Last minute name doubts

[kellybean18]

Expecting DC2 in a week and having doubts about the name I have agreed with my DH. I have had quite a tough pregnancy and we chose it quite early on, so I don’t know if it’s just taken on those associations.

I’m now leaning towards a name I’ve always loved instead. DH is reluctant to change it.

Any advice on this much appreciated.

Wait until they are born and decide then. They may not look like name 1 or 2

@LittleBearPad would I be unreasonable to try and put my foot down if DH is really against changing it?

The ridiculous thing is baby isn’t here yet so I’ve tried making the point it’s not really a ‘change’. I’ve suggested keeping it as a middle as well :/

It’s not concrete until registered?
My little boy was going to be jack. Looked nothing like a jack and was nameless for a week!

We changed our minds late on. We were stuck on a name all the way through pregnancy, and then when she was born we just thought she suited another name (that we’d discussed early days) better so we switched to that.

It’s fine to change your mind. Your husband can’t unilaterally decide the baby’s name at this point any more than he could have chosen it by himself earlier. It’s not a legally binding contract set in stone for all eternity. If you no longer like the name then you need to find another one that you both like.

@IWantT0BreakFree thank you this is what I have needed to hear. We made the mistake of telling close family as well but I don’t want that being the reason we stick with something so permanent.

Neither of mine are called what we thought they would be.

Is he usually so inflexible.

You’re the one giving birth and going through it all - milk it for all it’s worth, including naming rights!

Question I always ask - is the baby going to have his surname / is your family name from his side of the family (ie you took his too?)

If so - you get the casting vote. That's it.

Change it, really. Or rather, just don't agree to keeping with the old one and find a new name.

If you are willing to post the names, you'll get some very honest answers on how both are perceived, if that might help.

@LittleBearPad I think it’s more that the name conversations got exhausting. Essentially we have quite different tastes and ideas and I think we were just so relieved to find something we both ‘liked’ but I’m not sure either of us love it if that makes sense.

I feel like it could be a meaningful middle name now since we referred to her as that for so long. I just have had such a crap few months and I don’t want it to be a lasting reminder of that I guess...

OP, really sounds like you need to post the name, post names you like and the style your H likes, and let folk here possibly give you some option ideas.

I never understand why people get so fixated on a name before child is born. Honestly, wait, have a look at her and then you'll see what we mean!
Even worse is looking back at baby name books and lists on baby 2 and seeing what you thought about for baby 1. I remember telling DH 'omg, what were we thinking!!!! At least I can blame hormones!' With baby 3, we actually road tested some of the names on kids 1 and 2. One of my faves got rejected by DH because Kids couldn't say it. 'Hugh' Who? No, Hugh, you know hoooyou' 'who hoowooo.'

You don't have to excuse the fact that you longer love the name. You don't and that's that. You have to find a name that works for both of you. And, really, the final say is yours.

Just be careful with names, I have one folk used to get wrong frequently.
Try and get it to match your surname

@FizzyGreenWater

Delilah
Willow
Jasmine

These are the contenders, I don’t really want to throw in more ideas at this stage...

Willow from those. Classic enough but unusual enough.

Delilah is a bit trendy at the moment and jasmine is just not in the same league as the others.

@dalrympy that’s really helpful thank you! :)

I agree Willow is nicest. Jasmine is a bit dated now and Delilah is ok but would need to be loved by both, think it's quite marmite and she'd have to put up with the song reference forever

@custardbear can I ask which song you mean? I know there are 2. One is a song I love, the other... not so much aha.

Wow LOVE all those three names @kellybean18
My favourite is Delilah as that's one of my favourite names ever (next generation wont have heard of these songs, Infact I'm in my 30s and I've had to google to remind myself)
Second favourite: Willow and Jasmine equally - both beautiful names!

Willow is actually ranked 20 currently in the charts so is more popular than you would think. I like Delilah, it’s more of a ‘marmite’ name but it’s definitely my favourite from your list.

They're all lovely. I'd choose Jasmine. The song would make Delilah unusable for me (fine as a middle name) although I love it.

My vote goes for Delilah then Willow and not Jasmine.

I'm not keen on Jasmine but love Willow. I like Delilah too.

I vote Delilah. Willow's okay, pretty but becoming too popular. Jasmine isn't nice IMO.

Not to my taste but I would go with Delilah.