How did you pick your child's middle name?

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I'm a little uncertain about how to choose a middle name for our baby due this summer.
I love the name Violet which happens to be the name of one of our grandmothers but I worry (and I'm aware this is likely not going to happen at all but hello pregnancy anxiety ) that family members may be secretly offended if we use a family name from the other side of the family and not their side (call me ridiculous please but my mum can be slightly weird when it comes to stuff like this!!)
We giving our baby 2 middle names but the two we like don't really go together at all - they sound weird in either order.
Alternatively we could just go for a name we like that is not a family name but I think it's quite nice for a middle name to have some meaning to it.
Thoughts? Suggestions? How did you choose a middle name for your children? Is it odd to give 2 middle names?

DS has the male version of my middle name and DD has the female version of DH middle name.

DD1 has my late grandmother's name.

We would've given DD2 my DH's late grandmother's name but it was too similar to the first name we fell in love with and ultimately chose, so we just gave her a middle name we both liked.

2 middle names. One is my BILs first name and the other is my maiden name.
I still use it regularly and wanted dc to have a link to it.

I have my mother's name as my middle name, and my husband has his father's name as his.

We decided not to make it difficult on ourselves, so we opted to continue the tradition and thus DD has my name as her middle name.

My eldest Is named for both my grandmothers. Her middle name is Isabel which was my maternal grandmothers middle name, her first name is my paternal grandmothers middle name, it is also my dads first name so family name. Obviously I also though they were nice names and they went well together. If she had been a boy the middle babe would have been the same as y husband and father in law....Robert

My second I just really liked the name Faith as we were going through a tough family time. I didn't want it as a first name as I knew a few as a teacher who were a bit chavvy! Her first name was from a book.

My third girl had the mn Winter. This is a family surname from my husbands family and is also one if his brother's middle names. She was due in December so it seemed fitting. If she'd been a boy it would have still been one if the middle names along with Robert.

We gave our child three middle names!
One is after her paternal great grandmother
Two is the placename she was conceived
Three is my maiden name

Our son's middle name is Joseph after my dad who died a month before he was born (he would have had the middle name Joseph even if my Dad hadn't died) but never been an issue that we didn't use any of his other Grandad's names. Just go with something you love.

DD's middle name is Emmeline. She was named after Emmeline Pankhurst as DH wanted her middle name to be taken from someone who we consider a notable historical character, a good person and role model

Ds has my grandfather's name as his middle name and dd has dh's grandmother.

In my family middle names are the norm and mostly named after family or someone close to you. Dh's family don't seem to do them so he wasn't bothered. As it happens dd middle name I wanted for a first name so I was happy it also had significance to DH family so I could still use it.

DH's middle name and as a third name one of the three wise men because he was born on Xmas day and we thought Jesus was a bit ott and when dh ventured it, I vetoed Ebeneezer

DC1 after my favourite singer
DC2 was one of the names I'd shortlisted for first name
DC3 after FIL who had died when I found out I was pregnant

My DS’s have mine and DH’s Grandad’s names and DD has my Grandma’s name. My other DD has the nickname my parents used for me as a child. It’s nothing like my name at all but it is a cool name, I like it.

My eldest 2 have 2 middle names. We are expecting DC3 and if it’s a girl Violet is a front runner. Gorgeous name.

Couldn’t you use violet as a first name and then one of the middle names from the other side of the family?

Dd1 is named after the town DH and I met which also happens to be my grandmothers middle name as well.

Dd2 is named after my late sister

Dd3 is named after me

Scunthorpe is a dreadful name for a child...

We decided that girls would get my last name and boys would get DH’s. Then the middle names would come from the other side. We had a Dd so she got my last name and for the middle we used the same middle name Dh’s family has given every boy for generations.

They are both family names. One happened to be a family name on both sides and the other is on my husband’s side.

Both are family names for us - DS1's middle name is his uncle's (partly to honor him and partly because we loved the name anyway and it went super well with his first name), and DS2's middle name is my Grandfather's last name (Mum's maiden name), which we were lucky is also a first name.

I picked them based on a mix of family names and names we liked but didn't like enough to be the first name. We weren't as worried about them sounding good together as not spelling out something bad. No FCK or SHT, DUMB, FAT, etc.

Easy for us.

Nasty, vile, passive aggressive & controlling MIL ordered us to use a specific one so naturally we went for a completely opposite one.

Me, my siblings and children all have 2 middle names. It’s fine. My DC’s middle babes are

My favourite uncles name (he was very unwell when I was pg, but then lived until DS was 10), the FIL’s name.

Traditional family name that all the first girls of each generation have; the name of a place that is special to DH and I, which is also a girl’s name.

MiL maiden name for one child
My Dad’s name for the orher

@Mumma4262 we have first names that we love and DH thinks it would be weird to give a first name that's the same as a living relative (don't get me started...he has some strange views on things!!) so think we'll stick to it as a middle name but it is such a beautiful name I agree.

@Lordfrontpaw hahahaha that made me laugh out loud!

@Musttryharder21 good for you!! Honestly I'll never know what goes through some people's heads!!

Two middle names here-one from DH’s family that was special to him and one special to me. Both families delighted which was a bonus.
First name is not a family name.

We are only having one child, otherwise we would’ve done one middle name each child as a family name.

Both DD's have two middle names

Dd1 middle names are mine and dp deceased grandmothers first names, her whole name is Scarlett Millie Maureen

Dd2 middle names are mine and dp mothers first names, her whole name is Alana Stephanie susan

If we have a son his middle names will be David graham