Help! Baby arriving Tuesday and we have no name 😬

[Itsgottobethisone]

My choice is
Stanley

My partner wants
Seth

We can’t agree 😢

I’m thinking
Stanley Atticus
Stanley Gabriel
Stanley Seth
He’s thinking
Seth And won’t bloody budge!
Is 2 names beginning with S an issue.? One being the middle name so wouldn’t be used much at all. Or do I agree to call the baby Seth (which I don’t not like, I just love Stanley) and use Stanley as a middle name that I can then use if I want to.
I hate the thought of baby arriving and then not been given a name but we haven’t been able to agree for over 4 months so I can’t see it happening by Tuesday!

We have gone through thousands of other names but partner is Insistent it’s Seth (or he’d like to use his name but our other son has that as a middle name so I’m not keen)

Help

Seth Stanley or Stanley Seth would be great. I wouldn't worry about the repeated S.

99.9% of the time, first name only is used anyway. It's more important to have a middle name you like (incase he decides when old enough to go by that name instead), rather than one which flows

Not Stanley. There are loads about now. It's going to get bigger over the next few years.

There’s no rush. You don’t have to decide until well after your baby arrives. I know that’s not conventional but you really don’t. My best friend didn’t announce her first child’s name for 6 weeks as they couldn’t agree and didn’t have to register it until then, so they took their time and told everyone to be patient. With her second it was the same. Now, 9 years later, no one cares. Take your time and don’t feel pressured into a name you aren’t keen on.

They are both great names. Personally I love Seth but it does seem to get a marmite reaction from people....

I like both! Maybe choose a different name so neither of you gets upset..

I prefer Seth, but don't mind Stanley.

How about Sidney or Saul?

I think Seth Stanley Surname would work absolutely fine, and is better for some reason than Stanley Seth.

I love the name Stanley, it was on my list, sadly but understandably vetoed by OH (and my family!) as it was the name of an iconic family pet.
Seth reminds me of Cold Comfort Farm, which is no bad thing...

See how you feel once he's born, there's no rush. We had a shortlist but when he was born I wasn't feeling any of them. He was unnamed for a week or 2 until we decided on a brand new name we both loved.

My friends waited until they were driving to the registry office on the last possible day (day 40?) to name their son. It was a really boring name in the end, I couldn't work out what had taken them so long!

@Thunderbolted it might have been a boring name to you but obviously not to them! Just because a name is common doesn't mean less thought, love or care has gone into it. I know plenty of people choosing between very different names- one friend was picking between "Emily" and "Delphine" and many other obscure names - took them ages to eventually settle on Emily x

Very true @whatsyourflava. I think it was knowing these friends I was expecting something a bit more out there. I think the name they chose was the number 1 that year (and many other years).

I love Stanley! Not a fan of Seth although I know one so it's grown on me over the last few years.

I like Stanley, not keen on Seth.

I would drop both Stanley and Seth (and DH's name) and try and find something new which you can both agree on.

Biblical names like Seth and Gabriel:
Ethan
Reuben
Jacob
Joseph
James
Amos
Asa
Asher
Noah
Michael
Raphael
Jonah
Josiah
Nathaniel

Names like Stanley:
Walter
Arthur
Reginald
Wilfred
Vincent
Terrence

At least birth registrations are delayed at the moment so you have longer to choose than usual

I like Stanley more too op. Fingers crossed he will do what a friends husband did having watched her birth the baby and be so grateful and in awe he conceded to her choice of name 👍😁

Caleb is another nice biblical name I associate with Seth

Yes see what you mean @Thunderbolted ❤️

I absolutely love Stanley! It's what dd would have been called if she was a boy and 5 years on I still love it. I haven't met another one and although it's popularity has grown I don't think it will ever be uber popular. Seth is nice too, but seems a bit more trendy to me.
I can totally emphasise with your frustration about agreeing. My dh was the same, he was fixated on one name and wouldn't really discuss others. We went for it in the end and in hindsight I wish we had just waited, I don't know why I felt the need for baby to have a name straight away and I do think if we'd waited a day or so after the birth we would probably have had a more effective discussion. She suits her name, but I always wonder "what if she was..."

Fwiw when we had our twins dp was fixated on a girls name I wasn't mad about, didn't dislike, was just indifferent to. We did name one twin his choice and it's really grown on me, I love it as much as the other twins name which was my choice and longstanding favourite name ever.

Seth Stanley.

Unless your surname sounds like it might be a ship...

Stanley will date terribly as an 'early 21st century old man chic' name. Also not keen on it at all, personally. I like Seth better but not hugely so,. Gabriel's quite nice - classic and international and suits all ages.

I'm not keen on either but I do think wait until you meet the baby if you are not sure. Or start again. Have a look through some online lists and rule out ones you don't like together.

I really like Stanley

Seth is my favourite boys name but OH vetoed it☹️ We went with Jude.

I don’t like Stanley, not sure why as I like the old name trend. I think Seth Stanley sounds fine. If you can’t pick between them then I would say find a third more neutral name that you both agree on.

Going against the grain here but I really dont like them together! Probably because I dislike Stanley.
I agree with what other pps have said. If you cannot agree, neither get their first choice. Otherwise you could end up resenting the other and wanting the name changed anyway.

Who's going to push him out? I think you win , both lovely names

Stanley is fucking AWFUL. Really awful.

Seth is sweet.