Can I give my DS2 my DS1's middle name as first name?

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Baby due in May, my DS1 is 2 and his middle name is Theodore.

We are having difficulties finding a name both of us like and we both really like our DS1's middle name.

Is this something we can do? I'm not sure if it's 'acceptable'. Just looking or honest opinions, without being rude please x

Yeah, why not. My sisters name is a slightly altered version of my middle name (think Rose/Rosie) and I don’t think anyone’s ever thought it was weird.

Please don't. My name compared to my siblings' names looks like my parents didn't care or put any thought into choosing my name.

Your second son is a person who deserves their own name, first and second.

You have no idea if when older your Ds1 taunts your Ds2 that he has a hand-me-down name or copied his name. You do not know if their relationship will be cordial.

There are thousands of names out there. We had the same issue, had Ds1 and only had 1 first name and 1 middle name if he was a boy, then found out I was having another boy. We thought we would never find one. We did. 2 of them in fact.

I think I would use it; I asked DP what my middle name was recently and he had no clue.

I would do it, like previously mentioned how often are people referred to by middle names

It’s not ideal but it’s definitely something people do (Princes George and Louis). I know one person who did this with her DDs and both the DDs have no issue with it.

I would try and find a different name if possible but if nothing else feels right, to use the middle name.

I regret my DS’s middle name myself now because I’ve started thinking how nice that name would be as a first name if we ever had another boy...

Also Ryan gosling and Eva Mendes did it . One is Esmeralda Amanda the other is Amanda Lee

If you're not comfortable with it, name him Theo, so not quite the same (although I can't see the problem).

Only if its a family name

I know twins who have the same first and middle names but swapped round and it seems a bit sad like they will never have their own identity but always be the twins.

Muddlemoo
I was coming on to say that.
It used to be quite a traditional thing.
Micheal david smith and david Michael smith.

I did.

My youngest doesn't feel like second best or like we couldn't be bothered or anything negative. He knows we couldn’t think of another name we loved as much and didn’t want to give him a name we didn’t love 100%.

They would DEFINITELY tell us if it was a problem - they're teenagers now and have no problem casting up anything and everything.

No

This is why all middle names are meant to be crap/embarrassing - saves this scenario!

Joking of course. I think I would use it if you really like it.

It’s like you used up all your favourites on your first child
Thats exactly what she's done!

Yes

We blew our favourite names in DS1 so had to recycle for DS2. I think you're over thinking it. Unless you call them both Desmond noone will notice.

Absolutely you can. We have lots of examples of this in my family where one of the siblings was given a significant family name as their first name and the middle name is also important and will be the second child's first name if blessed with another. For example (but doesn't have to be like this) naming son 1 after one parent's father Ali Abdul and son 2 after the other parent's father Abdul Murat.

Give your child his own name, the only thing that’s his. Why should they have to share everything?

You could say to the children that child one was keeping the name safe for the second child but also I think if you do do it it would be nice to have first child's name as second child's middle name so they don't feel left out.
If people think it's odd I wouldn't worry- there are cultures where people name the children after themselves and no one raises an eyebrow.

Some of these responses are hilarious.

Of course you can OP! The child won't feel unloved, or forgotten about just because they have the same name as their elder brothers middle name.

If love was measured only by name choice then some people would be seriously stuffed.

My middle name is my sisters first name. I'm the younger sister, but it's never occurred to me that my parents didn't love me because of this, and I don't think my sister has ever given it a thought.

If we'd have had 2 boys, my second son would've had DS1's middle name as a first name as we didn't like any others. As it happened, I had a girl.

Go for it!