Would it be weird...

[MumOfThreeToBe2021]

To give both twin babies the same middle name? After a family member of that makes any difference.

Eg. First name - same name - surname

Or

First name - different middle same - same middle name - surname

I think I’d go for the second option there

Second option

I think it's a bit weird either way to be honest.

Yeah, I’d say it’s a bit weird. Can you not find another family member to name the baby after?

Twin 1 - First name, maternal grandmother’s name, surname
Twin 2 - First name, paternal grandmother’s name, surname

Second option and I don’t think it’s remotely weird.

Plenty of people have a shared middle - often something like the mother’s surname or a name from family.

First option is still ok but their first names would need to be very different. Ideally I’d just add in another middle though.

Give one the family middle name and the other a different name

2nd option, I suppose, though I agree with pp, find another family member's name?
I know someone with 4 daughters. She has given them all the same middle name ( along the lines of Jane, Louise), and it's not even her name or a family name. Weird.

I don't think it's odd. My DF and his brother and two sisters all had the same middle name. Nobody asks about middle name anyway.

I just think there are so many nice names in the world it’s nice to use different ones if you can. Some people do repeat middle names between siblings but I don’t really get it personally

I don’t think it too odd.
My grandma had 8 children and called her dd3 dd2’s middle name if that makes sense
So Dd 2 was Patricia Elizabeth
And dd3 Elizabeth

I did wonder if it's a bit weird myself, but I ask because not giving the name to both of them would mean 1 twin having 2 family names and the other not having any (due to initials it creates!)

So giving them both their own middle name followed by family name solves that, but I can't decide if that's still a bit much.

(Yes at least one of them having the family name is non negotiable!)

When you say two family names, can you not split them?

I think there are times siblings with same middle names can work, e.g. blended families where sisters have different last names. But in this scenario I don't think it's a good idea. As twins they may already struggle with having a unique identity away from their twin, having a name that is almost identical won't help them being seen as individuals.

If that particular name is very important can you use different versions - Alex/Sacha, Jim/James, Christoper/Kit...

What would happen if they all wanted to go by their middle names. You'd have 3 kids with the same name. Mind you it worked for George Forman I suppose, so who am I to object

The second option is good - nothing wrong with having four names.

I would strongly discourage option one if they have any siblings who don't have that same middle name. (Your username suggests there's an older sibling.)

Same middle name is fine.

It's an honour to a family member & hardly ever used!

2 middles names is annoying & unnecessary

It would only be weird if it was first names 🤣

Hi MumOfThreeToBe202
In my husbands family they all have the same middle name, both male and female. His mother was a great believer in St. Jude so they all had it
( Jude, not St. ), all the grandchildren and now great grandchildren have it.
It's actually a lovely tradition. Not for all, but it works in this family.

I think it's nice! It's only a middle name.

Option 2. My son has 2 middle names (the 2nd being my maiden name) no one has ever commented on it other than how nice I'm carrying on the family name

I know two men with the same name as a middle name after their dad. First and only time I’ve come across it. I just thought it was a bit unusual but didn’t give it more thought than that. I could understand why. I’d say it’s fine.

No all the women in my mum’s family share a middle name - my sister and have have a third name also, but not all the family does. It’s a nice family thing.

But if they are twins I’d give them a different third name each also - bit less twinny

It's weird.
Nor would I land 2 middle names on a child - or, on you as you will be the one filling in forms for them for the first 18 years, and obviously two at a time for all things at the same time.

If it is important you you to copy someone else's name, then can't you do as BeingATwat suggests and also use someone else's name for your other dc ?

Weird as.

I think same middle name is ok

I know twins with the same middle name, they also have the same first initial. I can't see the problem with the same middle name.