Hello,
My DD got a name when she was born. I wasn't certain about this name. It was a pretty 'special' combination, where we decided to put her 'calling name' as her second name, because the initials would seem better. Her 'first' name is an oldfashioned official name of my mother's. DM's real calling name is different. The name we used for calling my daughter actually didn't feel right before birth, but I was then in total panic and couldn't make a right decision and I think I pulled my DH in this situation with me and finally decided on a more unusual calling name. S. al. om. e. That's was her name. I really didn't feel right about this from the start and I really freaked out about it, end ended up in some sort of depression. I never heard from any person ever being in this situation and felt so super emotional, guilty and full of shame. I knew for sure that I needed another name for her....but just didn't know what name. The name we also liked was just 'taken' by a niece that had just been born. We are really close and it just wouldn't feel right to go and use this name. So, there I was, a total mess and just didn't know what to do. We ended up at a psychiatrist and he 'made' us chose a name one day...and we chose the name E.v.a. So different. We chose in a period of total depression and panic. Now, a few months later I look back on this very strange period and feel so sad how it all went. This is not the name I want my daughter to be called, but why can't I just make a decision about what would fit her and us better???? Every moment of the day I'm busy finding a solution. I'm a believer and also praying for it. I know we have the 'authority' as parents to give our little baby girl a name we love for her. But the difficult thing is I just don't know what name will fit. I hope the coming weeks I will feel peace about a name that's closer to my heart and will feel the courage to be able to make the decision to be calling her by her new name.
Anyone any advice? Or experience on this subject?
Love.....