Using DH’s middle name as first name for upcoming DS

[Alice12041994]

Is this seen as weird or perfectly acceptable? We both like this name and do think it would work. Thanks

I write out wedding certificates as part of my job, and it’s very common for boys, much less so for girls.

Both my DSs have one of their grandfather’s names as a middle name (not the same name, that would be weird). DS1 has my father’s first name as his middle name and DS2 has DH’s father’s name as his. I thought this was pretty common tbh.

I've taught 3 siblings who's names all connected. For example -
Eldest called AB , next was called BC and the youngest called CD . I thought it was a lovely idea x

I suppose a downside is that if DH is John Andrew Smith
and DS is Andrew Smith, you might want to have a say in DS's middle name - maybe your maiden name or a name you like from your side of the family.

@MikeUniformMike I see what you mean - I was thinking of using my late grandfathers name as the middle (haven’t suggested this to DH yet), not sure if that would be unusual or not 🤷‍♀️

DS is. Accidentally to be fair. DD who was 3.5 when he was born was absolutely adamant she wanted to name her brother a particular name. Which happened to be DH middle name and one I liked (and suits him)

That's really nice, @Alice12041994. Might depend on your grandfather's name though.

Just make sure you think through having to name any more children. It happened in my family that some children were given middle names that were clearly "family" names and then one wasn't. Can you imagine how hurt that one felt?

Is it just going to be your Dh's family name represented? What about anything for yours? Just things to think about. Not just from the outside but also the children who have been given these names.

Why not? Nice idea.

We have done this.

Husbands grandad was called Richard
Husband is called John Richard
Our son is called Richard Ian.

(All random names used)

We chose to do this, not because it's husband's middle name, but because our son was named after both of our Grandad's with Ian being my Grandad's name.

@MikeUniformMike grandfathers name was Francis (he went by Frank though) and then DH’s middle name is Alexander. I also think Alexander Francis flows quite nicely too.

DS2 has same first name as DH middle name. It’s lovely. No one uses middle names anyway and when they are older and find out their Dad's middle name is their name, it's nice

@EnidsCrochetCorner that’s absolutely a fair point you made - although we don’t plan on having anymore children tbh, just the one. And yes we both agree on using my grandfathers name for the middle (Francis). And DH’s middle name is Alexander, and I think Alexander Francis has a nice flow to it. I’m pretty sure DH is the only one with Alexander in his name out of the family from what I can gather, so it’s not really a “family name” as such tbh.

@gluteustothemaximus agree with you. It’s quite a nice name too so it would seem a shame if it just didn’t get used in the family because it was previously someone’s middle name if you get me.

It's fine any family names are traditional And sweet, I'm considering my dad's for a first name or his first name for a middle name x

@Alice12041994 lovely name you have chosen for your son. The "family" name bit I meant is where it has even just been used once but you can still see where it came from.

Dh doesn't have a middle name. Neither does his Dad or his Grandad. My Mum is from a large family, they "ran out" of middle names by the time she was born so all her siblings have middle names and she doesn't. She always said she was too poor to have one and made light of it but I could tell it irked her.

Not weird at all, go for it X