Initials BJ - is this worth worrying about?

[MakeLemonade]

I’m keen on a name combo that would give overall initials of BJT. Struggling to find anything else we like but not sure if we should avoid the first two letters being a BJ combination.

I can’t think of the last time I had to use or tell anyone my middle initials in that type of format but aware there might be things I haven’t thought of.

The middle name has a family tie so I really want to use it and DH and I can’t agree on any other first name we like!

Personally I would avoid that combination. It’s almost guaranteed that they’ll get teased about it.

I'd avoid too.

Whatever you think of his politics, it doesn’t seem to have done Boris Johnson any harm.

I knew a guy names Ben Jordan all through primary and high school and it never got mentioned. I've only just noticed those were his initials now. You might however call him another name and he could get picked on for something else entirely. I wouldn't worry.

Chose a second middle name to split the B and J if you can?

Balonce Philip James Taylor

The initials will be BT though. I think initials are getting more used in this digital age. For email addresses and so on.

*Balonz

My son's initials are BJS and I hadn't realised at the time what it would look like! Apart from his naive grandma initially suggesting his nickname was BJ (which was immediately rules out for that reason!) he's had no trouble.

It's never ever been mentioned at school.

I mean... it’s a middle name. I wouldn’t worry.

Yes that was my thinking too, I would probably be more inclined to avoid if it was first name/surname initials but when do you use your first and middle alone? As you say, normally a login or email would be BT or BJT.

I’m also not sure it’s commonly used slang anymore either?

Second middle name is a possibility, my eldest has two middle names but we only gave DC2 one middle name as it just worked really well. Don’t want middle child to feel short changed on the naming front so planned to stick with one middle name for this one too. And can’t actually think of any other names we like but I could potentially try some other combos.

There was a girl at my school whose initials for first and middle name were BJ. She was super popular, really lovely. She got some gentle teasing from her friends but because she was so relaxed and easy going it was never mean, just affectionate teasing from mates. No one outside of her friendship circle ever mentioned it.

Years ago I taught a BJ...as in that was his name. He was built like a brick shit house with a bit of a temper and I can guarantee that no kids ever took the piss. I actually think they just accepted it as nothing unusual.

You're right to check but this is fine

I know someone who was teased relentlessly for BJ. Why would you risk it? It’s hard enough being a child.

Oh no!

See how well it worked out for Boris Johnson.

I would avoid. If you’ve thought of it kids will too.

Was it their first/middle name or full initials @AverageMummy?

I’m just trying to work it if there is a real risk, as in, my eldest is at secondary school and nobody knows her middle names and wouldn’t unless she proactively told them - she doesn’t know any of her friends middle names/initials so trying to work out if that’s typical or not.

If we had any other options we could agree on I obviously would be trying to make something else work. My other option is just pick a name I don’t like very much.

I went to school with a Bridget Jane. She got mercilessly teased. It was horrible. Her last name begin with an S which probably didn't help.
I'd avoid it.

Yes! It is worth worrying about. Normally I say no to these things but I really think BJ is definitely a problem. Would definitely be picked up on and made fun of at school (and to be honest, possibly even after school!) Could you just change the middle name?

I don't think it would occur to many people. My husband has the first and middle initials of RC (Arsey) and only i have ever noticed and teased him about it. If you love the names, just use them.

We had the same concern but they were the names we wanted in that exact order so we went for it. Nobody has mentioned it so far. Hopefully it won't be an issue but I don't think kids get teased for their names as much now as they might have in the past

Does anyone even use the term "BJ" anymore?!

I personally wouldn’t worry at all about this

If a child is going to get teased then people will find something to tease them about sadly

A girl at my school had the surname Pratt and nothing was ever said. Another with surname Plonk. Nothing said

Yet this poor girl that was picked on was called the normal name of “Abi” and everyone kept calling her “Abi National Bank”. Another girl called Wendy kept getting teased “Wendy house”.

I used to teach R Sole and Summer Holliday. They both had the piss mercilessly ripped out of them.

If it's only the middle name initial then I honestly wouldn't worry about it.
People don't generally go around telling others what their middle name is, so I really don't think it's an issue.