Is it naff to call a baby boy my surname

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For example names like Christie, Nichol, Miller, Walker, Ellis are originally surnames and I know men with these names.

But would it be naff to call baby my maiden name? (Not one of the above).

Baby will take my DH’s surname.

I think it's fine if you just coincidentally love that name more than any other.

I think it's naff if it's some sort of nod to you i.e. his whole name would be your surname and your partner's surname. He deserves to have his own name too. So maybe your surname as a middle name?

What's the name??

It’s a nice name.

Don’t really want to out myself by saying what the name is sorry.

Give him is own identity

I would use it as a middle name

PS it’s not really meant as a nod to me, it’s a family name obviously. Lots of people use family names in honour of grandparents etc, what’s the difference.

My aunt’s son has her maiden name. I think you should do what makes you happy

I think it could be great as a middle name.

We will use it as a middle name whether it’s a boy or a girl I expect but we do like the name and we are struggling to come up with much we both like, hence me wondering about using it as a first name. Lots of children are named after relatives.

Personally I would just use it as a middle name, but I do know a couple (not married so different surnames) who called there baby the mothers surname as their first name and their surname their fathers surname, a few people found it odd as did I (personal opinion) and it was an uncommon name but each to their own, I wouldn't though.

But you sound very keen to use it despite people's opinions that you asked for, so just go for it, it doesn't really matter what other people think.

It used to be common for boys to take their mother's maiden name as a middle name. My grandfather had Baker as a middle name. It's a great idea! Personally though I wouldn't want to have a different surname to my children. I like the feeling of a family unit. Why give them a surname that you don't want? You are distancing them from you imo

Traditionally very common to do this in Scotland.

My friend did this she lives in the states though where surnames as first names are more common and they call him a short form of it.
Wouldn't work with my surname though. It is a nice idea depending on what the name actually is

I know 2 people that did this. I think it’s lovely and a way to keep the name in the family. Mine would not have worked!

Why not keep your name as you’re so keen on it, and give your baby his own first name and your surname?

Lots of names work for this

Baxter
Campbell
Mackenzie

I’m not giving him a different surname from me though - I use my husbands name.

I am interested in people’s opinions - but I though people might think it a bit odd or naff. I find the comments about identity surprising as many many people are named after relatives, albeit their first names, as that is thought of as fine.

I use my maiden name at work, and my husbands name more generally. So I do a bit of both.

My cousin has my aunt’s maiden name as his first name. I really like it. It was my maiden name too so maybe I’m biased though... I do regret not giving my DD my maiden name as a middle name though.

@st3tut0y3r having a different surname to your kids doesn't make them any less of a family unit and it's definitely not "distancing" yourself from them.

It's a choice about your own identity, piss all to do with the relationship to the child 🙄

I used my mums maiden name as my sons middle name, ideally it sounded ‘cuter’ as a girls middle name but it works for him too. It didn’t really work as a first name but if it had I would use it. I’ve always loved it and wished it was my surname so wanted to get it in somewhere,

'I find the comments about identity surprising as many many people are named after relatives, albeit their first names, as that is thought of as fine.'

I don't like that either. He's going to his own person, not a living memorial to 'the family' or some relative. He should have his own name. That's just my opinion (that you asked for).

But ultimately as pp said, do what you want!

Also my first name is my deceased grandmas name, and we shared the same surname. Neither of us had/have a middle name so I literally have the exact same name she did. I never met her but my dad persuaded my mum to use it as a homage. I love the name but do sometimes wonder whether my grandad likes saying it all the time still.

I think its a nice idea!