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Using DS1 middle name for new baby

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DollyParton2 · 30/01/2021 23:39

Hi all
I’m due with a little boy in a few weeks. We had 2 names I’ve been going back and forwards with the whole pregnancy but not in love with either/ keep going off them. Suddenly saw DS middle name in print and it reminded me how much I love it!
It’s non sentimental/ family connection we just liked the name.
Would you bat an eyelid if you knew a friend had used 1 of their DCs middle names for a future sibling?
I personally don’t get the emphasis or importance of middle names, it’s lovely if there is a family connection etc but I usually barely remember or think about them. Neither me or DH think it’s an issue at all but agree we love this name.
Interested in thoughts, thanks!

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Connelloni · 31/01/2021 20:23

I think it’s a bad idea. I know sisters where this happened, although the first was given a short form middle name of the second sister’s first name. Think for example

Louise Abi Surname and
Abigail Helen Surname

All fine, except as an adult Louise decided she’d never liked her name and would now be known as Abi. So now there are two sisters called Abi and Abigail, and the original Abigail can never go by Abi (as she did when younger) because how fucking weird would that be.

You must be able to think of another name out of the thousands available

Lazypuppy · 31/01/2021 20:28

@DollyParton2
I don’t like top 20 names at ALL. I feel why label a child with such a bog standard, average heard everywhere name that has lost any appeal or individuality through being heard everywhere.

Wow OP, could you be any more insulting?

I thought no issue with you using the middle name for next baby, but not very 'individual' is it...your own words.

Annamaywong25 · 31/01/2021 20:30

Did this with ds1 and ds2. Never been an issue with them, they are adults now. Don't see a problem with it at all. Same as you OP, I just loved the name.

Iamstrugglingtopick · 31/01/2021 20:48

I honestly do not understand why this is being so frowned upon?

What if OP wanted the middle name to be DS1 first name but her husband said no, so she gave it as a middle name thinking she might not have another boy?!

OP pick the name you love.

wanderlove · 01/02/2021 18:04

I have both my sisters middle names as my first and middle name. I don't mind, I never minded as a child and saw it quite positively as it linked us all together.

finallychangedmyusername · 01/02/2021 18:40

I definitely wouldn't. You say you really love this name - Well that's great cos you've used it already!

I'd be gutted if I was given a reused name as a younger sibling. There are so, so many great boys names out there, I would definitely use another.

smoothchange · 01/02/2021 19:52

@wanderlove

I have both my sisters middle names as my first and middle name. I don't mind, I never minded as a child and saw it quite positively as it linked us all together.

Your literally sisters. You are already 'linked together'

smoothchange · 01/02/2021 19:52

You're

WagnerTheWehrWolf · 01/02/2021 20:15

I don’t like top 20 names at ALL. I feel why label a child with such a bog standard, average heard everywhere name that has lost any appeal or individuality through being heard everywhere.

The irony of this when you're planning to recycle one your first son's names. Individuality?

wanderlove · 02/02/2021 10:02

@smoothchange
You might not have liked it. I liked it. I'm just providing a counter to all the people that said that the younger sibling would feel second best. I didn't. I liked it so it not necessarily a negative thing.

smoothchange · 02/02/2021 10:05

@wanderlove

My post to you wasn't even about whether I 'liked' the idea of not. It was purely the fact that you consider it to have 'linked' you, when you are siblings who will forever be linked anyway!

wanderlove · 02/02/2021 12:45

It guess it was a more tangible link that we could think about. Say when people are named after their grandparents or a special family member. They are linked anyway through genetics but it's also nice to have naming link

FeelTheRush · 02/02/2021 13:11

I think this a bad idea. I have a friend who is one of three (middle child and now in his mid 30s) and is the only one without a middle name, he says this is evidence of how his parents “couldn’t be bothered with him”. That is very likely untrue but i think it flags that if your boys don’t get on naming the youngest after the oldest could be an issue the youngest latches on to (e.g. “you don’t love me - you couldn’t even be bothered too give me my own name!!!!”)

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