Just a rant on baby names!

[Doozy1991]

As the title says...

We've picked a name that pays tribute to my late grandad, myself & my partner are really happy with it but so many people keep telling us we better not use an old man's name or it better not be anyone's in the family or a to "out there" name or blah blah blah 😒😒😒
His nickname will be CJ which I really like.

Why do people think they have a say on the name of the baby you're pushing out of your vagina??? 🤔🤣

I think I'm a bit touchy as I got such shit over my daughters name when she was born I ended up with PND... But still it's no one else's business right??

What's the name?

It's your baby and both of you like the name, so unless it is truly dreadful use it.

If it is something a bit dated like Colin or something use it.
Nothing against Colin, just not many of them seem to be under 50.

Well...... I'm inclined to think if this is a child you are going to love and have a lot to do with, then you do have feelings about the poor little thing being landed with some of the names on here.
How much your family discuss such things will be different for every family.

We didn't tell anyone our dcs' names before they were born and actual people.

But we didn't have a track record of giving our dc1 some "Youneeq" name to make people feel nervous.

We haven't told anyone the name and don't plan on it until he's here. I'm just so worried I'll get the same reaction as before when we do announce it, I'm 9 years older now but don't think I could cope with it again!

We need DC1's name too please.

If you are worried about the reaction, how about name changing and testing both names on here? That way you will get a chance to see if it is just your family, or if they are really off names.

I know a kid called Cyril. Not remotely a name I can imagine anyone choosing. Horrible name really. But you know what? he is just my ds friend Cyril and no-one bats an eye. Unusual names have become ordinary so I am no longer surprised by any name I hear really

BILs initials are CJ.

He had a very rude nickname growing up.

My daughters name is Delilah. At a few hours old I had messages saying she would grow up to be a whore & she will be disowned by her fathers grandparent (which she was)
So as you can understand I'm on edge over it all

CJ is a bit naff.

Hmm, tricky.
It's probably not their response that caused the PND but it certainly could have exacerbated it.
Could someone who is on your side have a word with immediate family to suggest they tone it down this time? Or go NC.

I would try it out here first and accept that people on here can be quite rude.

IRL, even popular names like Noah or Ezra will be considered ' out there ' by some people.

I would try to get as many people on your side and hope that the PND doesn't happen again.

They're being rude by butting in.

But I also think people have a point about family name and using names of relatives. They're their own person so why do they need naming after someone else. However that's neither here nor there if you like it.

Thanks for telling us DC1's name.

Delilah is lovely - it's just the biblical association that is a bit hmm.

What a horrible man.

Delilah is lovely.

CJ is naff.

Is it like Charlie John = CJ or Claude Juniper = CJ? I do think you need to be more mindful with boys to give them normal names.

The initials are his 1st and last name

Just say the name.

Someone disowned their great grandchild because they didn’t like the name? WTF? It’s a lovely name

Personally I think whatever name you choose is up to you and you alone. People will always have opinions but should have enough tact to keep them to themselves. Having said that, I have a slight issue with nicknames being chosen before the child is born, I think it’s nice for a nickname to be a bit more organic or relate to the personality of the child. A good friend of mine chose the name Johan for her son, which is nice and a nod to their Swedish heritage. But announced before the birth that we were all to call him Jolly because they were his initials and it was cute. It doesn’t suit him at all as he is quite a serious child and I have always called him Johan as it is his actual name.

I completely agree with you - my dad criticises pretty much every name I say and it annoys me so much! And my names are very common ones too. Your baby your choice!

Names go in cycles. Your grandad's name, old-fashioned now, could be due for a come-back and then you'll be ahead of the trend.

Colin?

Delilah is gorgeous 😍

Fuck anyone who is rude about your child's name! Disowning because of a name? That's not someone you need to appease.

Good lord your family sound horrendous.

Know this: this is ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with names. This is about a group of absolute horrors thinking they can insult you and tell you what to do and have no comeback at all.

No decent family would treat you like that.

They are seriously not worth having in your lives, so if I were you I would stop thinking about it.

Name your baby exactly what you like and announce it by text. Tell your partner to vet replies and to let them all know that any abusive responses will be deleted, blocked and the senders won't be welcome to visit the baby and not to expect to hear from you again.

Oh and Delilah is lovely.

Delilah is lovely.
I know a Colin who is 12 and he is lovely.