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Fae - can it be a nickname?

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MoonlightMagic · 01/03/2021 14:16

Looking for name that you can plausibly use nickname Fae out of it.

I have thought of Rafaela, Freya, Faelan, Faerie/Faery/Fairy & Phoebe
Fairy and it's variants are big no to be in terms of usability, while Faelan is boys name in Ireland, meaning wolf and I feel iffy about this. Phoebe is name I like, but not that much, while Rafaela is pronounced Rafa-ella, instead of Raf-ella.
I do like Freya nn Fae, but I obviously need no nickname for Freya

what bothers me about Fae is that, based on pronunciation, it's barely three sounds - F-A-Y or maybe F-A, depending on accents... so I'm debating about Fae's usability.
I do not like Fay or Faye.

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KirstenBlest · 01/03/2021 21:41

Faelicia
Faelatia
Faella
Faebella
Faetania

Porridgeoat · 01/03/2021 21:42

Faith

nocoolnamesleft · 01/03/2021 21:50

@LadySorceress

anyway, I don't really care about this discussion anymore. It's obvious you don't have any experience with bullying, and I came here asking for longer forms for Fae, so this isn't something I'm interested in discussing with someone who wants to burden all kinds of bullying with name jokes.
I described my experience of being bullied, for sounding too posh. I was remorselessly bullied for years. You were the one to dismiss it.
LouNatics · 01/03/2021 21:50

Morgan!

LouNatics · 01/03/2021 21:59

Some of the above are too close to Fellatio for my liking.

Frances has all the letters in the right order.

I think if I heard it was a shortening I’d assume Faith.

Tiffany? Seraphina?

BobbitWormNightmares · 01/03/2021 22:01

I also think you should just name her Fae. Theres literally no such thing as a 3 letter, one syllable name being too short. Confused

However, as another suggestion, you could do a double barrel name?

E.g Louisa Fae.

spottygymbag · 01/03/2021 22:02

We have Fae as a middle name. Wanted Faith but it was too much of a mouthful given the surname. Got a bit jumbled up. I've always like led the 'ae' spelling and had a friend when younger who was Mae.

Furrybutts · 01/03/2021 22:04

Seraphina

SenecaTrewe · 01/03/2021 22:07

@MillyMinamino

Fae is a neo-pronoun which seems to be increasing in popularity with some non-binary people. Just in case you're not aware.

What??

BiBabbles · 01/03/2021 22:11

With Fae, Faeryn or Faerune, I would assume you're a fantasy fan, though I guess with your usernames that isn't much of an issue. I think double names could also work.

I think the thing that upset people was:
So, kid can have unusual name, but if kid's well spoken, that's usually all it takes for bully to ignore him/her.
also, when it comes to things bully wants to joke about on something, unusual name is thing bullies pick up last.

and then telling people who've experienced bullying that people just misunderstand jokes - it's a bit inappropriate when someone says they were the victim of bullying to dismiss that out of hand as children joking: the audience decides the joke, not the person who thinks they're a comedian.

Children tend to pick up on the derision from who and what is around them - media, their peers, adults, and so on - so if any of those mock people who are/"act posh" and characterise that by particular odd names or being well-spoken, then yeah, a child who fits that may experience bullying based on that. If the derision is towards people with traits associated with "oiks", "yokels", "chavs", "those who can't take a joke", whatever... what causes a child to target another for abuse depends in large part on the culture around the child. What's easy pickings in one place won't be the same as another.

My DD1 has been experiencing abuse for the way she speaks since Y7 and is now Y9 years now, mostly verbal remarks, having people scream in her face about it, and once being chased home. There was actually an issue at her school for a bit as there was a common idea with some adults that children don't bully for being well-spoken or an American accent and it took her being called a mongrel and that she couldn't be British to get the school to step in properly. The fact it took the bullies moving to xenophobic attacks disappointed me, I'd hope professionals were better trained in this.

Oddly, my DS1 has a stammer, struggles to be 'well-spoken' and that seems like it would be easy pickings -- but he doesn't get remarks about how he talks beyond occasional remarks about his accent (he attends a different school). The things children attack others for varies widely, it's not as predictable as many on baby name threads and even some professionals sometimes think.

BackforGood · 01/03/2021 22:29

It really is very confusing when you change your name part way through a thread, OP. A lot of people have the OP's posts highlighted so that can be sure they are following any updates.

However, back to your question, like so many others, I can't understand, if you want your child to turn / look up / come to you when she hears the sound "Fay", then why not call her "Fay" ? Confused
Giving her a known names, with a made up spelling, is just giving her problems for the whole of her life. Why would you want to do that?

Plump82 · 01/03/2021 22:35

@pshek86

I like Faye but being Glaswegian fae is slang for from. So I would say I'm fae Glasgow......totally puts me off....sorry
I came on to say exactly this.
FayLivvie · 01/03/2021 23:23

My name is Fay. I spelt it Fae for a long time. It never gets shortened unlike a lot of names.

RosesAndHellebores · 01/03/2021 23:30

Felicia
Ophelia

OllyBJolly · 01/03/2021 23:41

The two lovely women I know called Fae use it to avoid their given name - Euphemia. Not due a comeback anytime soon.

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