Using DH’s middle name as first name for upcoming DS

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Is this seen as weird or perfectly acceptable? We both like this name and do think it would work. Thanks

I think it's fine, only weird if the dad's first name is used as first name for baby.

I was going to be called my dad’s middle name, if I’d been a boy (although I haven’t actually got my mum’s middle name). I think it’s fine and quite nice to have a family reason for the name.

I think it's fine too

It’s perfectly fine OP

We’ve done that. Go for it!

It's fine. What matters is that you both like it.

Who would even know what the father's middle name is apart from you two and his parents?!

I know a few examples. It’s fine!

Not weird at all.

It used to be not uncommon to have dad's first name for eldest boy and mum's first name for eldest girl. My aunty's family were like this they had John and young John. Mary and young Mary. It used to be very common to hand down family names including a middle name. In previous generations of my Dad's family the mother's unmarried surname was passed on as a middle name to one girl or boy in the family but they were generally quite suitable. My Mum's surname wouldn't have been.

My DH has his Dad’s name but swapped around so if one is John Richard the other would be Richard John.

Totally normal. I'd do it but I don't like his middle name so I'm not

It's fine, fairly normal

@Hushabusha quite a lot of people know it’s his middle name actually, people in our family and his friend circles must have a very good memory 😂

@CaptainMyCaptain interesting, I think most first/middle names in our family were just drawn up out of thin air and not really tied to any other family member tbh.

Is it your DH who wanted this?

Why not give your DS his very own name?

@IckleBear I would agree with that - it would just be very confusing to most people imo.

@lemmathelemmin if you read the post we both like the name, so it doesn’t really matter who came up with it - although to answer your question, it was his suggestion.

I personally don’t see it as a problem using DH’s middle name, I think it’s only a problem if the first name gets passed over. But I was interested to find out how other people might perceive this if you get me?

My brother had my dad’s first name as a middle name. It was fine.

My husband is First name Middle name the 4th, his son is the 5th and his grandson the 6th. Which is strange, needless to say it would be entirely normal in the US.

DSS has DH's first name as his middle name, it's fine.

Why not give your DS his very own name?

But

If you like the middle name I think its nice to do this.

@MargotB7 to answer the question - pretty much as you stated below, it’s like the name has some kind of meaning to it for us if you get my meaning ?

We did. Dh middle name is after his grandpa. It is also a fine sort of name. Ds has my dads name as a middle name ( also happens to be dh dads middle name we couldn’t bring ourselves to use his 1st name 😂😱). Sisters son has a variety of dads name as a 1st name. Her husband didn’t get on with his family 😂

I think this is fine. It better be, because DH and I have my own middle name on the top of a list for a future daughter! Not because it's a family name (it wasn't originally, my mum chose it because she liked it), but we just really love it.

I do admit to having some weird feelings about it (would it be like letting my mum name my baby, retroactively? lol) so I'm not 100% sure we'll go for it if we're lucky enough to have a baby, but I don't think anybody else would think it was odd.

My DS first name is my DH middle name, which is also my grandads and FIL middle name too