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Name change

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Ironman140 · 21/02/2020 11:39

Has anybody or would anybody change their babies name at 3 months old? I'm really regretting my daughter's name, I have mentioned it to my partner a couple of time, he's not impressed that I want to change it but will if it's really bothering me. Am I being ridiculous? I do feel I will be happier if we change it or should o just suck it up and regret it in silence?

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Whatsyourflava · 21/02/2020 11:49

Could you tell us the name and explain what you don’t like about it?
Is there another name you have chosen as a replacement and what does your partner think of that name

Mrstraditional · 21/02/2020 11:52

I think name regret is actually quite common as it's a big decision. However, most of the time the regret is temporary while you get used to it.

It maybe best to set a deadline of a month or two and see how you feel about changing it then as you may grow to love it in that time.

What is the reason you want to change it? Too common/too unusual/not choosing the name you really wanted in the first place?

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Ironman140 · 21/02/2020 11:56

Ok so my daughter is called Naomi, basically I wish I had gave her an English name, I don't like that it spells 'I moan' backwards and worry that she will be bullied/picked on in school. I also don't like that she may be called Nay or Omi for short, I didn't really do my research. I can't help but feel that she suits the name Charlotte x

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Mrstraditional · 21/02/2020 12:00

Naomi is a lovely name and don't think anyone will bully her because how it is spelled backwards. In the nicest way possible I think you maybe over thinking it. She will probably be in a class with many children with far more unusual names tbh.

Whatsyourflava · 21/02/2020 12:02

What does your partner feel about Charlotte? @Ironman140

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Ironman140 · 21/02/2020 12:04

Thankyou that does make me feel a bit better, my partner also said I'm over thinking it. My partner would be happier keeping Naomi but doesn't dislike Charlotte x

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Whatsyourflava · 21/02/2020 12:07

Changing a babies name before 1yo is actually really easy.

I also prefer Charlotte to Naomi but if you change it you should be aware that you might then start thinking of problems with Charlotte and wish you’d stuck to the original name. Name regret can me a sign of PND or OCD as well. Just wanted to make you aware.

Try and keep calm though. Like I say, to change a name before 1yo is really easy

RubaiyatOfAnyone · 21/02/2020 12:07

It sounds like you might be feeling a bit hormonal at the monent, and that is making this bigger than it should be - fwiw, it’s a lovely name and is perfectly “English” (i know it is Hewbrew in origin but so are Abigail and Michael etc, it’s not your first thought on hearing them.) the being bullied for what her name spells backwards is a bit of a stretch, i’m pretty sure that would never come up.

BUT...if you don’t like it, you don’t need justification to change it, just do it Smile

Mlou32 · 21/02/2020 12:08

Naomi is a lovely name. I've known a couple of Naomi's and want even aware of what it spells backwards.

Astronica · 21/02/2020 12:11

It's fine to change it and people do. If this is going to hang over you as a regret and sadness then you should go ahead and do it. It sounds like you don't like Naomi much and do really like Charlotte. Take a week or two and call her Charlotte to try it out, then go ahead if you still feel the same way.

Sexnotgender · 21/02/2020 12:11

Naomi is lovely, I thought you’d picked something ludicrous like nevaeh!

I used to work with an absolutely lovely Naomi, no one called her Nay or Omi, no mention of how it read backwards.

Charlotte is lovely but really popular now.

Spied · 21/02/2020 12:12

Love Naomi. Beautiful.
I really think you are over thinking this.
Really I doubt most children would be analysing the backward spelling and in my 40 years I've never realized what it spelt backwards ( and I notice things like this usuallyGrin). Still, it wouldn't bother me.

LittlePearl · 21/02/2020 12:16

We did it.

We actually asked all our friends and family which of the two names they thought suited our son best - the one we'd originally chosen or another that I'd always loved but for complicated reasons had discounted.

Incredibly all but two said they thought he looked more like the 'new' name than the first one. So we changed it. Never looked back, never regretted the decision.

MissBridgetJones · 21/02/2020 12:16

I think it's a very pretty name.

Names will always be shortened - Charlotte (also a pretty name) will become Lottie (lovely) or Charlie... (which I dislike)!

LittlePearl · 21/02/2020 12:20

I should have said, he was 8 months old at the time. As he got older he just didn't look like the name we first chose, and looked more and more like the other name that he has now had for twenty-something years.

Sound silly but it's true.

CaffiSaliMali · 21/02/2020 12:33

Naomi is really beautiful! As is Charlotte.

Naomi hits that sweet spot of a name which is unusual enough that there won't be 5 in her class, but also well known enough that people will have heard of it.

Why don't you try calling her Charlotte for a while and see which you prefer? Also, does Naomi have a middle name you could use? If you did change to Charlotte then Charlotte Naomi is a lovely name if you wanted to keep Naomi in there as well.

hattyhatshats · 21/02/2020 12:58

I love both but I think Naomi is more unusual, I know a lot of charlottes.

I grew up with a Naomi no one ever said "I moan " at her

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 21/02/2020 13:04

Naomi is lovely. Never known anyone make fun of it.

Nicknames - you can't do anything about that. My friend called her daughter Eve as it couldn't be shortened. She spent her teenage years being called Evs.

MikeUniformMike · 21/02/2020 14:17

I'm not keen about Naomi, but have nothing against it, and it is quite different to Charlotte.
Your daughter is young enough for a name change to be fairly easy.

Nimmy March, actor, is Naomi on her BC.

Charlotte Naomi is very pretty.

Omashu · 21/02/2020 15:53

Naomi is beautiful! Not unusual but not overused like Charlotte 🙂

amazedmummy · 21/02/2020 16:03

I know a Naomi. She's a good friends younger sister. She was never picked on for her name (we were at school at the same time). She really likes her name and the only person that ever mentioned that it was I moan backwards was her sister while they were squabbling. I think it's a lovely name. Unusual but not too out there.

glitterbiscuits · 21/02/2020 16:17

Naomi is a lovely name! Classic and not 'foreign ' at all.

I have a neighbour called Naomi who is lovely and no one has ever said anything about
' I moan' at all to her. In the same way no one has ever ever tried to say my name backwards.

user1493494961 · 21/02/2020 20:45

Charlotte is much nicer, I would change it.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 21/02/2020 21:46

If you are going to change it. Do it ASAP. In a few months she'll know her name. If they're under 12 months I think you get a wh ole new BC.

Wintersun13 · 22/02/2020 00:01

There's nothing wrong with Naomi and I don't think she'd get bullied.

But I think whether you should change it really depends on why you feel this way. Do you suddenly hate Naomi, or do you just like Charlotte better ?

When you think about her name, do you think about how Naomi is a bad choice, or do you focus on how nice Charlotte sounds ?

If you suddenly hate a name you used to love, for no reason, I'd try to dig deeper and really understand the root of this sudden dislike. Otherwise you might change it only to find a reason why you hate the new name.

If you just love Charlotte, I'd go ahead and change it.

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