How did you pick your child's middle name?

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I'm a little uncertain about how to choose a middle name for our baby due this summer.
I love the name Violet which happens to be the name of one of our grandmothers but I worry (and I'm aware this is likely not going to happen at all but hello pregnancy anxiety ) that family members may be secretly offended if we use a family name from the other side of the family and not their side (call me ridiculous please but my mum can be slightly weird when it comes to stuff like this!!)
We giving our baby 2 middle names but the two we like don't really go together at all - they sound weird in either order.
Alternatively we could just go for a name we like that is not a family name but I think it's quite nice for a middle name to have some meaning to it.
Thoughts? Suggestions? How did you choose a middle name for your children? Is it odd to give 2 middle names?

My dad passed away when I was pregnant so DD got the feminine version of his name for middle name

My kids are named after relatives for their middle names. Dont especially love their middle names but wanted to honour and remember those people.
I dont esp worry about the flow bc they are rarely said or used but I am glad those names appear on official things and those people are 'part' of my kid's identity in a small way

DS1 dads name
DS2 grandads name

Two boys. DS1 has the same middle name as FILs middle name. Though when we told FIL, he said 'I hope that's not after me, I hate it'. We told him that we liked it, so tough. DH liked the idea of honouring his dad big his first name was a no from both of us (it's a dated name).
DS2, we just liked the name. His first name is a family name on my side (but that's more a coincidence, we picked it because we liked it) and the name we picked as a middle name just flowed well and looked lovely.

To answer your question about changing the spelling, you're just setting the child up to correct people for the rest of their lives.

I know a Rylee who's mother is forever correcting people. I'm sure she thought her spelling looked nicer too.

My grandad’s name is what I used.

Ds1’s middle name was easy as dh and I both have brothers with the same first name so we used it as ds1’s middle name.

Ds2’s middle name is a name I really like but it is quite a plain name and as our surname is a very, very common one it seemed too bland to use as a first name but I still love it so happy to have it as a middle.

I got talking to a woman on a bus and it was her daughter's name. (Keturah.) I liked it and remembered it when my daughter was born.

I would use Violet if you love it and it also has a family connection, OP. Good to learn to not worry too much what people think with regard to your choices and your children! The start of a long road of judgment I have heard :)
We are planning two middle names as well. One is after my grandmother and the other will be a family member from DP or one of my best friend's potentially, or my middle name. Assuming it is a girl. I feel like it is but don't know yet! If it's a boy we will do middle name after DP's brother and another one too just something we like (this is my plan anyway haha)

DD's middle name is my DH's nan's nickname. Her proper name was unusual and not to my taste, but she was known predominantly by a nickname which we both liked. As luck would have it, it's also the gem stone associated with the month DD was born!

Had one family name we could/wanted to use but only went with our second name choice. Our Ds wanted to call DD 'Flo' so we comprised and used Florence as her middle name instead

DC1 has his dads and Grandads first name as his middle name and DC2 has a different variation of it

It is my amazing step-dad's name. Also happens to be my husband's too.

My son has my dads name in his memory. This one will have my husbands mums name in her memory.

Just wanted to say LOVE the name Violet @bb2605

My son’s middle name is Jack..... after a pumpkin (jack o’lantern). There’s a strange but personal story behind it!

DS has my late Dad's name as a middle name.