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TinyJJ · 02/01/2021 01:13

Hello
I'm new here and looking for some advice.
I had a little boy just over 3 weeks ago. We couldn't decide on a name whilst pregnant and even whilst I was in hospital waiting for a bed on the labour ward to be induced, we were looking at baby name lists. My other half didn't like any of my suggestions. He had one name he liked which I didn't. With my daughter naming her was easy and we both agreed on a name before she was born.

My son was born and it took us 3 days to name him but even then I wasn't 100% on the name we have chosen. I felt pressured to decide on a name as we were having people asking us 'have we got a name yet' and the names I loved, my other half didn't and I felt like I had no choice but to agree to this name.
Now he's just over 3 weeks old and I'm really struggling with his name. I feel like I can't call him it and it's affecting me bonding with him. When I hear someone say it I cringe and I'm really upset about it all. I've spoken to my other half about it and he isn't keen at all to change his name and keeps saying 'it's a lovely name' and 'that's his name now'. He's worried about telling people his name has been changed whereas I don't care about that as people will forget and what with covid, nobody has properly met him.
The problem is I don't really have a definite name I would want instead. My other half has said what do you want to change it to and I don't know. I like classic, traditional but not common names. Nearly all the names I've suggested my other half has said no to (Albert and Rupert as examples). Since he's been born I really like the name Edward, with nn Ted but I feel like I know my other half will say no. His middle name is fine but is a family name so I don't want this to be used as a first name. I would also be happy to keep his current first name as a middle name so he has two middle names because it's not that I dislike the name, I just feel like it doesn't fit him as his first name. Plus keeping it as a middle name still gives him what he was identified as for 3 weeks.
I look at my son and think I love him so much and he's such a beautiful baby but I really dislike his name and I'm really annoyed with myself and frustrated that I can't get past this. It's consuming me.
What do I do? Do I seriously push to change his name or do I leave it?
Just wondering if anyone else has had a similar situation and if anyone on here did change their child's name? I'm in the UK.
Thank you

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dottiedaisee · 03/01/2021 09:01

Regardless of people’s opinion on here ...change it,if you are not happy with the name. A friend of mine changed her twins names when they were 6 months old and she has never regretted it. I actually cannot remember their previous names !!

HedgieHog · 03/01/2021 09:08

I think Chester is a fabulous name, much nicer than Edward which feels a bit stuffy to me
Chester and Nancy go lovely

Sausagedog1 · 03/01/2021 11:23

Also wanted to add that I agree with a PP that Chester is hard to see on a baby but a name a child would grow into. My DS has a similar name, and it's only now that he is moving around and more of a character that he suits his name.
As a baby he would have been a great Teddy or Barney (Barney was my fave which DH hated)
My partner thought about names he would like as a teen and man whereas I was obsessed with it being cute enough for my baby.
I actually agree with him now as I think my DS will love his name as he grows, it's cool and strong. As he has ended up with the nickname Beany anyway!
I think you could regret changing to Ted as they are everywhere!

Sausagedog1 · 03/01/2021 11:24

*as a baby he has ended up with the nickname Beany anyway

partyatthepalace · 03/01/2021 13:31

Do change it if you aren't happy - it's common thing to do.

As PP suggested if you DP thinks Edward is too common Theodore nn Ted is nice. Or you could stick with Edward and go for Ned, Teddy or Eddie (I don't think Eddie is that common right now.)

Or if your DP really doesn't like Edward, do a shortlist, sleep on it so you are happy, and then pick a new one w your DP.

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