

Good luck with your name hunt :)

@zurala

Many Black cultures use these types of words as names and so I think it is culturally appropriate and would not raise too many eyebrows. If you like it, then use it. I feel a lot of replies on here are coming from a very white viewpoint and could be considered to be bordering on racist, to be honest.

Definitely a narrow view of what is an acceptable name on this thread.

I think there are words that are used as names in black cultures that might seem unusual to white ears but are fine (eg Precious, Blessing, I used to work with a Monday) and there are names that would just be really annoying to have - and Thanksgiving is in the latter camp. Mostly because it is long so would definitely be shortened, and there isn’t anything obvious to shorten it to other than ‘Thanks’. It would be really annoying if every time someone said thanks you thought they were asking for you!

What about Favour?

^Many Black cultures use these types of words as names and so I think it is culturally appropriate and would not raise too many eyebrows.
If you like it, then use it. I feel a lot of replies on here are coming from a very white viewpoint and could be considered to be bordering on racist, to be honest.^

^This.

I love Favour. Also Blessing. I am biased on Comfort as one of my best friends is Comfort and she just lives her name! Beautiful choice.

Also have one friend named Trouble - nicest man you can imagine and he is soooo good to his mama after the traumatic birth that gave him the name.

I'm not usually a fan of virtue names as being named, say, Joy and then being clinically depressed or Grace and being hopelessly clumsy is not fun. But something that speaks to your parents' joy at having you - that's always lovely.

I pit your poor daughter if you call her that..,.she will be ridiculed in school

Many Black cultures use these types of words as names and so I think it is culturally appropriate and would not raise too many eyebrows.
If you like it, then use it. I feel a lot of replies on here are coming from a very white viewpoint and could be considered to be bordering on racist, to be honest

This. Those saying she will be ridiculed are obviously from a white non diverse background.

Names like this are entirely normal in some cultures. Not everyone is white british , or expects everyone else in this country to conform to white british norms.

@Kitkat151

I pit your poor daughter if you call her that..,.she will be ridiculed in school

Then the school should pull up the bullys

Yes, opinions on this forum can be very Anglo-centric but I still think the OP can come up with a better name than Thanksgiving. More commonly used names like Blessing or Miracle are nice words in themselves, pleasant to say and hear, but Thanksgiving is just clunky. And that's before the whole American holiday association. Would be such a pain for her if she ever found herself working in the US.

Unless you're 17th Century Puritans/First Settlers, this is a terrible idea. Think of poor Inspector Morse and Endeavour!
And I always think it's a shame to saddle girls with virtue names - they sound so passive.

@MrsFin

TBH, I think three virtue names of one family (all girls) is a bit much, albeit one DD passed away.

I think your comment is uncalled for. Do you possess any tact?

@Cma1988

Thanks for all the replies. I did kind of expect the response to be honest as I had a feeling it would be too much as a name.

I’m going to show DH the responses as he is still set that it is a nice name because of the meaning.

Our precious dd2, is Hope, and we also can’t use Joy and Grace, but I’m going to have a think about the suggestions given, so thank you.

I love Blessing, Harmony and Felicity, and Faith

I also love Hannah, but we also wanted a virtue name to go with DD1 and DD2.

How about Hannukah if you like Hannah

Well, I am probably a lone voice in the wilderness but I think it is rather nice! And, although I have not read the full thread, several posters have quite correctly pointed out that virtue names are popular in African countries and cultures. The largely white, Anglo demographic of MN is clearly showing through.

It is a lovely name, in my view, use it by all means and hang what anybody else thinks. If it has a special meaning to you, and you alone, after your sad loss, that is good enough reason.

Translate it into another language

Like Icelandic - she can be þakkargjörðarhátíð

Ignore me, I'm on my 3rd limoncello spritzer 😆

Some good advice on here, congrats on your bundle and sorry for your loss 😍

You've asked people not to joke about this name but I seriously think if you give it to her she will have a lifetime of people making ajoke of her name and having to explain it. Also what would it get shortened too Ta or Thanks? Sorry for your loss but it's no excuse to burden dc.with such a name when so many more to pick from.

I am appalled that so many think that a child would be teased, mocked or bullied for having an unusual name which may possibly reflect their cultural or family heritage. But perhaps I am just old fashioned and come from an era when respect, consideration, humility and manners were the norm.

For what it is worth my username means "thank you very much" in Kiswahili and, although I am not myself of African heritage, my wife is, as are my inlaws, many of whom have similar names. I would be disgusted by anyone who made fun of or questioned their carefully chosen and meaningful names.

Reading Ta made me think you could shorten it to Tag or Taggie if you did go for it which made me warm to it a little bit.

She could be TG.

So there's a kid my eldest went to school with called SJ.

Then people can ask and she could say what it means.

Or Tigi

My eldest goes to school with a little girl called Blessing. I think it's lovely, her name is exactly what she is