Using the same name as an acquaintances daughter?

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Ok so she’s more than an acquaintance- she’s a friend from school who I probably see 2/3 times a year at the absolute max. More part of a wider social circle but very good friends with one of my best friends.

Her youngest daughter is called Ivy - a name I had loved for a while - before I was pregnant, before she had her 1 year old.

I’m considered other names too but I’d discounted Ivy early on because of this but now I can’t stop thinking about it.

Thoughts?

I personally wouldn’t call my child the same as my friends or acquaintance, as people would probably assume I’ve copied them and that in itself puts me off wanting my child to have the same name , but ultimately it’s your choice and you have to go for a name you feel happy with and Ivy is a beautiful name , would you consider other similar names like Isla , Isabelle or Ivory?

Use it. It’s not like she’s your sister’s child.

I think it’s absolutely fine to use it. She would perhaps feel a bit put out if she’d chosen a very unusual name, but Ivy is a popular choice now. She can’t expect to have the only Ivy. And as you see her so seldom, it will have no impact if your children have the same name.

You see her 2-3 times a year? Use it.

I have a friend I see way more than that whose DD has the same name as mine. Yes we met after having our DDs, but we just say 'your Ivy' or 'my Ivy' if we need to distinguish.

Why wouldnt you use it? Its not unusual, or made up ( like this one.... www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3029443-AIBU-Someone-has-used-my-unusual-baby-name

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/baby_names/2895722-Choose-us-a-middle-name-please )

www.heart.co.uk/lifestyle/parenting/popular-baby-names-2019/
Most popular girls' names of 2019:

1. Olivia -
2. Ivy

FLORAL NAMES FOR GIRLS
You might expect a flower company to focus on this area but the data backs them up. 2,226 baby girls were named Poppy in 2018 for example, and Bloom & Wild expect this to continue.

Head of Brand Marisa Thomas said: “Floral names such as Poppy and Lily continue to be popular names for girls, and we’re also starting to see a resurgence of older names such as Ivy and Violet.

“Also on the up are more unusual floral names like Willow. We think rarer choices like this will continue to grow in popularity over the next few years.”

BLOOM & WILD'S TOP PREDICTIONS
Bloom & Wild’s predictions for the overall top names are:

Ivy (inspired by Queen Beyoncé’s daughter, Blue Ivy)

It's fine

Use it! How often will you socialise as a family with them?

Someone I knew used my daughter’s name and I didn’t mind. It’s quite an unusual name too. We live in a small place and see them in the park. It’s fine.

I think it's ok, it's not like the children are cousins or she's your best friend.

Growing up my mother's friend had a complete sibling set with the same names as our family - that was pretty funny.

It’s fine. Use it.

Completely fine and gorgeous name. Use it. You'll regret it if you don't.

I’d use it! Absolutely lovely name.
The only thing that would put me off is if you saw them all the time, went to the same baby classes, would be in the same school etc.
I’d think it was lovely of one of my friends used my sons name x

It's so popular now I don't think it's an issue.

It’s fine, she’s not close and it’s a popular name

And a lovely one too

Ivy is pretty popular so I think it's fine. An acquaintance of mine called her dd the name I had always adored but on average only 20 are born a year so I felt that I would be accused of copying her or the very least friends would assume that.

It's fine! I was thinking of doing the same! But we thought of another name we liked more, it's good that it's quite a common name now as if it was something really out there then it might of been odd. I met someone when I started a new job and she fell pregnant a few months later, she has always wanted a little girl with my name and how I spell it, she wasnt going to change her mind just because she met me :)

So we have the same issue... one of my best friends from uni has a friend from home who has a son with the name I like. We never see my friends friend and its a top 100 name rather than being super rare so wouldn't normally bother me, except we have the same name (first and surname) and therefore our sons would also have the same name.

I know you can't help who you marry but this feels a little too much using the full name of a child I loosely know.

I see no problem with it, it's not like she's called Joyce. Ivy is a popular choice atm so you'll likely also meet many other mums with Ivys.

I think it’s fine- use it!

Your acquaintance friend can’t “own” a name and even though you see them 2/3 times a year it’s not like they’re cousins etc. I think would be a bit iffy if it was an unusual name or a first name/middle name combo but Ivy is a pretty name and is fairly popular in its own right.

It's fine. Use it. It would be different if it was a very unusual, distinct name. And it may be different if you were very close friends or family.

Use it if you like it. You barely see each other and she doesn't own the name anyway so it's entirely your choice.

If it was a really uncommon name I would go with something else perhaps, but ivy is fine. Also it's a round about compliment to her in a way, in that her kid having the name hasn't put you off it 🤣

Yeah if it was uncommon it'd be weird but Ivy is pretty common now so go for it!
One of my chickens is called Ivy :)

@Champy87

So we have the same issue... one of my best friends from uni has a friend from home who has a son with the name I like. We never see my friends friend and its a top 100 name rather than being super rare so wouldn't normally bother me, except we have the same name (first and surname) and therefore our sons would also have the same name.

I know you can't help who you marry but this feels a little too much using the full name of a child I loosely know.

I would worry.

My first name isn't exactly rare, but it's not very common either. Same with my surname & middle name.

I went to the Drs a few years ago and they had to ask my DOB as they had two of us with exactly the same first/middle/surname.

I so wanted to meet her!!