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Agh my mum keeps suggesting baby names!

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stompstompstompyourfeet · 02/02/2020 18:04

Currently pregnant with DD2. I stupidly mentioned that we were struggling with a name.

That said, even when I was pregnant with DD1 (we didn’t find out the sex) we had two names picked for a boy and two names picked for a girl and she still kept suggesting names.

I don’t know why I’m finding it so annoying. The names she keeps picking are mainly Welsh (She isn’t Welsh she’s just obsessed with Wales ) and not my type at all.

Despite me saying to her last time we already had names picked out she still kept doing it so I don’t know I’m going to get her to stop doing it this time.

I don’t think she’s doing it to be helpful either. She’s just controlling and likes having an input

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AmelieTaylor · 02/02/2020 18:08

Tell her to write them in a notebook and that you promise you’ll have a look closer to the time, but until then you don’t want want to hear or think about names -and just give her the evil eye next time she suggests one!

MyuMe · 02/02/2020 18:08

Just smile and nod.

Sharonthetotallyinsane · 02/02/2020 18:10

People love suggesting names, and you sort of invited it. You either say what you’ve said here or smile and nod.

OwlBasket · 02/02/2020 18:10

It’s not helpful and you have to make her stop. What if she chances on the name you’ve chose as one of her suggestions? You’d then have the joyous choice of letting her think she named the baby or having to choose another name.

MissDollyMix · 02/02/2020 18:12

My MIL kept suggesting names when I was pregnant with DD. Eventually she suggested the name that we had already (secretly) picked. To this day she still thinks we picked it because she suggested it! That still narks me quietly!

Soontobe60 · 02/02/2020 18:19

You're being precious! Of course she's going to suggest names. It's not an odd thing to do!
When my DD was pregnant we all suggested names all the time. It was just something we all did. Surprisingly when baby arrived the name they chose wasn't one any of us had suggested. I think there's absolutely no harm in what she's doing.

Urkiddingright · 02/02/2020 18:26

My Mum did this too, she didn’t mean any harm but it did get rather wearing.

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stompstompstompyourfeet · 02/02/2020 18:31

@ Soontobe60 - I know there’s no harm but it’s annoying me! (I think I’m probably more narked because of her controlling tendencies)

@Sharonthetotallyinsane - I did sort of by saying we couldn’t decide on one but then again she did it first time round continuously after we said we’d already decided

@OwlBasket - thankfully there isn’t a chance of that because the names she is suggesting are very obscure which probably makes it more annoying!

@MissDollyMix - oh no 🤦‍♀️ That would really bug me as well

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Howcouldyoubelieveme · 02/02/2020 18:31

It’s perfectly normal for people to suggest names!
I had several friends and colleagues suggest loads of names to me, one colleague even sent me an email with a list of names she thought I might like. Weird but some people are really into names. Plus she’s your Mum!
I’d just let her get on with it and let it go over your head. No point getting upset by it or falling out over it.

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stompstompstompyourfeet · 02/02/2020 18:32

@Urkiddingright - I can see it bugging me more as well especially because I’m only 24 weeks!

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Istillgetjealous · 02/02/2020 18:34

It must be a bit annoying OP but honestly, she’s probably just thrilled and excited about having another grandchild

wineymummy · 02/02/2020 18:35

Worst for us was when my mum suggested the boys name we had already secretly chosen and my dad's response was "Oh no not that!" 😠
They're coming to visit this week and I'm also pregnant with DD2 and expecting to go through this again too... Luckily we already have a 95% certain name so unlikely she'll be able to beat it.

JesmondDene · 02/02/2020 18:41

Get her on the 'baby name' MN thread.
She can suggest names to her heart's content, be useful to others and take her mind off you....win, win, win!

MikeUniformMike · 02/02/2020 18:53

If she is obsessed with Wales, tell her you are calling the baby David or Sabrina, and that you don't need more suggestions.

If you have no welsh connections, i wouldn't recommend you give your child a welsh name.

El2020 · 04/02/2020 04:25

Irish naming tradition is pretty straight forward and we told close family this is what we were following. As the mn was up in the air - I had a lot of people tell me what to do. I told my friends and family to keep all their names to themselves unless I asked. It was bitchy but it worked and everyone ended up loving the full name.

Shev1996 · 04/02/2020 04:30

Let her pick them, you can ignore as much as you want afterwards. When she’s no longer with you you’ll have a happier memory of this then

mathanxiety · 04/02/2020 04:34

Haha... Mine suggested the same three names, Roberta - 'NN Bobbie', Stacey, and Verona every single time I was pg, despite a firm 'no way' from me first time round. 5 pregnancies x 3 names x let's say 7 months of suggestions each time = a lot of No Way.

Sleepyquest · 04/02/2020 04:41

I know the feeling
DH is so stubborn that if mum had suggested something we actually liked, he probably wouldn't have used it.

Bluebell9 · 04/02/2020 04:56

My MIL suggested lots of names while I was pregnant too. But it wasn't just suggesting them, I had to give her my opinion of them and she pushed until I did. We'd already decided not to tell anyone the names we were thinking of as MIL asked before I got pregnant about names and when I told her my favourite, she just pulled a face.
I think she was annoyed we wouldn't tell get but she eventually stopped when we sent her fake names that the initials spelling out swear words (surname starts with a T so we had a few!).
As it was we didn't name DD until 24 hours after she was born and it wasn't a name that had even been on our shortlist.

WardrobeJumper · 04/02/2020 06:35

She's just thrilled and excited. You're very harsh. Your poor mum.

CocoLoco87 · 04/02/2020 07:01

Just tell her you've gone with one of her names, and then when the baby comes use something different! Say you changed your mind. That way she'll stop suggesting names because she'll be too busy... buying personalised items...

ineedaholidaynow · 04/02/2020 07:13

I was going to suggest that Coco

WardrobeJumper · 04/02/2020 18:28

Cian doesn't mean ancient, it means stranger.

Charis1503 · 04/02/2020 18:40

Ditto another posters comments..... just agree to call it one of her chosen names... then when it pops out tell her it didnt suit it and you called it comething different!

My mother keeps suggesting hideous names... and then when i told her my favourite name she told me it was awful :/

hiimmumma · 04/02/2020 18:47

Mine does this too. It's so annoying.

I told her we had picked one to make her stop but now she's asking what it is! I said I'm not telling but she keeps asking and guessing.

We actually haven't picked one at all so it's becoming a bit awkward.

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