How do you deal with negative reactions to your baby name?

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So I made the error or telling people the names we are thinking of calling our next baby due soon. I guess I'm just really excited and didnt see it as a big deal. As I did with my DD and I got mixed reactions then and I really didnt care, now everyone loves her name. I dont know what I'm having this time. We have got a top name for both, we love them. But we have had about 90% bad reactions, we have only told immediate family and a few close friends who ask.
I am not necessarily thinking of changing my mind, but nothing is set in stone. But lets say I do change my mind, everyone will be like oh thank God you didnt call her that for her whole life. I guess it's my fault. I should of kept my mouth shut. But its starting to put doubts in my mind slightly. In no way are my names offensive IMO, its not like Lucifer or anything Haha, not that that's offensive IMO! I have mentioned the names on other posts and got mixed reactions but I'm looking for more advice moving forward. Did you have a similar experience? Do people get over it? Did anyone say anything once they were born to you?

I don't dislike the name but as someone whose parents also gave them a name that no one can spell or pronounce, I would think hard about whether you want her to spend her entire life going 'no, only one n' and 'it's actually Rox-ah-na'

I have a strong anti-chav radar and Roxana wouldn’t register on it. Especially with your pronunciation, I would assume a foreign influence but not a made up or stripper name.

I do think you’ll have to correct pronunciation a lot but that’s the case with lots of names.

I knew a Roxy, and she lived up to the name. Never once associated her name with Roxanne-in-the-song.

Go with it.

The first non family I told dd2 name was the mum in the next bed she went silent and said nothing. Her twin boys were called Ben and Tom dull as hell imo - we were never going to be soul mates!

Thanks for all your advice on here it's been really helpful :) and thank you for everyone affirming my feelings towards the name :) it has definitely made me feel better after my little wobble about it. You definitely cant please everyone and I'm happy with our choice.

In regards to the spelling and pronunciation I know it might be a bit of an uphill battle at times, I myself have a name with a different spelling and I spell it out everywhere I go. It's just something I'm used to so it doesnt bother me so much but I get it can be annoying. We will 90% of the time be using the nn Roxy anyway so it wont be a massive issue :) it surprises me how many people say Clem-en-teen instead of tine too. But I like Rox-an-na aswell and Rox-ah-na so it really wont keep me up if someone gets it wrong :) I will just correct them and hope they cotton on Haha

Oooh if you google image search you get a naked woman picture. But it’s painted in the 1500s so that’s fine, it’s classical history not porn!!

Roxy is a great nickname! I've taught quite a few girls named Roxanne/a and Rukhsana. Roxanne/a has always been pronounced with a flat 'a' (like apple) but Rukhsana has had the longer 'ah' sound so it would take me some getting used to if I met a Roxana with a single n and an 'ah' sound.

My search threw up this stripper
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roxana

The song is still sung by thousands of members of the scout association.

I'm confused (Sorry, it does happen a lot, I realise this is me)
Is your dd going to be Roxana ?
Where does Clementine come into it ?

Naming a baby something that makes people think of sex worker would give me pause. That's not a nice connotation.

I do agree with this ^
I also chose not to share names before any of our dc were born, but, as you have, and 90% of people have given you negative feedback, then you have to read into that, that this is what people will be thinking when you introduce her, or she introduces herself all her life. Personally, I'd take that on board, as I wouldn't want that to happen to my dc.

Saying you've been reassured by the last couple of pages on this thread doesn't really make sense, when you specifically asked people to be kind and not post anything negative. You won't be getting feedback that necessarily reflects what comes into people's minds.

@backforgood I disagree, If you read everyone's comment you will see some still have been quite harsh. But I cant just live my life on other peoples opinions. It's really not an offensive name, if someone just walked up to you and was just a normal gal and said hello my name is Roxy you wouldn't think anything of it as it's quite a well known name. I get taking peoples comments on board but I think they are opinions based on a dated song. That honestly isn't that bad like it's really not that bad Haha

And to clarify DD is Clementine she is school age
DC due soon is either going to be Cody or Roxana :)

Oh, sorry (I told you I am easily confused ) I though you had a ds called Cody. Got it now.

Of course you can't live your life on other people's opinions. If you believe strongly in something, then stick with it. However, if you are confident that is the right name, then why come and ask strangers on the internet what they think ?
I do know a Roxy, and she is lovely. Personally, I see loads of names on here that make Roxy seem like a wonderful name .
The point is, you are doubting it. It seems overwhelmingly the people around you don't like it, and that's given you doubts.

At the end of the day, it's up to you and the baby's Dad.

I went to school with a very beautiful girl called Roxanne, so maybe I am a bit biased, but I think it's a lovely name.

I wouldn't object to most friends' name choices though, except when one of my friends decided on a truly terrible name which we thought was a joke at first. Her DP was also 'irrationally against it,' according to her.

Name was Thumbelina.

And the baby (boy as it turned out) ended up with a lovely name. She has no idea now why she thought that was a good idea.

I love clementine!

Yes I agree, It was me doubting.. but I shouldn't of wobbled about it. My OH has never wavered and doesnt care what people think. I didnt with my DD.. maybe I'm just more sensitive this time around Haha.
There has been lots of helpful comments about how to deal with potential negative reactions :)
After all this I bet it will be a boy hahaha, kind of set on that name now I want to use it 🤣

I forgot to mention that my barrister is called Roxanne. According to a solicitor friend there are quite a few lawyers called Roxanne!

Your name choices are fab. People will always have an opinion when it's not decided yet. Stop talking about it. Don't give them the opportunity.

If people are rude enough to be negative after baby is named, just come up with a couple of standard (but positive about the name) phrases to shut them up. 'It's her name and we love it. Don't worry, you'll get used to it.' Or something less polite if you like! And don't discuss further.

I don’t think many people would know to pronounce it “Rox-ah-na”... I think most would say “Rox-Anna”.

How could it be pronounced Roxanna if there's only one N? Would you call a banana a bananna?

Co-D or Codeee for a girl?

@helpfulperson

The song is still sung by thousands of members of the scout association.

Interesting - why does the Scout association promote a song about sex workers?

@helpfulperson

The song is still sung by thousands of members of the scout association.

What song?

I like the name Roxanne but would not use it however spelt as the sexual connotations are too strong. But I am of an age who listened to the Police and I really liked that musical with the Nicole Kidman with that song in.

Like Clementine as I have one 😁 gorgeous but don’t use it as don’t want it becoming too popular 😁 mine is secondary aged and many people teachers etc hadn’t come across it before. We pronounce the end to sound like wine. Mine is stunning and a lovely girl her teacher and several younger mums at her primary have actually used the name I can’t help but notice ...

I know a Roxanne (Rox-Ann) and it's never even occurred to me that it's linked to sex work so there's no way Roxanna would be on my radar either.

To be fair I was born in the late 80's and when I hear the song I hear Phoebe wailing over it (Sure ye can. sting said it himself "Roosss-caan" 😂) but that's not a negative thing, just how my brain is wired!

@MsTSwift

I like the name Roxanne but would not use it however spelt as the sexual connotations are too strong. But I am of an age who listened to the Police and I really liked that musical with the Nicole Kidman with that song in.

The name isn’t Roxanne, though.

I'm from Canada and have fond memories of a lovely Cody so I love that name. Roxana is also lovely. People will spell it wrong but I have a name that is chronically spelled wrong, it's really not that big of a deal.