Can I give my DS2 my DS1's middle name as first name?

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Baby due in May, my DS1 is 2 and his middle name is Theodore.

We are having difficulties finding a name both of us like and we both really like our DS1's middle name.

Is this something we can do? I'm not sure if it's 'acceptable'. Just looking or honest opinions, without being rude please x

I wouldn't personally, to be honest.

Keep looking, you'll find something you like just as much.

@DramaAlpaca you're probably right and if it felt just right, I wouldn't ask on here.

I even said maybe he has to arrive for us to find a name we agree on x

It does sound like ds2 is an afterthought. Not saying he is, but it could look like that.

Yes, but then I’d change DS1’s middle name to something else.

Yes I don’t see why not

Of course you can !

I would. I wanted to use dd1's middle name for dd2. I didn't and still have regrets. If you love the name, I say go for it

Didn’t Prince William do that with Prince Louis? I think that’s one of George’s middle names.

I've had friends who's parents did this. So DD1 was Sophie Jane and DD2 was Jane Louise (not real names)
They loved having that link.

I personally wouldn't (I have a family member who did this and the older sister is still annoyed at having her middle name 'stolen').

Of course your dc might not mind, or may even like the connection... but there's no way to be sure.

I am the 2nd child in that scenario, people often assume I have her name as a middle name (I don't). It makes very little difference to anything as our middle names are used so rarely. Can't say I've ever been bothered, or that my sister felt her name was stolen

I would do it.
I know someone else who did it too and it seems to have caused no issues.

No-give then their own name. It’s like you used up all your favourites on your first child.

I wouldn't do it. It doesn't seem fair to DS2. I'm sure there's another name out there that you'll love just as much, just need to find it. Good luck!

I would use it.

I would. Who ever uses their middle name.

I have one sisters middle name as my first name and the others first name as my middle name! It's never bothered me and as a child I loved it! I thought it was great that we all had a combination of each other's name. It's never bothered me or them; I really can't relate to the feelings mentioned above of having your name stolen or not having your own name.

Of course you can. I know a family who did and while I did raise an eyebrow on first hearing I certainly never thought it was a bad thing.

Of course you can’t! Don’t be silly. There are thousands of names, pick one that does t make DS2 seem like an afterthought.

We sort of have it the other way round. DC2’s middle name is DC1’s first name but in another language. I personally think it’s bonkers but DH was adamant and it’s the name he wanted to give to DC1 but I vetoed in favour of an anglicised version.

I don't think this is a problem, I know several people who have names that link to their siblings or cousins names.

That said, it wouldn't be my personal preference - I'd be looking pretty hard for something else first

Mixed opinions on here it seems.

We will continue to look until he's born and then we have 2 weeks to name him. It might be easier once he's here, some people say you know once they are here whereas with DS1, we knew before he arrived.

Thanks for your opinions.

As a PP pointed out, Prince William and Catherine did it, Luis is one of Prince George's middle names. I think it was probably because they didn't know that they would definitely have another son, and they really loved and wanted to use the name (because of Luis Mountbatten I think), so when they did have another son they wanted to use it as his first name, because it was a special name to them. You can explain that to hour children when they are older, that you really loved both names you gave your first son, but had to choose one to go first, and that if you had had some way of knowing that you would definitely have another boy, then you would have kept it for him anyway.
The short version is - yes use the name again, no problem!

Yes you can. I would do it if, after thoroughly looking, I couldn't come up with something else that I liked as much. I would also consider changing first son's middle to something else, but it doesn't matter if you don't.

Yes. A nice link between them