Tobias or just Toby

[blondie87]

So I’m having my third boy in a couple of months and I’m still struggling to decide on the right name! Thank you to those who have posted on previous threads. I’ve still narrowed it down to Arthur or Toby/Tobias. I really like Arthur, as does DH, but it seems to be popping up everywhere. Popularity per de doesn’t bother me but to but this extent I’m not sure!
Also, I love the name Toby but I’m unsure whether to have Tobias on the birth certificate. He will overwhelmingly go by Toby with occasional use of Tobias if we put it on BC. Does anyone with a ‘formal’ name and a ‘day to day’ name find this annoying/confusing? Is there any benefit to having the ‘proper’ name on the birth certificate? Sorry for my ramblings, it was keeping me up last night!

I love it Tobias and think it's cool to have a more formal name and also a nick name

Sorry I've had no sleep 🤦🏻‍♀️

We have a Tobias. We loved the name!

I dont like Tobias at all. If you want Toby use that

Give him the name you plan to call him. There is no point confusing the matter by naming him Tobias and calling him Toby.

I changed my name as soon as I could because I had one of the 1970's Jennifer/Jenny, Jacqueline/Jackie, Suzanne/Susie type names.

Never got called the 'long' version, always the shortened one so I am now officially the name I have always been called

I’m the same @eveshopper - always used by the shorter version of my name and am glad that’s what I was registered as. Just makes everything easy

I love both Tobias Toby and Arthur

My favourite is maybe Arthur

I really like Tobias written down but saying it out load is sounding wierd to me for some reason (just tried it out to see if it went with ds name). I think with my accent (generally rp with a bit of north london) I would end up saying "tuh-bias" as I would feel a bit conscious of sounding a bit over enunciated otherwise.

Its a really nice name but it doesnt sound right coming out of my mouth for some reason. So I would go with Toby!

We've got a Toby and before we registered him I asked my husband his thoughts on Tobias as an official name but he wasn't keen. My thoughts were that if he gets a responsible job when he's older like doctor, solicitor, prime minister (😂) etc. then Tobias might sound better, but at least he would have the choice.

We kept it as Toby as my husband didn't like Tobias, but now as a toddler who does everything at 100mph we jokingly call him Tobias in a stern voice when he's messing around getting dressed or trying to delay bedtime etc!

I'd personally 100% just go for Toby x

Love arthur Toby and Tobias

We're going with the shortened version of our boy's name as we don't like the long version. My husband has a BC name and a short version he always goes by, and he was super cross recently when his work put his full name on business cards without asking him!

Toby! Prefer it to Tobias and I really dislike Arthur, but I dont like the whole old man/old lady name trend that has been having a resurgence over the past few years.

Toby is nicer, but just to warn you that it is getting very popular round here in SE. I saw Tobias was one of the fastest-growing names in popularity in the last names list from the ONS. I say this mostly because you’re thinking of avoiding Arthur for similar reasons.
Go for it if you like it,but, if worried about it becoming super-popular, maybe go for something else?
Names that sound a bit like Toby: Joe/Joel/Rowan

Mine’s just Toby, we figured it was pointless to give him a name nobody would ever use.

Definitely Tobias, I hate diminutives as given names.

Toby on its own is enough. If you aren't ever going to use Tobias just use Toby.
I know two - one is just Toby and the other one is Tobias but always called Toby.

I like Tobias. It can always be Toby for a nickname. I just see Toby as more of a cute little boy's name whereas Tobias sounds more grown up ! Toby is very cute though.

I much prefer Toby, not keen on Tobias at all.

Tobias.

I would go for tobias, then when he is older he can choose which he prefers. Tobias is a nice name too

I have a 2 year old nephew tobias, so far he's tobes, not Toby, I have another nephew Thomas who I have never heard called anything but Thomas. I have Samuel but is always Sam. I don't think you need to worry about what it may sound like as prime minister, it's what you prefer and when they get to school they'll develop their own nickname

Toby is a name in its own right, not necessarily short for anything, so I'd just go with that on the birth certificate.

My DP is a Tobias, but gets called Toby day to day.
I think he appreciates being able to have the 'posher' version of his name as his legal name so that he can use it on things like his CV.
Also it helps him tell when he's in trouble, as that's the only time me or his mother call him Tobias.

I'd go with Tobias, because then you can use them both interchangeably.

Tobias

Then he can chose later which he is called. Love the name. Only taught one in 30 years of childcare.

Thank you for all your comments. It’s a big decision naming a person! We’re now adding William into the mix with the nn Bill as a nod to someone close to us. So it’s now:
Tobias/Toby
Arthur
William/Bill