Is this too much

[csmw]

After further debate we have finally decided on a name for DD2 due in in March.

Darcey.....DH would like to call her Darcey-Rose which is lovely but we had already decided on the middle name Jane after MIL. Her name wasn't due to have a hyphen as tbh I dont think people use them that much, they just use the 1st part.

I have suggested Darcey-Jane but DH likes Rose.

So do you think Darcey-Rose Jane Surname is too much?

Oh please don't have the hyphen.

It's SO NAFF.

And odds are that she'll just call herself Darcey (which is a perfectly nice name) the second she's able to.

What a shame - perfectly nice Darcey turned into something sickly sweet, silly and naff as hell by that simply little '-' !!!

I hate hyphenated first names with a passion. Like others have said it screams chav to me. Just call her Darcey and have Rose and Jane as middle names.

My niece is hyphen first name and is only used very rarely, mostly just gets the first part and doesn't have a middle name at all.

I'm not keen on Darcey but she's not my baby. I like Jane. Rose is a bit of a filler middle name but it's popular because it's nice.

I don't like double-barrelled first names.

Could I suggest Primrose as a first name?

Here we go again with the hatred for hyphenated first names. So so rude all of you. Do you not stop to think how those of us with such names will feel about your rude comments?

It’s the baby name board, where people are invited to give opinions about, you know, baby names.

Darcey-Jane could be shortened to DJ which is quite cool

I don't have a hatred of hyphenated names, but I'm not keen on them.
Anne-Marie and Sarah-Jane were the popular ones in my age group.

Not many people use the whole first name, and usually the names are much nicer on their own or the second part is a very popular middle name anyway.

Carol Ann Duffy and Sarah Jessica Parker are known as Carol Ann and Sarah Jessica, not as Carol and Sarah.

People are pointing out facts.
A hyphenated name is not a first name and middle name, it is one name.
If you use Jane or Rose as middle names you can call her Darcey Jane or whatever.
If you use a hyphen then legally you are calling the child Darcey-Rose as a first name.
There us no need for posters to get pissy when the legal facts are pointed out.

Have you ever heard of the YouTuber Louise Pentland? Her daughter is called Darcy Jane Pentland 🙈

Like the names, but I HATE double barrelled first names. I really don't see the point in them. Your daughter's friends/teachers/colleagues as an adult will just call her Darcey, so the second name might as well just be a middle name. Rose and Jane are both pretty 😊

Yeh my long standing hatred of hyphenated names just stems from the arrogance of it. When one name is enough for 99% of the population, why decide that your child is so YouNiQuE they need two names meshed together that’s just going to be awkward for everyone!

I KNOW this is my issue and very snobby of me! I would say that many snobs amongst us consider the use of hyphenated names very downmarket. I wouldn’t expect to see them on Made in Chelsea for example.

Please no one shout at me as I KNOW I shouldn’t think these thoughts!!

@csmw by the way I think both Darcey or Aubrey are lovely !! Don’t let family put you off Aubrey if you still love it - I bet they’d get used to it after a few days and end up loving it (speaking from experience)

Darcey Jane Rose is fine. No hyphen. The Jane and the Rose can both be middle names. I have two middle names after both of my grandmothers. My DD has two middle names as well.

going against the grain here but my DD has a hyphenated name and it is next shortened she is always her full hyphenated name

Well this caused a bit of a debate Haha. Thank you for all your comments.

I certainly don't think having the hyphen makes the name, chavy, down market etc it's not like we are calling her Mercedes-Chardonay 🙈 and if DH loves it I don't see the huge issue. However I probably will just end up calling her Darcey and assume most others will.

I'm just concerned all together it's a huge mouthful. I have 2 middle names myself and tbh over the years they have just been lost.

Drop the hyphen and it will be fine, not a mouthful as they are short middle names.

It's interesting though because 60 years ago lots of middle class girls had hyphenated names:

Sarah-Jane (SJ)
Emma-Jane (EJ)
Mary-Anne
Mary-Jane
Sally-Anne
Marie-Louise

Only in recent times did the habit of hyphenating names become sneered at.

I think I'd be minded to drop the hyphen as moving forward that gives your dd more choice.

I’d do Darcey Rose Jane Surname

No hyphens.

Aubrey or Darcey were his choices.

He is a fan or surnames for girls names?!

I certainly don't think having the hyphen makes the name, chavy, down market etc it's not like we are calling her Mercedes-Chardonay

Well, the thing is that I'm afraid that is the general perception. It's the unnecessary frilliness, the silliness of it - it sounds over the top in exactly the same way that maybe a Chardonnay does.

The chances are too that your DH will regret it I think - give him a couple of years of calling for Darcey-Rose in the playground and feeling like Mrs Bucket and he'll wish he hadn't.

The really obvious solution here is to just not hyphenate. Have Darcey Rose Jane. Your DH can still call her Darcey Rose, but she won't be stuck with a frankly silly, fussy name she HAS to fill in on every official form for the rest of her life because her legal first name will be Darcey-Rose.

Completely agree with @FizzyGreenWater

I also agree with fgw (forgive shortening that name!).
Not fond of hyphens.
Hyphens render some names less attractive to me and Darcey is definitely in that category - for me.
I agree simply use middle names and then there is choice.
Just need to make sure that whatever is on birth certificate is then what is used for all official things or it can become complicated later.
Congrats and good luck op.

Yes sorry I agree with @FizzyGreenWater too. I also think it’s maybe the frillyness of hyphenated names that mean many people nowadays will see them as downmarket.
In a similar way there was a Sîaneese this year on love island and she was asked about her name on the show and said “well my mum loved sian but wanted a more feminine name so added an accent and a random bit of frill on the end” 😳
She seemed like a lovely girl. The whole of Twitter was calling her “sians niece” and making fun of her name tho. Poor lady.
I know this scenario isn’t the same but I suppose it’s the snobbery around adding unnecessary hyphenated ”frill” to a nice classic name

Joining names is even worse than hyphens.

Sarah Jane is fine, Sarah-Jane a bit naff and Sarahjane a lot naff.

I'm of an age group where you get the occasional Jo-Anne, Lee-Anne or Jo-Dee.

I agree with @FizzyGreenWater, too. The perception that hyphenated names are 'downmarket' and unnecessarily frilly is pretty widespread, and I assume you posted on here to get that kind of feedback on your choice?

Darcey as a stand alone name is far nicer than Darcey hyphenated with anything else.

My sons names Aaron-jay and his middle names Michael and then his last name and I always use his full name

I'm not sure how this has turned into a debate just on hyphens as that really wasn't where I was going with my original comment it was more about the length and mouthful of the name as with the 1st name being hyphenated adding a middle seems a bit much to me. Even if we take the hyphen out I'm not sure it completely flows.

Again personally I don't see hyphenated names are downmarket, frilly, overly pretty etc etc. People are entitled to their opinions whether I agree or not.

I think given what people are currently naming children I would rather a hypehen than a colour, name of vehicle or TV character from some fantasy drama 🙈.