2 family names repeated by cousin... weird?

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Hi,
my dp’s cousin has announced the birth of his 2nd child, and he has used the same name as our ds for his new baby. Their first child has the same name as dp’s ex wife. It’s a male cousin so same surname.

I think this is weird. We don’t see that much of them; closer to the older generation, so I guess we are just not on their horizon.

I would never use a recently used name by someone in the family; I avoided a name given to my nephew, and another cousin avoided our ds’s Name recently too.
What do you think?
Weird or not weird?

I think it’s great they chose names they liked, and weren’t influenced by other people’s opinions. I’m sure they weren’t deliberately copying, they just liked the names

I don't see a problem. Dh and ds middle name is the same as FIL and dgs first name. Several nephews also have the same middle name. It's a name that we all love but is unusual in this area. Never been a problem.

Don't be daft.

My son and two cousins' children have same forename. Two others have daughters with the same name. So what? If you get together all the time you can call them, eg, Jake1, Jake2, Jake 3. However you say you don't see them very often anyway therefore it hardly matters.

I know two brothers, who were always very close. The oldest named his son Leon. Then the brother had a boy and named him Leo.

I thought it was weird. But the wives absolutely hate each other! 😂 So I imagine there was some sort of weird dynamic at play.

I'm trying to figure this out.

OP's DH (Mr. Snogshopper) was previously married to Melinda.
OP & her DH have a son (Thadeous Snogshopper).

the DH has a cousin (another Mr. Snogshopper) who called his kids Melinda & Thadeous.

I have 30 first cousins & have barely met some of them. Meh. Not interesting enough for me.

apologies for being Too boring for some of you; no need to post if you find it so tedious

Interesting however for me to know that the feeling is split over if it’s weird, with plenty of families out there who have multiple members with the same name.
This family hasn’t repeated names much however, so it does seem odd to me for now.

No repeated names in my family that I know of but I still don’t think it’s weird.

Not weird, imo. We called our DS a very well-known name, but one which is very rarely used for babies at the moment; it was his grandfather's name.

A few months later, DH's cousin's wife, whom I'd not met (DH has an enormous, geographically widespread, family) had a DS and they used the same name. They would have known about our DS, so that's almost certainly what gave them the idea, as they don't have the same family connection with the name. DH and I were flattered.

My Mum was one of nine - I have many cousins. In Scotland, where we're from, many girls are called Margaret. Can't imagine anyone claiming ownership over it or any other name...it's straightforward to differentiate.

#YourMargaret #OorMargaret #BigMargaret #WeeMargaret #TheirMargaret

Pretty sure no one else has agreed that using the same name as a distant relative’s ex is weird

It depends on the name.

If it's something like Jack or Olivia than it isn't weird (though I personally wouldn't do it) but if it is something unusual then it is a bit weird.

I think it really depends what kind of family you are - one that sees each other regularly, is in each other’s lives etc, or a more distant one. You say the wife may not have even known it was your DH’s ex’s name?
I don’t really see my cousins anymore now we are adults. My children will never know my cousin’s children. It wouldn’t be weird to me. Equally, I know some people that live near a lot of distant family like that and would still feature in each other’s lives.